Have you ever wondered why so many people hesitate to seek therapy despite its known benefits? In this *special Summer bonus* episode, Jodie & Stephanie are tackling this question head-on, shedding light on the common barriers like past negative experiences, cultural or religious values, and the persistent stigma surrounding mental health care. We'll guide you through the essential steps of finding the right therapist who fits your needs perfectly. From what questions to ask during your initial consultation to how to handle the unease of switching therapists, we provide practical advice to make your journey smoother. We also stress the importance of a good therapeutic alliance and continuous feedback for a more effective and personalized experience.

Jodie and Stephanie attempt to answer questions like:

What should I ask a potential therapist before I commit to working with them?

How do I get my partner to do couples counselling?

What if therapy just isn’t in my budget?

What if I choose a therapist and it's not the right fit?

Resources:

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Disclaimer: Please note that while the "Therapists off the Clock" presents discussions on various mental health topics and provides general advice and education, it is not a substitute for professional mental health services or counselling. The information shared by the hosts is based on their professional experiences and personal observations, and it should not be considered as professional mental health advice. If you are experiencing a mental health crisis or are considering self-harm, please seek immediate help from a healthcare provider. If you need professional counselling or psychotherapy, we recommend reaching out to a qualified mental health professional in your area. While we hope our podcast provides support and encouragement, it is not intended to replace any therapeutic relationship or specific advice provided by a mental health professional. Your use of this podcast does not establish a counsellor-client relationship with the hosts or any guests. Any action you take upon the information on this podcast is strictly at your own risk, and we will not be liable for any losses and damages in connection with the use of our podcast. Always seek the advice of your mental health professional or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding your mental health or a medical condition.

Stephanie and Jodie wrap up this season with heartfelt reflections on their paths to self-improvement and wellness. As two therapists with a wealth of experience, they’re opening up about their personal commitment to mental health and the flexibility of daily protocols that support our journey. It's all about fostering self-compassion and the transformative power of kind self-talk. They also unpack the importance of being in tune with our nervous systems, acknowledging when it's time to pause and recalibrate, and how supportive relationships can be instrumental in breaking negative cycles. Then, we dive into the essentials of establishing a daily protocol for emotional balance. They explore a range of techniques, from breathwork and gratitude practices to the healing frequencies of sound waves, to help maintain equilibrium in both gut and emotional health. Plus, they discuss how to process and release emotions effectively, and why understanding our personal triggers is key to emotional regulation.

Jodie and Stephanie attempt to answer questions like:

What daily rituals can you implement to stay grounded and promote self-compassion?

Can positive psychology and intentional manifestation realistically change your circumstances?

What practical steps can you take to rewire your neural pathways and bring your dreams into reality?

Chapters:

(00:01) Daily Protocols and Nervous System Wellness

It’s our season finale! We explore our personal commitment to mental health and self-care, emphasizing the importance of passion and authenticity in our work. We discuss the concept of daily protocols, not as rigid structures but as flexible practices that foster self-compassion and kindness. Highlighting the need for gentle self-talk, we examine the transformative power of reframing our internal dialogue. Additionally, we touch on the significance of tuning into our nervous systems for cues on when to pause and recalibrate, underscoring the value of having supportive relationships to help break negative cycles.

(13:23) Power of Manifestation and Positive Psychology

We explore the power of manifestation and its tangible effects on overall well-being. Is there science there?? We both share a personal testament to the effectiveness of intentional manifestation, discussing the transition from significant debt to financial ease by affirming beliefs such as deserving to be debt-free and attracting money. We highlight the importance of how we speak to ourselves, drawing parallels to positive psychology principles like growth mindset and the rewiring of neural pathways. The conversation touches on the use of locked notes on phones for journaling manifestations and the excitement of revisiting these manifestations in the future to witness their fruition. We also address potential skepticism and clarify that manifestation aligns with scientific concepts of subconscious priming and affirmations, emphasizing the importance of intention and specificity in our self-dialogue to foster resilience and positive outcomes in our lives.

(21:10) Daily Protocol for Emotional Balance

We talk about the importance of establishing a personal daily protocol to manage energy and emotions effectively. Jodie and Stepanie discuss various techniques like breathwork, gratitude, and sound wave frequencies to help bring the body back to homeostasis and improve gut and emotional health by sharing their own daily protocols. We also consider the significance of movement, nature, and pet interactions as mindfulness practices....

