The 80/80 Marriage

A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship

By: Nate Klemp PhD, Kaley Klemp

Narrated by: Roger Wayne

An accessible, transformative guide for couples seeking greater love, connection, and intimacy in our modern world

Nate and Kaley Klemp were both successful in their careers, consulting for high-powered companies around the world. Their work as mindfulness and leadership experts, however, often fell to the wayside when they came home in the evening, only to end up fighting about fairness in their marriage. They believed in a model where each partner contributed equally and fairness ruled, but, in reality, they were finding that balance near impossible to achieve.

From this frustration, they developed the idea of the 80/80 marriage, a new model for balancing career, family, and love. The 80/80 Marriage pushes couples beyond the limited idea of "fairness" toward a new model grounded on radical generosity and shared success, one that calls for each partner to contribute 80 percent to build the strongest possible relationship. Drawing from more than one hundred interviews with couples from all walks of life, stories from business and pop culture, scientific studies, and ancient philosophical insights, husband-and-wife team Nate and Kaley Klemp pinpoint exactly what's not working in modern marriage. Their 80/80 model of marriage provides practical, powerful solutions to transform your relationship and open up space for greater love and connection.

This audiobook includes a downloadable PDF of exercises and charts.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2021 Nate Klemp and Kaley Klemp (P)2021 Penguin Audio

Critic reviews

New York Times Editor’s Choice

“Beautifully written and illustrated and brilliantly argued, any couple reading this will find themselves guided into new and challenging possibilities for their relationship, which if they take seriously and practice faithfully, will surely transform their consciousness, alter their behavior and fulfill their dreams. We heartily encourage all couples to read it with an open mind and a willing heart.” (Harville Hendrix, PhD, and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD, authors of Getting the Love You Want)

“One of the central struggles in modern relationships is the illusive sense of fairness. The 80/80 Marriage gives couples a new, more effective model for navigating this terrain, and a powerful way to begin feeling more connected and in love.” (Lori Gottlieb, author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone)

“Times of dramatic societal change can undo close-in relationships, or strengthen them. This brilliant book offers a pathway for couples to deepen connectedness, calling forth the heart’s potential for generosity, trust, acceptance, and compassion.” (Tara Brach, author of Radical Acceptance and Radical Compassion)

Great read

I really enjoyed the concepts brought to light in this book and the challenge of thought against the 50/50 shared responsibility of marriage.

Practical relevant and helpful for modern marriages or any marriage for that matter

This felt like an updated series of practical tools and examples for a modern marriage from a young couple that have learn the skills the hard way to get through the ultimate test. Time. On top of that doing so and a satisfying and generative relationship. Well done. Great read. I highly recommend this to others.

Recommend this to friends family and patients!

This is fantastic, we’ve already purchased a hard copy for reference and to have easier access to the activities. This is great for all couples, you don’t need to be married to benefit, maybe you’re an old dog learning new ricks and newly cohabitating (like us) - this has really normalized some of the issues we’re struggling with AND helps us to mitigate and minimize conflict. Really glad I found this, I think you will be too.

Perfect for all modern couples

This book was amazing. My husband and I are millennials. We have a foundation of equality but this opens many doors and offers so many things that seem simple but actually take practice and are incredibly healthy. The perspective is refreshing. This leaves out heavy religion and that’s something I was really looking for. I have already recommended this book to many of my friends and I am so glad I took the time to listen. I wouldn’t listen to any negative reviews, this is fantastic and life changing in a simple and approachable way.

Brilliant

An eye and heart opener...

Truly amazing a way to look at relationships and marriage....

Awesome

Very straightforward and to the point. A lot of examples as well as explanations. I would read it again.

Useful & Filled w/ Humor... Great for Anyone (in a relationship or not)

Love this book. The authors weave humor, love, humility, generosity, and practicality into each chapter. This refreshing approach, inspired me to tap into the 'radical generosity mindset' on day one, and to my delight the ROI was immediate! The book is great regardless of whether you are married, or in between relationships. Each relationship has the potential to create a different power dynamic, and this book helps you understand how each person feels in these dynamics, and how you can navigate uncharted territory.

Kaley and Nate's humility and candor throughout the book, really make it. Their generous vulnerability makes the book pleasant and approachable. They showcase their lived experiences, and don’t try to sugar coat. They look back at challenges with such playfulness, I found myself laughing out loud, finding ways to extend jogs so I could keep listening. They turn this ‘serious’ topic, into something that is warm, entertaining, and useful . It’s not sarcastic, rather, it’s filled with humble stories and relatable moments, that made my partner and I feel at home. Relationships, love, and connection, are all fascinating, and I regularly read/listen to material on these subjects. This is one of my favorite books in a while! And if you enjoy, would also recommend Kaley’s book, 'The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership' - awesome!

Very impactful relationship book!

We read this when we were engaged and it was so helpful. We now read it every year around our anniversary. It’s great for anyone in a relationship or someone that plans on being in one someday. We recommend this book to other couples all the time. But more importantly; we live this way in our marriage. Wow, things are great!

Good Insight

Easy to listen to and understand. It is a good read for everyone who cares about their relationship. A little insight goes a long way.

A Blueprint for Modern Relationships

An 80/80 marriage? Wait a minute two people each contributing 80% does not add up to a 100% so how’s that going to work? Well, read this book and you will soon discover! Kaley and Nate Klemp have provided an easy to follow, practical and implementable model for modern relationships. The examples resonate and it is easy to see your own relationship conflicts reflected in the exam as you listen to the book. They provide a step-by-step guide on how to make changes that should greatly improve your relationship. This modern approach to navigating the inevitable trials of relationships completely shifts our thinking and moves us to an approach where generosity is a key to success. This book is timely with so many relationships feeling strain during the pandemic and quarantine. A must listen for anyone. There are ideas in this book that you can use even if you are a singleton.