Episode 152 - A Thought For Dads - The Villain's Perspective - Understanding My Journey

If I'm being honest, truly honest with myself, I'm tired.

Not the kind of tired that sleep can cure. No, this is deep.

This is the kind of tired that weighs on your soul. I'm so tired of going through the same struggles, tired of trying and nothing working out.I've given it everything I've got.

But here I am, drained. It's not about wanting to die. It's not that.

But if the gods were sitting right across from me, I'd look them in the eye and say, "I'm done. I've had enough. I can't carry this burden anymore."

But then I remind myself:I've felt this way before, and I'm still here. I've been broken, I've been tired, I've been shattered. And somehow, I keep going. So maybe, just maybe, there's still some fight left in me.

Maybe that's why I'm still standing.If someone from my past, or even my present, tells you a tale about me, one that casts me as the villain, believe them.

Go on.

But before you do, ask yourself this: What did they do to push me that far?

I know I'm the villain in some people's stories, and that doesn't bother me.

People have a way of twisting the truth or starting the story when it suits them, when I become the villain. But they forget what led to that moment.

I don't wake up and decide to harm anyone.

But if you betray me, if you cross me, I won't come after you with revenge.I don't need to. You'll lose access to me.

That is punishment enough. If that makes me the villain in your eyes, so be it. I stand where I stand. I make no apologies.

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Episode 151 - A Thought For Dads - The Power of Your Words, Stop Being A Joke

Never speak bad words to yourself, not even in jest.

Your mind and body don't know the difference between what is real and what you only think. Words have power, and this world is built on power.

If you want to change your fate, then change the way you speak to yourself.

The words you whisper and the thoughts you carry shape your destiny.

If you fill your mind with weakness, you will crumble.

But if you speak with strength, if you fill yourself with fire, the world will bend to your will.

It's a simple truth: you control your words, you control your fate.

When you master that, you can conquer your life.

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Episode 150 - What Eddie Van Halen and His Guitar Has Taught Me About Parenting

The comparison between guitar players and parenting highlights a common psychological response to perceived inadequacy:

Guitar Players:

Positive response: Use the better player as inspiration to improve.

Negative response:

Give up due to feeling overwhelmed by the skill gap.

Parenting:

Positive response:

Learn from experienced parents and strive to improve.

Negative response:

Abandon efforts or avoid parenting altogether due to feeling inadequate.

In both scenarios, the negative response stems from a fixed mindset, where individuals believe their abilities are static and unchangeable. This leads to avoiding challenges and giving up easily.

The key lesson is that both guitar playing and parenting are skills that can be developed with practice, patience, and persistence. Just as a novice guitarist can improve through dedication, a new or prospective father can learn and grow into the role of a good dad.

The challenge is to shift from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset, recognizing that abilities can be developed over time.

This approach encourages embracing challenges, learning from others, and persevering in the face of setbacks, ultimately leading to personal growth and success in both guitar playing and parenting.

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