In this episode, we explore the multifaceted landscape of self-discovery and the pivotal role of surrendering and self-acceptance in our lives. We ask the essential question, "Who am I?" beyond the labels and dive into the power of being present in the now, while gently dismantling the hustle culture that often leads to burnout. Discover the liberating joy that comes with embracing life as it unfolds, accepting milestones as they come, and treating ourselves with compassion. We peel back the layers of self-compassion, shedding light on the healing potential of letting go of shame and guilt. We invite you to turn inward, acknowledge your past without judgement, and accept your journey with open arms, stepping into a space of genuine self-discovery and self-acceptance.

Jodie and Stephanie attempt to answer questions like:

Why can surrendering help us move away from hustle culture and multitasking?

Do we truly have control over our life?

Why should we focus on finding connections with like-minded individuals (or chosen family)?

What does healing and nurturing our inner child involve?

Chapters:

(00:01) Surrendering and Self-Acceptance in Life

We explore the journey of self-discovery and the importance of asking ourselves "Who am I?" beyond our roles and responsibilities. We consider the concept of surrendering as a way to move away from hustle culture and multitasking, examining the role resistance plays in our suffering and how much control we truly have over life's events. We also discuss the power of being present and the joy that can come from accepting our lives as they are, rather than constantly chasing the next milestone.

(04:59) Embracing Self-Acceptance and Compassion

We highlight the role of self-compassion in recognizing our past behaviours without judgement and understanding that we've done the best we could with the knowledge we had at the time. The conversation shifts to the power of letting go of shame, guilt, and pain through acceptance and surrendering, encapsulated by the phrase (and Jodie’s future tattoo?) "Let it be."

(09:36) Surrender, Acceptance, and Setting Boundaries

We explore the journey of confronting and overcoming personal trauma. Jodie shares her own struggle with the shame and pain of experiences she didn't choose and how they infiltrated every aspect of her life. We discuss the importance of acknowledging these feelings, the concept of neutrality in accepting that bad things happen, and the power of choice in either resisting or surrendering to our past.

(12:39) The Importance of Inner Child Work

We discuss the impact of early caregiver relationships, even from the prenatal stage, on our adult behaviours and attachment patterns, such as anxiety and dependency in relationships. We emphasize the importance of various therapeutic modalities like somatic therapy, EMDR, cognitive restructuring, and internal family systems (IFS), highlighting the need for holistic approaches that address both the psychological and the somatic self. The conversation also touches on the importance of self-acceptance, individuation, and honouring our evolving desires and needs, as well as the transformative power of turning inwards to provide self-compassion and to calm internal parts that may be in distress.

(17:00) Healing and Nourishing the Soul

We talk about the importance of acknowledging and understanding the experiences of our inner selves,...

Join us as we wrap up our inaugural season of Therapists Off the Clock, with our last mini-series of Season One: Soul Work. Over the next three episodes, we will be bringing together the crucial elements of mind, body, and soul for holistic self-improvement. Stephanie and Jodie share their personal journeys and professional insights into integrating soul work into therapy. Listen in as we navigate the powerful interconnection of all aspects of our being, embracing growth and the acceptance of the unknown along the way. This conversation takes an honest look at the challenges parents face in the digital age, including the impact of social media on our perception and the importance of authentic connections with our children. We reflect on how to retrain our nervous systems to be present, moving from societal expectations to personal authenticity.We hope you like this heart-to-heart on letting go of what no longer serves us and the essential soul work that fosters genuine human connections and personal growth.

Jodie and Stephanie attempt to answer questions like:

How does the constant distraction of digital devices affect our ability to be present?

Can we live more intentionally and in alignment with our intuition and gut feelings?

What steps can we take to ditch hustle culture?

And, what does that even look like?

Chapters:

(00:02) Explore Mind, Body, and Soul in Therapy

We examine the interconnectedness of the mind, body, and soul, emphasizing the continuous, evolving process of growth and the acceptance of the unknown. Personal anecdotes highlight the challenges and resilience involved in soul work, including dealing with trauma, loss, and phases of dissociation, while also pointing towards the potential for post-traumatic growth.

(10:54) Parenting, Social Media, and Authentic Living

We discuss the importance of being present for our children and the negative impact of distraction caused by our phones and the constant influx of notifications. Acknowledging Peter Levine's insights on attachment, we reflect on how our digital habits can hinder our ability to connect and attune to our children's needs. We also contemplate the journey from fulfilling societal tasks to seeking personal authenticity and the process of discarding what no longer serves us, including aspects of our ego.

