How to Hug a Porcupine

Easy Ways to Love the Difficult People in Your Life

De: June Eding - editor, Debbie Joffe Ellis - foreword

Narrado por: Julie Briskman

Most of us know someone who, for whatever reason, always seems to cause problems, irritate others, or incite conflict. Often, these people are a part of our daily lives. The truth is that these trouble makers haven't necessarily asked to be this way.

Sometimes we need to learn new approaches to deal with people who are harder to get along with or love.

How to Hug a Porcupine: Easy Ways to Love Difficult People in Your Life, explains that making peace with others isn't as tough or terrible as we think it is - especially when you can use an adorable animal analogy and apply it to real-life problems.

How to Hug a Porcupine provides tips for calming the quills of parents, children, siblings, strangers, and other prickly people you may encounter. Among other tips, How to Hug a Porcupine includes:

• Three easy ways to end an argument
• How to spot the porcupine in others
• How to spot the porcupine in ourselves

With a foreword by noted psychotherapist Dr. Debbie Ellis, widow of Dr. Albert Ellis, How to Hug a Porcupine is a truly special book.

©2017 June Eding (P)2017 Hatherleigh Press

Very nice advice and tips

I really liked the quotes and some helpful advice, but is mostly just over generalized and didn’t like hearing the importance of empathy repeated when there are so many toxic relationships and no mention of codependency, narcissistic partners/parents, dealing with trauma and attachment styles, etc.

Relatable

Good analogies; relatable and to the point; presented in a kind lighthearted way. Short and sweet and absorbable

Subpar 

Teaches you how to walk on egg shells. This may have been more useful in the 1950s, it’s interesting when the author uses female/male pronouns within examples. This book breezes over so much but when it does get detailed, it is decent information.

Cute but not cutthroat

Cute but I don’t think it’s made for adults dealing with people with mental illnesses

the title implied it

not to be dismissive of how strong and motivational this book is but the title implied it and the author made sure that it would stick in your head I believe that each one of us can and will be a porcupine porcupine porcupine porcupine

Great book! I really like it

I love the books helped me to navigate better relationships and this one is a perfect guide to love, help and understand people who have been hurt, therefore now they act like “porcupines”

Just…

So So 🤷🏽 and the price was a little high for length of book, not much content.

Easy read with lots of value

I took copious notes! So much value in the simplistic strategies of loving those who may present as more difficult.

How to hug a porcupines

I love it. I really understand more about the porcupines people and even in me.

Enabling and vague.

This book tells you to “try to be thick skinned.” It is vague and describes enabling behavior. It doesn’t give concrete advice, just general advice like “be patient” “don’t get upset” “know their cues.”

I didn’t enjoy this at all.