Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life

The Chump Lady's Survival Guide

By: Tracy Schorn

Narrated by: Laura Copland

Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a no-nonsense self-help guide for anyone who has ever been cheated on. Here's advice not based on saving your relationship after infidelity - but saving your sanity.

When it comes to cheating, a lot of the attention is focused on cheaters - their unmet needs or their challenges with monogamy. But Tracy Schorn (aka Chump Lady) lampoons such blameshifting and puts the focus squarely on the cheated-upon (chumps) and their needs. Full of solid advice that champions self-respect, Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life offers a fresh voice for chumps who want (and need) a new message about infidelity. This book will offer advice on stupid sh*t cheaters say and how to respond, rookie mistakes of the recently chumped and how to disarm your fears, why chumps take the blame and how to protect yourself, and more.

Full of snark, sass, and real wisdom about how to bounce back after the gut blow of betrayal, Schorn is the friend who guides you through this nightmare and gives you hope for a better life ahead.

©2016 Tracy Schorn (P)2017 Tantor

Must read for someone getting overs cheater

Great book. Very straight forward. Just the thing I needed to kick me in the butt.

WOW! READ THIS BOOK!!

This book was the reality check I needed. It's so real. Like talking to a friend. So many things that I already knew but just needed someone to say it. Thank you! Tuesday will be here before I know it!

Awesome

As I would drive by my soon to be ex's appartment I had this Audio book playing in my car.
His new GF ( who he is "just friends" with and helps with his Autistic daughter) AND after I have caught them in bed and her clothes on and his off .... OH but the comforter was in between them and her on top of him,giving him a "NECK " rub with the lights out and MANY more times getting caught, just never both unclothed, That was 2 YEARS ago.
yet im trying to detatch but I also see her old beat up van at his place. JUST AS IM HEARUNG AND LEARNING what a CHUMP IS.

Chump required reading (listening)

Everything she said cheaters say and do, sounded just like what I’ve heard from my cheater.
Wow.
Wake up, chumps.
It’s our time to rise.

Hurtful but helpful

Someone in my support group recommended this book. It was exactly what I needed. Tracy Schorn doesn’t mince words. The truth hurts: I’ve been a chump. But I don’t have to keep being a chump. If you want to leave a cheater behind and move on with your life, this is the book for you.

chum for to long

this book really spoke volumes to me thank you for sharing. I really appreciate it you gave me a lot of information that I knew already just made sense coming from you.

No nonsense great advice!

I loved the straight talk. It was as though the author reached into my soul and unapologetically expressed my feelings.
I was left feeling empowered and hopeful.

At first I hated it…

I’m a chump…such a chump that I’ve read so.many.books. Trying to understand how I became a chump, what made my cheating POS choose someone else… I learned about forgiveness and acceptance and reconciliation.. but no one was addressing the obvious: how can I forgive when no one is asking for forgiveness? This book is exactly what I needed. Sometimes we need some tough love and this book is it. It was hard to hear and more than once I hung my head in shame thinking “I did exactly that…what a chump” but it was healing to put a name to my feelings and understand my anger a bit more. I strongly recommend this title for all my fellow chumps… if you’re a cheater though, go ahead and buzz off, you don’t deserve this insight.

Pocket pep talk

I am listening for a second time in a row. This is a must listen for anyone dealing with infidelity!

Real talk!!!

Love this book! Even though I’m reading it about 4 years too late it definitely has good solid advice! If you are looking for authentic guidance READ THIS BOOK! you can tell” she’s been there done that “