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40 Strategies You Already Use
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In How to Be Miserable, psychologist Randy Paterson outlines 40 specific behaviors and habits which - if followed - are sure to lead to a lifetime of unhappiness. On the other hand, if you do the opposite, you may yet join the ranks of happy people everywhere!
There are stacks upon stacks of self-help books that will promise you love, happiness, and a fabulous life. But how can you pinpoint the exact behaviors that cause you to be miserable in the first place? Sometimes when we're depressed, or just sad or unhappy, our instincts tell us to do the opposite of what we should - such as focusing on the negative, dwelling on what we can't change, isolating ourselves from friends and loved ones, eating junk food, or overindulging in alcohol. Sound familiar?
This tongue-in-cheek guide will help you identify the behaviors that make you unhappy and discover how you - and only you - are holding yourself back from a life of contentment. You'll learn to spot the tried-and-true traps that increase feelings of dissatisfaction, foster a lack of motivation, and detract from our quality of life - as well as ways to avoid them.
So, get ready to live the life you want (or not?). This fun, irreverent guide will light the way.
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- Anonymous User
- 06-10-17
If you are interested, buy it
It was exactly what I was looking for. The irony alone sells it, and it has a lot of practical advises. I totally recommend it.
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- Tim G.
- 12-26-16
Sarcasm can get a bit tiresome; overall good info.
Seems like it says a lot of the same things other self help books say, but in a sarcastic, reverse psychology manner which can be funny at times, but it did get a bit old and was a bit hard to follow in an audio book. At times I was like wait what? he wants me to not exercise, etc.? Overall there were some good nuggets of information, particularly at the end when he talks about the palliative care unit at the hospital. Really hits home.
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- Anonymous User
- 01-13-25
Mind opening and insightful
The approach really helps take a different view on your daily practices and analyze your behavior in a new and interesting way
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- Sam
- 07-04-17
Pretty good.
I liked the point of view this book took. I originally bought it as a result of watching the CGP Grey video, and I'm glad I did.
I also enjoyed the the man reading the book. His voice was pleasing.
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- Modevs
- 10-22-18
You should read it
For anyone who's ever felt anxious, depressed or unfulfilled in life the book offers mini useful and practical tips and strategies to manage negative emotions and eventually to help you find a path to contentment.
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- Vicki Kluzek
- 09-08-18
A great guide for improving your life
lots of simple and practical tips to help make your life a more enjoyable, satisfying, and fulfilling one. And all done from an innovative tongue and cheek perspective. Loved it.
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- Mr.Engineer
- 10-09-23
video games can be good
i disagree with what he said about. video games can ver a very fulfilling hobby, if done moderation.
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- Stefan
- 06-01-17
Fun
This book is in a way both funny and really useful, and I love every second of it
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- Bradlee Hicks
- 06-01-17
taught me some things about life and myself
As a long time depressed person I found this book deeply helpful in identifying and giving me some solutions as to how not to be miserable.
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- Kindle Customer
- 01-10-19
Very Good
Very good insight into obvious paths to misery we all take daily and a timely and reasonable reminder as to why we should not.
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