An interaction with a friend last week triggered some very painful parts of myself. This event took my thoughts to some dark places but also created some much needed awareness to places that needed healing and gave me an opportunity to look at old wounds, recognize how they have created mindsets and patterns that still operate in my life today, and challenge myself to choose new ways to look at these experiences.

I took advantage of the opportunity to go deeper and ask myself the following questions:

Why did this interaction trigger these parts of me?

What was this here to show me?

What parts of myself need some extra love and compassion right now?

What thoughts and beliefs are coming from an old version of myself that no longer serves me?

How am I feeling in this moment and how would I rather feel right now?

What do I believe about myself in this moment and what would I rather believe my personal truth is?

What is the discomfort I am feeling right now, here to show me about where in my life I am not in alignment with my own values, my own truth, and my own integrity?

When you can dig deep enough to answer those questions honestly, you can take advantage of the opportunity that a triggering situation has provided to choose a new thought, choose a new belief, choose a new way to feel, and allow yourself to heal from things that have been buried inside of you, long before this situation came across your path to bring awareness to them.

Rather than allow these outdated mindsets to continue, I chose to look very honestly at myself, at my own wounds and triggers, and how they make me respond. That’s been a big part of the healing process for me. When I feel a certain way about something and I’ve perceived it in a certain way, I don’t deny that that was my experience. I completely own and accept that this is what I saw and this is how I felt about it.

But I also completely own and accept the fact that I might be wrong. I am not always right just because that is my experience and those are my feelings. And I think a lot of us think that it has to be one or the other. I can hold both of those as truth at the same time.

That this is the experience I had. This is how I perceived it. This is how it made me feel. And that is my truth.

AND I might be wrong about what I saw, experienced, and how I should feel about it, because my perspective and my truth is not the absolute truth. There are always things I don’t see. But the only way to figure that out is to be willing to have those conversations. To be willing to be vulnerable enough to share your truth with someone else. To be willing to share your truth in a way that is honest and authentic even when you know you have no control over the outcome.

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