Real Love in Marriage

The Truth About Finding Genuine Happiness Now and Forever

By: Greg Baer

Narrated by: Greg Baer

“With marriage down and divorce up, it’s tough to get and stay married these days. But therapist Greg Baer says you can have a happy marriage by learning to love your partner unconditionally...practicing Real Love.” (Chicago Tribune)

Why do more than half of all marriages end in divorce? And why is there so much unhappiness in the marriages that survive? Greg Baer offers the solutions for a long-lasting marriage in his anticipated follow-up to Real Love: The Truth About Finding Unconditional Love and Fulfilling Relationships.

No matter how many wounds have been inflicted in a marriage, Greg Baer believes that they can be healed, giving both partners the sense of fulfillment and joy they’ve always wanted. With practical anecdotes and exercises throughout, Baer shows you:

• Why our spouses are not the root cause of how we feel and behave
• The truth about why we get angry with our spouses and argue with them
• How to eliminate - not just manage - anger and conflict
• How to identify what we need to change about ourselves
• How you and your partner can both get what you want out of the marriage
• How you can break the cycles of expectation and disappointment
• How to prevent divorce, and how to know when it’s the right option

There are no quick solutions to fixing a marriage. With Greg Baer as your guide, you can begin to heal the wounds of the past and cultivate the lifelong commitment to stay with your partner while learning how to unconditionally love him or her.

“With illustrations from real couples, guidelines for better communication, and exercises for the reader, Baer goes at the problem of finding and maintaining Real Love from all angles.” (Ladies’ Home Journal)

©2006 Penguin Group, USA (P)2007 Greg Baer

life changing excellent book.

I've read a lot of self help and this is the best book about how to love ourselves and everyone else in our lives.

Most beneficial book for my marriage

This book is redundant. BUT, having said that, it has been the most beneficial marriage book I've read/listened to. And when a book can drastically improve your marriage, I'd say it's the most beneficial overall self-help book I've ever read/listened to.
You have to be willing to make the effort and changes talked about though, and do it without any expectations. The concepts, while simplistic and basic, are hard, and seem self-sacrificing to put into practice at first. It really is a leap of faith. But when you see the changes in your marriage, it gets easier and easier to do. I HIGHLY recommend this book ❤️

A Most Important Book

What made the experience of listening to Real Love in Marriage the most enjoyable?

It was like sitting with Greg and having a conversation. With him reading it, I could hear the passion and love that he has for sharing this most important information about the need for Real Love to have a successful marriage....or life for that matter.

What other book might you compare Real Love in Marriage to and why?

The first book Greg wrote is 'Real Love' and it was THE MOST IMPORTANT book I've ever read. Real Love in Marriage is the same information except focused on marriage and how Real Love is necessary in order to have a happy and successful marriage.

What about Greg Baer’s performance did you like?

His passion and love. I truly believe Greg lives his talk of unconditional Love and it's his passion to share this powerful and profound information about the most important concept of our human experience, LOVE. It seems to be the most important word in our human language and yet the least understood. Greg is changing that by his profound and yet simple examples of what Love is and what it isn't.

What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?

Everybody has the freedom of choice and nobody has the right to have expectations of others because when we do, we take away the freedom of choice. Expectations has been the root of all my anger, disappointment, righteousness, resentment and frustration. Just this one awareness has brought tremendous peace into my life.

Any additional comments?

Real Love in Marriage is a continuation of the book Real Love. Even if you are not in a marriage, you are involved in relationships of some kind; friendship, family, co-workers. Greg breaks down the communication and shows both sides; the reaction from imitation love and the response from Real Love. It's a 'how to' book that we were never taught. I was never taught anything about Love, until I read Real Love, and from this new view that I now have, I can see most other people have not been taught anything about Real Love either. LOVE is the only thing that can heal our planet and Greg's books provide the transition from the imitation love we were taught to the REAL LOVE that we were meant to be.

I'm recommending everyone I know read this!

I listen to it on audible as I would drive solo. I've learned so much, and my family and home Dynamics have changed, just by what I've gleaned listening to it once. can't wait to jump in the parenting! Real Love and marriage has so many amazing skill set and mindset adjustments, this will be one of those books I reread at least every year.

Love Real Love

This book has been incredible for my marriage. So grateful for the information & tools provided. Thank you!

A brilliant marriage handbook that should be required reading for anyone considering for entering marriage!

My 22-year-old son recommended your book, Real Love, to me after listening to it in preparation for his wedding. But when I saw, Real Love In Marriage, I opted to read that one first. If only I knew about this book 23 years ago, before I married his father.

My second husband and I have been married 3 1/2 years, and I never imagined it could be any harder than it was the first time around! But it is! I was single for about eight years and hoped I would find love again. Now that I have, I've often wondered how anyone can find "real" love, much less stay married!

Enter, Real Love In Marriage. This book has literally been life altering for me! It has been an excruciating, yet necessary, exercise in self examination. And, it has opened my eyes not only to my self-defeating habits, but to the possibility, even high likelihood, of having real love, joy and happiness in my life!

Thank you, thank you, a thousand times, thank you!!

Because of this book, we saved our marriage!

This book opened our eyes... to everything we couldn't see before. I've recommended it to everyone I am close to.

Profoundly simple and honest.

This book is the real deal when it come to addressing the root cause of sadness or happiness in marriage relationships! I give it as a gift to every newlywed and only wish someone had given it to me when I was first married. Should be required reading before getting married or divorced.

Which one should I read next?

This is the second Real Love book I have listened to. I loved it! Can't wait to read another!

A totally new perspective on love

Good examples on how to show real love to your spouse. I'm reading many of his other books too. This will be saving us therapy dollars!