(14:48) Importance of Soul Work and Space

We recognize how tuning into our intuition and gut feelings reveals the answers we've been searching for, which are often missed in the noise and distraction of our busy lives. We discuss the importance of slowing down, as reflected in our own experiences of being forced to pause by illness, and how this has led to healing and addressing childhood wounds. Through this, we understand why soul work is essential: without confronting and resolving our inner conflicts, we cannot fully grow.

(20:29) Shifting Energies in 2024

We explore the potent energy that 2024 is predicted to bring, focusing on the theme of growth and transformation. We share our own sense of the shifting energies and the excitement for the soul work that lies ahead. We'll be looking forward to engaging with our listeners to hear about their spiritual journeys and the soul work they are undertaking.

Resources:

About the work of Dr. Peter Levine, which Jodie mentions when talking about...

Picture this - a zebra, narrowly escaping the jaws of a lion, shaking out the fear that moments ago consumed it, then moving on with its life. Could we, as humans, learn from this natural mechanism to heal from our own traumas? Join Stephanie Dinsmore and Jodie Lockey-Duesling as we venture through the riveting world of somatic experiencing and therapy. This episode is a deep dive into understanding trauma cycles, a journey illuminated by profound insights from the renowned physician Gabor Maté. Our exploration doesn't stop there. We also introduce you to the orienting exercise - a practical method that can help you regain a sense of safety and security in your surroundings. We'll delve into the importance of seeking professional help for trauma and the crucial role of attachment and attunement during our early years.

Jodie and Stephanie attempt to answer questions like:

Are animals better than humans at processing trauma?

When it comes to trauma, why can't we just distract ourselves for the rest of our life and just move on?

Can you practice somatic experiencing on yourself?

Why is a trauma-informed intake important and what does it include?

Chapters:

(00:01) - Somatic Experiencing and Therapy

We highlight how animals naturally complete their trauma cycles by physically shaking out stress, while humans often remain stuck in a state of hypervigilance. We introduce the orienting exercise, which helps clients feel more embodied and safe in their surroundings. The importance of completing the trauma cycle and releasing stored tension in the body is emphasized.

(05:02) - Complete Trauma Cycle Through Somatic Work

We discuss the importance of integrating the brain, body, and soul to release trapped trauma. The Embody Lab is introduced as a resource for therapists and providers to learn about somatic experiencing. We reference the work of physician Gabor Maté, who emphasizes that trauma is not just external events, but also the internal impact. The concept of being "locked" or "lost" within one's psyche is discussed, highlighting the need for a bottom-up approach to trauma recovery.

(17:00) - Understanding Trauma and Somatic Experiencing

We discuss how trauma can manifest in various ways, such as hypervigilance or dissociation, and how it can impact our daily lives. We also explore the concept of somatic experiencing and how it can help individuals process and heal from trauma. We emphasize the importance of seeking professional help and creating a safe space for processing trauma. We also touch on the trauma-informed intake process and the significance of attachment and attunement in our formative years.

Resources:

Book Recommendation: “Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers” by Robert M. Sapolsky

We do not make any money from the purchasing of this book. We are simply sharing the easiest link. This book should be available at bookstores and libraries around the world.

Book Recommendation: "The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in...

Join hosts Stephanie Dinsmore and Jodie Lockey-Duesling, for a rich discussion on the mind, body, and soul connection. We'll share our personal experiences with alternative wellness therapies such as sound baths and Reiki, highlighting the profound impact of the interplay between our nervous system, immune system, and emotions. Listen in as we explore how this intricate relationship can be leveraged in therapy for holistic wellness, emphasizing that our minds and bodies are not separate entities, but components of one comprehensive system. We'll also touch on the groundbreaking book "The Body Keeps the Score", a must-read for anyone seeking a deeper understanding of the integration of brain science, attachment research, and body awareness in trauma treatment.

Jodie and Stephanie attempt to answer questions like:

Are our nervous system, immune system, and emotions intricately linked?

How can trauma create a disconnect between the mind and body?

What is the importance of a proactive approach towards nurturing the mind-body connection?

How can we incorporate preventative measures into our approach to wellness?

Chapters:

(00:02) - Exploring the Mind-Body Connection

Mind, body, and soul are interconnected in therapy, with a strong connection to our nervous and immune systems. Stephanie and Jodie share their personal experiences with alternative wellness therapies like sound baths and Reiki. They emphasize the importance of incorporating the mind, body, and soul in therapy and highlight the strong connection between our nervous system, immune system, and emotions. The chapter emphasizes that there is no separation between the mind and body, but rather they are all part of one system.

