Healing Shame

How to Work with This Powerful, Mysterious Emotion - and Transform It into an Ally

By: Bret Lyon PhD SEP, Sheila Rubin MA LMFT RDT/BCT

Narrated by: Bret Lyon PhD SEP, Sheila Rubin MA LMFT RDT/BCT

Uncover our most powerful, complex, and misunderstood emotion

Shame. Just the word makes most people uncomfortable, and though we all feel shame, no one likes to acknowledge it. Why? Because shame is the most painful and destructive emotion we experience. It’s also designed to protect us.

In Healing Shame, Sheila Rubin and Dr. Bret Lyon ask the question: What if your shame - that awful, overwhelming emotion - could work for you instead of sabotaging your well-being?

“Shame is at the root of depression, trauma, addiction, eating disorders, and perfectionism”, they teach. “When we go to extremes to keep our vulnerabilities hidden, our very efforts keep us stuck. But when we develop a healthy relationship with this complex emotion, we find freedom and healing.”

An empowering exploration of shame - where it comes from and how we can heal

For almost two decades, Lyon and Rubin have been leading the effort to educate psychotherapists on how to more effectively work with shame. With this new audio program, they make their most important teachings available to everyone. Through six dynamic, practice-filled sessions, you’ll explore topics such as the difference between shame and other difficult emotions, sex and relationships, the body and aging, childhood trauma, and more. Finally, you’ll learn how to have a healthy relationship with shame, cultivating safe boundaries, strength, and resilience.

A married couple who have made peeling back the layers of shame their life’s work, Lyon and Rubin bring great compassion to their teachings. With humor and hope, they’ll help you understand how to transform toxic shame into healthy shame, so you can go from feeling stuck, wrong, and fearful to creative, whole, and empowered.

Highlights

• Why shame is the “magic” emotion - explore the mysterious, transformative nature of shame
• How shame keeps us stuck, making it harder to move on from other difficult emotions and experiences
• Unconscious shame - why this might underlie a host of other symptoms, and how to address our issues at their roots
• Where shame comes from - understand the unique series of events, internal and external, that lead to lasting shame, as well as its inextricable link with trauma
• The ways shame interacts with the most important parts of our lives—sex and relationships, addiction, our bodies, aging, sharing our work with the world, and more
• Working with shame in therapy - guidance for both practitioners and clients
• How to transform toxic shame into healthy shame - understand the evolutionary role of this powerful emotion
• A wealth of tools, practices, and exercises from a variety of therapeutic traditions to help you work with shame in safe, compassionate ways
• Six in-depth audio sessions filled with understanding, insight, and hope for healing

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2021 Sheila Rubin, Bret Lyon (P)2021 Sounds True

Wisdom of the Elders!

I plan to listen to it over and over again to gain additional insight. Cheers!

Very important audiobook to anyone who has trauma!

Shame is at the root of pain and suffering, but luckily you don't have to feel trapped anymore. What Sheila and Bret have outlined here is a practical understanding for how shame operates. We all deal with shame to some degree, but it can vary depending on what kind of trauma you experienced growing up. The good news is there's now hope beyond shame and this audiobook tells you exactly how to get there (:

Good content, slow delivery

I found it very helpful to speed the delivery up to 1.3x. That was really the perfect speed, it doesn’t sound at all unnatural. The speakers just talk extremely slow. Overall, it was great and I’ll probably listen to it again.

Very helpful and insightful information, especially for such a difficult topic

The information, insights, advice... wonderful. Actually very helpful. I always love to find people with a pioneering and truly effective understanding and or viable method(s) for approaching complexes/emotions/ailments/etc which are not only a far cut above whatever typically convoluted and sometimes counter productive dribble the mainstream systems/current “conventional” “wisdom” on said topics may be, but are truly innovative as well.

Now... that being said... the authors/speakers sound... idk how to put it... almost exhausted.
Maybe that’s helpful and or intentional? Like to help evoke a calming tone but... it’s a lot.. and makes it kinda hard to stay tuned in when listening but-
Well worth it.

Life Changing

This was a very insightful listen which will benefit my relationships and overall well being. It brought understanding and allowed me to take more responsibility for disharmony I have contributed to.
The authors are very genuine in their expression and share their personal stories with shame which lends credibility.
The meditations if approached with openness are powerful as are the writing exercises.
The book covers many facets of shame not all of which applied to myself; however, it explained much of my own experience, and I will use the information I learned to the end of my days.

Great info delivered w/ compassion and sensitivity

There is so much amazing information in this book. I'm not even all the way thru it yet and it has already shifted some internal paradigms that have stood in my way since childhood. Absolutely love what the authors say about how we as a society have created so much needless body shame, especially in women. And I enjoy the format of having them both narrate, as each one brings their own, very interesting perspectives that I'm sure many will relate to.

After hearing this, I feel like I have a much better grasp on how to work with myself and communicate with others. And now that I can see the effect that shaming has, I am able to begin a process of attempting to communicate with more kindness and gentleness. Very grateful to the authors and Sounds True for releasing this audiobook.

Important topic to be explored

Kudos for making audiobook on such an important and neglected topic. Definitely some valuable information in here.. i'm not sure the visualizations are the way to heal shame. That has not been studied and there were a lot of these visualizations. I didn't like the way Brett kept using "kind of." Got to be annoying.

The Narration is painfully slow. Important subject

I'm not sure if the Women narrator is medicated, but it does sound that way, very very slow. The man does a great job, if you can get past the slowness of the womens voice, ( which I could not) it is an important subject.

not accurate

saying grief, mourning was to end, a process meant to have an endtime. i disagree