We often believe that if we try harder and harder to be the perfect partner, parent, friend, or employee, we will somehow create a trouble-free life and gain the love, safety, and respect we crave. Yet when we chronically strive for perfection, we tend to create more self-judgment, anxiety, and stress. Unfortunately, this toxic dynamic can foster a nasty inner critic whose negative commentary harms the self and those around us. And all too often, the fear of judgment, disapproval, not being loved, or disappointing others feeds the beast of perfectionism. Can gentleness, grace, and imperfect love be the antidote? Join Dr. Carla and psychotherapist Debra Fox Gansenberg for an uplifting exploration of how to make friends with your wonderfully imperfect self and free yourself from toxic comparisons, shame, and blame! As the co-author of How to Raise Perfectly Imperfect Kids and Be Okay with It and as an Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy expert, Debra brings a wealth of clinical experience to this dynamic episode.

Books by Dr. Carla Manly:

Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love Fearlessly

Joy From Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend

Aging Joyfully: A Woman's Guide to Optimal Health, Relationships, and Fulfillment for Her 50s and Beyond

The Joy of Imperfect Love: The Art of Creating Healthy, Securely Attached Relationships

Connect with Dr. Carla Manly:

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Book by Debra Fox Gansenberg:

How to Raise Perfectly Imperfect Kids and Be Ok with It: Real Tips & Strategies for Parents of Today's Gen Z Kids

Connect with Debra Fox Gansenberg:

Website: https://newbeginningscounselingservice.com

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