Wired for Love

How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship

By: Stan Tatkin PsyD MFT

Narrated by: Michael Hinton

"What the heck is my partner thinking?" is a common refrain in romantic relationships and with good reason. Every person is wired for love differently, with different habits, needs, and reactions to conflict. The good news is that most people's minds work in predictable ways and respond well to security, attachment, and rituals, making it possible to actually neurologically prime the brain for greater love and fewer conflicts.

Wired for Love is an innovative guide to understanding your partner's brain and enjoying a romantic relationship built on love and trust. Synthesizing research findings drawn from neuroscience, attachment theory, and emotion regulation, this audiobook presents 10 guiding principles that can improve any relationship.

©2011 Stan Tatkin (P)2015 Tantor

Critic reviews

"A marvelous resource." (Rick Hanson, PhD, author of Buddha's Brain)

Everyone should read this

I only wish this book were longer becuase I didnt want it to end. Great information for everyone wanting to relate to others.

Great

Great book loved the examples they give and the short stories of different kind of couples

A must read

So much sense opening data that will change your life for the best. This book could save 90% of our worldly conflicts. Thank you thank you Thank you so much!!

A wonderful secular relationship guide!

I really enjoyed this book. It was easy to understand, easy to follow, packed with good science based information, and narrated well. I also enjoyed that this book was secular and included talk about same sex couples. I liked that the author used conversation of all different types of couples - young, older, straight, gay, healthy, troubled, childless, etc and so many scenarios to help the reader see how these things can play out. The narrator did a good job at all these different characters.

It was reassuring

This book gave me the confidence that things I want to have and achieve in a relationship aren’t asking for too much. If you don’t have a partner that is trying to understand you, and willing to put in the work with you, you probably have the wrong partner.

I like Wired for Dating much more

I read Wired for Dating, which is great! So I purchased Wired for Love. However the ideas in these two books are absolutely the same...

Narrator is a Distraction

The book itself was deeply insightful and profound. The performance was unprofessional and distracting. Too many glottal stops and sloppy speech patterns, making common words like “important” into “impor’-in,” or “threaten” into “threh’-in.” Who hired this voice actor in the first place?

This book should be mandated reading!

One of the most helpful books - you won’t regret it and will tell others to read it when you’re done!

Helpful!!!

Has some insightful and practical application for healing childhood wounds and becoming more secure in relationships

What we stopped noticing

This book makes you open up your eyes. noticing things that you think are normal but your partner does not. this book makes you realize that you are in a partnership and the most important thing is the relationship. this book has helped me a lot by making me open my eyes.