Today we take a look at the complex relationship between forgiveness and forgetting, emphasizing that true forgiveness does not require the erasure of painful memories. I'll discuss the importance of recognizing and processing emotions through the body, the necessity of setting boundaries, and the ongoing journey of forgiveness as a continual practice.

Key Takeaways:

• Forgiveness does not mean forgetting; it means letting go of emotional baggage.
• Our bodies hold wisdom about what needs to be processed and healed.
• Forgiveness is an internal process that requires self-awareness and honesty.
• Remembering can be protective and wise, helping us avoid harmful patterns.
• Setting boundaries is essential in the healing process after betrayal.
• Integration of past experiences is crucial for personal growth and resilience.
• Forgiveness is a continual practice, not a one-time event.
• Emotional regulation is key to having difficult conversations about past hurts.
• We must honor our feelings and allow ourselves to process them fully.
• Healing involves both the mind and body working together.

More from me:

• Sign up for the "Heal on the Go - Audio Membership" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/9tSEsULS
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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In this episode, we look at the hidden pain of betrayal, emphasizing that both the betrayed and the betrayer experience deep emotional turmoil. We explore the myths surrounding infidelity, the importance of facing one's pain, and the necessity of mutual understanding in the healing process.

Key Takeaways:

• Betrayed partners often feel worse while the betrayer appears unscathed.
• Pain avoidance leads to deeper issues later on.
• Indicators of healing include facing pain honestly and openly.
• Mutual understanding of pain is crucial for healing.
• Compassion does not mean excusing harmful behavior.
• Healing requires acknowledging grief and loss.
• Both partners must confront their own pain for true healing.
• Real change involves recognizing the impact of one's actions.
• Healing is a choice that requires active participation.
• Understanding each other's pain can liberate both partners.

More from me:

• Sign up for the "Heal on the Go - Audio Membership" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/9tSEsULS
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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In this episode we discuss the pervasive issue of avoidance in relationships. We explore how avoidance manifests as a lack of communication and emotional engagement, leading to disconnection and mistrust. We look at the costs of avoidance, the importance of setting real boundaries, and the detrimental effects of cancel culture on personal growth and relationships.

Key Takeaways:

• Avoidance is a habit that keeps us stuck.
• Hard conversations are essential for growth and intimacy.
• Real boundaries require clarity and courage.
• Cancel culture promotes disconnection instead of dialogue.
• Avoidance can lead to emotional numbness and self-abandonment.
• We must face our discomfort to heal effectively.
• Avoidance often masquerades as self-protection.
• Engaging in difficult conversations fosters trust and connection.
• Understanding triggers can lead to personal growth.
• We all have moments of avoidance; it's part of being human.

More from me:

• Sign up for the "Heal on the Go - Audio Membership" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/9tSEsULS
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability.

For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit Andrea's website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles