Episode 152 - A Thought For Dads - The Villain's Perspective - Understanding My Journey

If I'm being honest, truly honest with myself, I'm tired.

Not the kind of tired that sleep can cure. No, this is deep.

This is the kind of tired that weighs on your soul. I'm so tired of going through the same struggles, tired of trying and nothing working out.I've given it everything I've got.

But here I am, drained. It's not about wanting to die. It's not that.

But if the gods were sitting right across from me, I'd look them in the eye and say, "I'm done. I've had enough. I can't carry this burden anymore."

But then I remind myself:I've felt this way before, and I'm still here. I've been broken, I've been tired, I've been shattered. And somehow, I keep going. So maybe, just maybe, there's still some fight left in me.

Maybe that's why I'm still standing.If someone from my past, or even my present, tells you a tale about me, one that casts me as the villain, believe them.

Go on.

But before you do, ask yourself this: What did they do to push me that far?

I know I'm the villain in some people's stories, and that doesn't bother me.

People have a way of twisting the truth or starting the story when it suits them, when I become the villain. But they forget what led to that moment.

I don't wake up and decide to harm anyone.

But if you betray me, if you cross me, I won't come after you with revenge.I don't need to. You'll lose access to me.

That is punishment enough. If that makes me the villain in your eyes, so be it. I stand where I stand. I make no apologies.

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Episode 151 - A Thought For Dads - The Power of Your Words, Stop Being A Joke

Never speak bad words to yourself, not even in jest.

Your mind and body don't know the difference between what is real and what you only think. Words have power, and this world is built on power.

If you want to change your fate, then change the way you speak to yourself.

The words you whisper and the thoughts you carry shape your destiny.

If you fill your mind with weakness, you will crumble.

But if you speak with strength, if you fill yourself with fire, the world will bend to your will.

It's a simple truth: you control your words, you control your fate.

When you master that, you can conquer your life.

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Episode 150 - What Eddie Van Halen and His Guitar Has Taught Me About Parenting

The comparison between guitar players and parenting highlights a common psychological response to perceived inadequacy:

Guitar Players:

Positive response: Use the better player as inspiration to improve.

Negative response:

Give up due to feeling overwhelmed by the skill gap.

Parenting:

Positive response:

Learn from experienced parents and strive to improve.

Negative response:

Abandon efforts or avoid parenting altogether due to feeling inadequate.

In both scenarios, the negative response stems from a fixed mindset, where individuals believe their abilities are static and unchangeable. This leads to avoiding challenges and giving up easily.

The key lesson is that both guitar playing and parenting are skills that can be developed with practice, patience, and persistence. Just as a novice guitarist can improve through dedication, a new or prospective father can learn and grow into the role of a good dad.

The challenge is to shift from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset, recognizing that abilities can be developed over time.

This approach encourages embracing challenges, learning from others, and persevering in the face of setbacks, ultimately leading to personal growth and success in both guitar playing and parenting.

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Episode 149 - A Thought For Dads - A Father's Dreams, A Child's Journey

The day you bury your father, it strikes you like a blade to the heart.

You've lost the one man who truly wanted you to rise higher than he ever did.

The man who silently prayed for your victories, even when you were too blind to see.

In the silence, you feel the weight of his hopes, his strength.

It wasn't just his own; it was yours, forged in the belief that you could be more than him.

And now, with him gone, you realize he was the reason you stood so strong all along.

But now, the weight is yours to carry.

His hopes don't die with him; they live in you.

The time for looking up to him has passed.

Now, it's time for others to look up to you, to rise and become what he always knew you could be.

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Episode 148 - A Thought For Dads - The Beautiful Chaos of Marriage

If your husband isn’t the most annoying person in your life, can he even be considered your husband?

Think about it. If he doesn’t drive you mad at least once a day, can you truly call it a marriage? A real husband knows how to push your buttons better than anyone else.

He leaves his socks everywhere, you end up taking out the trash, and he snores like a wild beast. But that’s part of the deal, isn’t it?

Those little annoyances are proof that he’s comfortable with you—no pretense, just his true, annoying self.And that’s where the love lies.

