How Children Raise Parents

The Art of Listening to Your Family

By: Dan Allender

Narrated by: Dan Allender

Parents put their confidence in rules and principles and apply themselves to doing everything right. They believe that diligent application of the right methods will protect their kids from threatening influences and will assure that their kids succeed. But rather than building a healthy parent/child relationship, the rules-oriented approach places unreasonable demands and expectations on both parents and children. And the added pressure makes it more difficult for a child to feel loved by his parents - and by God.

To reduce pressure and enjoy greater closeness, parents need to turn their approach upside-down by allowing God to use their children to lead them to spiritual maturity. How Children Raise Parents provides a bold new paradigm by showing that parenting is the process God uses to help parents grow up. This liberating approach helps parents learn to prize what they're being taught by their child's quirks, failures, and normal childhood dilemmas, rather than worrying about what their children will accomplish in life.

©2005 Dan Allender (P)2006 Brilliance Audio, Inc.

Great read challenging and relieving

This book is both challenging and relieving most parenting books leave you in the dust, like you'll never attain the unreachable goal they set forth, this one is to be authentic make mistakes and learn as you go, letting your kids do the same and more

Interesting perspective

Good reminder that we grow with our kids and they have lots to teach us. Knowing our humanly sin /desire and insecurity would be magnified as parents is a good reminder that we are parenting whenever and wherever we are. We don't need to be perfect but ability to adjust , learn, forgive , apologize and accept are vital to be mindful about. I think this is a good general book.I hope there will be more books Dan Allender write about more specifics in terms of raising boys vs girls; specifically the sexual identity issues and going different developmental stages.

Good Book

This book addresses very important situations and subjects as a parent and makes you open your eyes at things that may have not have been thought about.

great perspective!

There is much wisdom to be gained from listening to this book! Very good book.

A Deeply Needed Commentary for Our Cultural Era

Deeply encouraging for anyone who wants to break generational cycles of abusive/neglectful parenting and raise children with truth and grace. (Hint: experiencing our being a loved child of our Heavenly Father is what informs our parenthood to our children.)

amazing insite

I loved this book! Such depth and truth for all parents and children, so everyone!

Loved it, fantastic

I took so many notes! Allender is full of insight and wisdom- I found this very helpful.