Your physical state isn’t just about fitness – it’s the foundation for everything else. Taking care of your body is the ultimate hack for mental clarity and emotional resilience. We break down simple, effective ways to reset – think grounding, breathwork, and yes, even a spontaneous dance party. If you’ve been feeling stuck, sluggish, or just off, this one’s for you. Let’s get you back to full power.

What we cover:

• How your physical state influences your mindset and emotions
• The power of breathwork, movement, and grounding to reset your energy
• The gym that broke Stel (but also transformed him) - SAOR Studio
• Why how you set goals matters just as much as what they are
• Simple, doable practices to take charge of your state – starting now

Try This: Take off your shoes and walk barefoot outside, play your favorite song and dance like nobody’s watching, or just take a deep breath (we’ll guide you through it in this episode).

What does it really mean to have a growth mindset—beyond the buzzwords? From the sneaky ways we trap ourselves in fixed thinking to the discomfort that comes with real growth, we unpack how to break free from limitations (even the ones we don’t realize we have). Plus: the “Lobster Theory” of growth, the drama triangle you didn’t know you were playing in, and why the world seems more fixed than ever.

Episode Highlights:

• Every Day, You Get Better or Worse – The uncomfortable truth about growth.
• The Labels We Give Ourselves – How subconscious beliefs hold us back.
• The Drama Triangle – Are you the victim, rescuer, or persecutor? (Spoiler: You’re probably all three.)
• The Lobster Theory – Why growth is painful but necessary.
• Breaking Free – How to shift from stuck to unstoppable.

Resources:

• The Drama Triangle by Stephen Karpman - Article
• The Lobster Growth Analogy (Rabbi Dr. Abraham Twerski) - YouTube
• Book: Mindset by Carol Dweck - Amazon

Aging. It's happening to all of us, but are we thinking about it all wrong? Join us as we dive into the science, psychology, and societal obsession with longevity. From the mind-blowing "Counterclockwise" study to the surprising secrets of nuns who lived the longest, we challenge the fear-driven approach to aging and explore how mindset, community, and purpose might be the real fountain of youth. Plus, a wild story about a doctor whose patients all looked 20 years younger.

Episode Highlights:

• The Power of Perception – How acting younger makes you younger.
• The Nun Study – Why positivity predicts longevity.
• Mindset & Aging – Are we making it worse by focusing on it?
• The Longevity Doctor – One physician’s surprising anti-aging approach.
• Energy Has No Age – The role of connection and purpose.

Resources:

• Counterclockwise by Ellen Langer - Amazon
• The Nun Study (longevity & positivity) - study
• Letting Go by David R. Hawkins - Amazon

Independence is empowering, but can it hold us back from real connection? James, Mary & Stel get candid about self-reliance, vulnerability, and how to create deeper, more meaningful relationships – with others and ourselves. It's a conversation that pushes the boundaries of comfort zones and explores what it truly means to connect.

Key Topics Discussed

• Can self-reliance make connection harder?
• Balancing vulnerability and strength in relationships and leadership.
• Strategies for setting uncompromising standards while fostering collaboration.
• The importance of creating "containers" that support shared goals and values.
• Tools for self-reflection: Use personality assessments and leverage AI to deepen self-understanding.

Your life doesn’t run on time – it runs on energy. We’re flipping the script on productivity by diving into what fuels us, what drains us, and why protecting your energy is the ultimate life hack. We share personal experiences, chat about managing energy instead of time, and explore moments of transcendent clarity that remind us of what’s possible. No fluff…just practical insight to help you stay in your power and thrive.

Key Topics Discussed

• Paying attention to who and what gives you energy (vs. drains you)
• Managing your energy vs. your time
• Stel’s life-changing trip to Dubai
• Celebrating the things that power us up.

Books and Experts Referenced:

• Dan Sullivan: LinkedIn
• Manage Your Energy, Not Your Time by Tony Schwartz and Catherine McCarthy: HBR
• Million Dollar Coach by Taki Moore: Amazon
• One Thing Thursday newsletter: Subscribe at the bottom of the onprpose.com homepage
• Strategic Coach: Website
• The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck: Amazon

What’s in it for Them? by Joe Polish: Amazon

Conflict doesn’t have to be a battlefield—it can be a breakthrough. In this episode, we unpack the stories we tell ourselves, why asking better questions is the ultimate plot twist, and how a little curiosity can dissolve even the toughest tensions. Plus, we dive into simple, science-backed hacks to calm your system (widen your gaze, anyone?) and reclaim your cool in the heat of the moment. Growth starts here.

Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl

Powered By Purpose by Sarah Rozenthuler

Understanding Ho'oponopono

Sleep isn’t just downtime – it’s a superpower. In this episode, we dive into the eye-opening impact of sleep deficits (spoiler: your late nights might be hitting harder than happy hour), lessons learned from chasing better sleep, and why quality rest is the ultimate life hack for sharper thinking and better judgment. Because when it comes to sleep, the difference between surviving and thriving is only a few Zzzs away.

Key Topics Discussed

• Why sleep is the one thing you can’t phone in
• The impact of sleep deficits on judgment and performance
• How James, Mary, and Stel set themselves up for a good night
• Why the number of hours you sleep isn’t the best metric to monitor

Books and Experts Referenced:

• Why We Sleep by Matthew Walker
• The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron
• Sleep is Your Superpower TEDtalk
• Huberman Lab Podcast:

Faith comes in many forms – religion, belief, conviction – but what’s really guiding us? From trusting the unseen to betting on ourselves, this conversation digs into what anchors us and how faith shapes our decisions, identities, and everyday mischief.

Key Topics Discussed:

• Why faith is often avoided as a topic of conversation.
• The intersection of faith, belief, and energy.
• The difference between belief and faith.
• How faith shapes our values and decisions, both personally and professionally.
• The importance of curiosity and open-mindedness.

Tools and Practices Mentioned:

• The power of intention: Aligning thoughts, feelings, and actions to achieve goals.
• Energy and focus: How intentionality and faith can shape outcomes.
• Curiosity over certainty: Embracing questions about the unknown as part of personal growth.

Books and Experts Referenced:

• Learned Optimism by Martin Seligman: Amazon
• Huberman Lab Podcast: Website