The man who makes you want to scream is also the one who makes you laugh until your sides hurt.

Without the madness, it’s not real. It’s in the chaos, the mess, and the everyday frustrations that you find genuine love.

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Episode 147 - A Thought For Dads - What to do if I Have Wronged You

Did you hurt someone recently? Read this!

If I've wronged you, come to me,

Speak your truth, let your words be free.

Don't hide behind a veil of silence,

Or turn away in quiet defiance.If I've caused you pain or sorrow,

Tell me now, don't wait for tomorrow.

I'm no stranger to imperfection,

My flaws are clear upon reflection.But I can't mend what I don't know,

Silence builds walls that only grow.

Fortresses of unspoken words,

Leaving feelings unheard, unheard.I won't let walls divide us two,

You mean more than you ever knew.

I'd rather face the hardest truth,

Than lose you to a silent ruth.I am here, ready to listen,

To make things right, to make them glisten.

Don't shut me out, let's face this together,

We'll mend what's broken, now and forever.For this is love in its purest form,

Not running from the gathering storm.

But standing strong through wind and rain,

Fighting to heal, to ease the pain.Speak your truth, I'll meet you there,

With open heart and tender care.

For in your words, we'll find a way,

To brighter skies and a new day.

how to approach a situation where someone has wronged you:

Open communication: Instead of remaining silent or avoiding the person who has wronged you, the text encourages direct communication. It emphasizes the importance of speaking up and expressing your feelings.

Face the issue: Rather than turning away or building emotional walls, confront the problem head-on. This approach prevents misunderstandings from festering and growing worse over time.

Express your pain: If someone has hurt you, let them know. The text suggests that it's important to articulate how their actions have affected you.

Give them a chance to make amends: By speaking up, you're giving the person who wronged you an opportunity to understand their mistake and potentially correct it.

Avoid silent treatment: The text strongly discourages using silence as a weapon, as it only creates barriers in relationships.

Choose reconciliation over distance: Instead of allowing the relationship to deteriorate, the text advocates for working through issues together.

Be ready to listen: While expressing your own feelings is important, be prepared to listen to the other person's perspective as well.

Prioritize the relationship: The text emphasizes the value of the relationship over the comfort of avoiding difficult conversations.

Approach with love and understanding: The overall tone suggests approaching the situation with care and a willingness to work things out, rather than with anger or resentment.

Seek resolution together: The text encourages facing and resolving issues as a team, strengthening the relationship in the process.

In essence, this approach promotes active, compassionate communication as a means of addressing and resolving conflicts, rather than allowing them to silently damage relationships.

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Episode 146 - Ron Nussbaum - Veteran, Father and Host of Construction Champions Podcast Answers 3 Dad Questions

Ron Nussbaum is a visionary leader in the construction industry, renowned for his expertise and innovative mindset. From his time in the Marine Corps to over a decade of experience in construction, he has become a driving force for change and growth.

Having worked in field operations, sales, leadership, and management, Ron comprehensively understands the construction industry's intricacies. He has demonstrated an unwavering commitment to driving positive change and fostering growth throughout his career.

As the Founder and CEO of BuilderComs, Ron leverages his knowledge and experiences to push the boundaries of the industry further. BuilderComs is focused on becoming the construction industry's leading customer communication software, transforming how builders and contractors communicate, document, and excel in their projects.

In addition to his extensive industry experience, Ron hosts the Construction Champions Podcast, where he brings together industry experts to share their insights, stories, and best practices. Through the podcast, Ron provides a valuable platform for discussions on innovation and the future of construction.

As a true construction champion, Ron Nussbaum is leaving an indelible mark on the industry. His visionary leadership, combined with his role as the host of the Construction Champions Podcast, positions him as a driving force in shaping the future of construction.

https://www.buildercoms.com/constructionchampionspodcast

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Episode 145 - Quoteable Moments - Inspiring Quotes to Encourage a Dad with William Shakespeare

"It is a wise father that knows his own child." — William Shakespeare

Shakespeare’s words remind fathers of the importance of understanding and connecting with their children on a deeper level

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