Stop Walking on Eggshells, Third Edition

Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder

By: Paul T. Mason MS, Randi Kreger

Narrated by: Kirsten Potter

Length: 7 hrs and 36 mins

Publisher's summary

Do you feel manipulated, controlled, or lied to? Are you the focus of intense, violent, and irrational rages? Do you feel you are "walking on eggshells" to avoid the next confrontation? If the answer is yes, someone you care about may have borderline personality disorder (BPD) - a mood disorder that causes negative self-image, emotional instability, and difficulty with interpersonal relationships.

Stop Walking on Eggshells has already helped more than a million people with friends and family members suffering from BPD understand this difficult disorder, set boundaries, and help their loved ones stop relying on dangerous BPD behaviors. This fully revised third edition has been updated with the very latest BPD research on comorbidity, extensive new information about narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), the effectiveness of schema therapy, and coping and communication skills you can use to stabilize your relationship with the BPD or NPD sufferer in your life. This compassionate guide will enable you to:

• Make sense out of the chaos
• Stand up for yourself and assert your needs
• Defuse arguments and conflicts
• Protect yourself and others from violent behavior

©2020 Paul T. Mason and Randi Kreger (P)2021 Tantor

Very Helpful

Although I'm still in a great deal of pain, gaining a better perspective on my loved ones pain and struggles as well as my responsibility in the relationships has opened the path forward and provided some direction for me. I should be an expert since I've been experiencing BPD in my life from my earliest awareness., my father, two of my brothers, my husband, and both my children - plus I've provided care for my grandmother and mother in law with Alzheimers.

I've been blaming myself and trying to fix situations and people all my life. I'm finally finding a way to release myself from blame and guilt, realizing nothing can be changed except myself, my thoughts, and my behaviors. I'm planning to reread this book often hoping to successfully navigate a way to love them all and build positive relationships without being destroyed in the process.

interesting

This book has helpful information for the one who is in these types of relationships.

realistic overview & helpful tools

hood and realistic overview, helps to understand the situation and the other person. also has very helpful tools to how to interact. or you might see that its too much work and u cant continue the relationship.

Now it all makes sense.

Very informative. If you believe a person in your life has BPD then you’re probably exhausted at this point and searching for answers. This book will relieve much of your frustration and give you the understanding you’ve been struggling to find.

I’d also recommend you read The Four Agreements. You’ll need to remain mindful of all of them for this battle.

Encouragement for those who really need it!

People with significant others or partners with untreated or poorly managed bipolar illness or borderline personality disorder can greatly benefit from reading this book. They will surely get some perspective on how to improve their own mental health in spite of the challenges these fraught relationships pose. All are worthy of respect and kindness! Get clarity, get support, and improve your life!

So many aha moments

There were so many moments of clarity that I obtained while reading this book. Most notably was when they discussed how people with BPD or narcissism use interactions with other people as a way to manage their pain. It made me realize I had become this person’s handler. It’s an impossible task, one that you will never be able to do well enough; the person with BPD/narcissism will always let you know that you’re failing, and you will have traded in your soul to do it. They also discussed how when you begin to set boundaries, you are breaking a contract that you didn’t know you signed. Boy, did that ring true. I am in the process of removing this person from my life. Not everyone may reach this conclusion. However, with my personal situation, I now know that this person in my life has pushed me to the point where I have to choose them or myself. I have chosen myself, and have never felt more peace because of it. Thank you to the authors for providing so much clarity. I also find it no coincidence that people in my life and I would use the man behind the curtain in the Wizard of Oz as a reference to discuss this person in my life. And then, when reading this book, I find out the support group is named after the Wizard of Oz. That one just hit home for me!

Indispensable insights

This book opened my eyes and expressed words for my feelings. It delivered highly beneficial insights and strategies for my life, which centers on a difficult relationship.
Thank you.

Helping myself be the best husband I can be

Not knowing what B.P.D. is or that my husband had until after we got married was the hardest thing I've ever had to face in my love life. I really liked that this book no only had licensed doctors speaking their studies but also shared stories of other, whether it was someone who has B.P.D. or some who had a loved one with the disorder. Since listening to this book I have scheduled my first therapy session, haven't been to therapy since I was a child and I am ready to learn as much as I can to be the best husband I can be, for the husband with Borderline Personality Disorder.

Helpful & informative about BPD. Wish I had read this book earlier!

Its my first time hearing about BPD and this book shed light into my life and gave me understanding about circumstances that had been taking place in my family for more than 10years. Thank you for the wisdom shared that promote awareness and how to handle and help people with BPD. Highly recommend to read!

Understanding others

Much valuable information wished I had years ago explaining the reason for the rages, anger and abuse. Explaining why I am the way I am and the kind of people I attract. Knowledge is power and growth is possible.