(03:29) - Trauma's Impact on Mind-Body Connection

Our mental and physical health are connected, trauma can create a mind-body disconnect, and body trauma can lead to fragmented memories. The hosts share their personal experiences with chronic anxiety and its impact on their physical health, including gastrointestinal issues. They emphasize the importance of addressing both the physical and mental aspects of health in therapy, as well as how trauma can create a disconnect between the mind and body.

(10:47) - Mind-Body Therapy and Techniques

We discuss how hypervigilance and survival mode can affect our bodies, leading to ongoing stress and trauma. Jodie and Stephanie share techniques for grounding and breathwork to help manage these symptoms. The importance of neuroplasticity, neurogenesis, and apoptosis in changing our brain's response to trauma is highlighted. We also mention the use of neurofeedback and brain imaging to shift our energy and focus.

(17:30) - Shifting Towards Preventative Treatment and Wellness

We explore the interconnectedness of mind, body, and soul, emphasizing the importance of preventative measures and a focus on wellness and positivity. We discuss the need to nourish our souls and incorporate protective factors into our lives. We tee up the next episode in the series where we will delve deeper into somatic experiencing and the mind-body connection.

Resources:

Book Recommendation: "The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma" by Bessel van der Kolk

Disclaimer: We do not make any money from the purchase of this book. We are simply sharing

Ever toyed with the idea of art and nature as therapy? Ever wondered how puppetry, improv, or even stand-up comedy can be tools for healing? Join seasoned therapists Stephanie Dinsmore and Jodie Lockey-Duesling, as we navigate the vibrant world of creative healing. We delve into the mind's bottom layers, the subconscious and unconscious, and explore how art, music, dance, and nature can unlock these hidden resources. We'll also unpack the significance of holistic therapy and its focus on mind-body connection and completing the trauma cycle. It's a journey into the self, tapping into the therapeutic power of creativity.

Jodie and Stephanie attempt to answer questions like:

How can holistic approaches to therapy, such as art, music, dance, and nature therapy, lead to profound therapeutic experiences?

How can creative healing be adapted for individuals who are more introverted?

What are some examples of creative healing exercises?

Chapters:

(00:01) - Creative Healing in Mental Health

We discuss various forms of creative healing, such as art, music, dance, and nature therapy, and highlight the importance of accessing the subconscious and unconscious through these modalities. We also touch on the bottom-up approach to therapy, which focuses on the mind-body connection and completing the trauma cycle.

(12:59) - Drama Therapy and Creative Healing Techniques

We discuss drama therapy and its techniques, such as reparenting and role-playing, as well as other forms of creative expression like puppetry, improv, and stand-up comedy. We also mention how TikTok can be a platform for authentic self-expression. For introverted listeners, we suggest individualized forms of creative healing, such as plant therapy, doodling, and mandalas. We also share an art exercise called the "Who Am I" exercise, which uncovers surprising insights about oneself.

Resources:

More information on Jodie-Lockey Duesling

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Book an appointment with Mindful Path Counselling

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Disclaimer: Please note that while the "Therapists off the Clock" presents discussions on various mental health topics and provides general advice and education, it is not a substitute for professional mental health services or counselling. The information shared by the hosts is based on their professional experiences and personal observations, and it should not be considered as professional mental health advice. If you are experiencing a mental health crisis or are considering self-harm, please seek immediate help from a healthcare provider. If you need professional counselling or psychotherapy, we recommend reaching out to a qualified mental health professional in your area. While we hope our podcast provides support and encouragement, it is not intended to replace any therapeutic relationship or specific advice provided by a mental health professional. Your use of this podcast does not establish a counsellor-client relationship with the hosts or any guests. Any action you take upon the information on this podcast is strictly at your own risk, and we will not be liable for any losses and damages in connection with the use of our podcast. Always seek the advice of your mental health professional or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding...

“Suck it up!”, “Walk it off!”, “Don’t be a girl!” – these are toxic things we were told as kids that made us put a mask over our authentic selves. Jodie and Stephanie explore the profound and complex topic of internal family systems (IFS), and the interrelated concepts of masking and unmasking. Plus, how these psychological shields can be both a protective mechanism and a hindrance, often concealing our most vulnerable and authentic selves. We discuss the idea of 'exiles' – those parts of us that are deeply hurt and inform our present lives – and how they interact with 'managers' and 'firefighters', the parts of us that strive to protect our exiles from being triggered.

Jodie and Stephanie attempt to answer questions like:

What is the role of vulnerability in our personal and professional lives?

How important is it to honour our inner child and how does this relate to authenticity?

How can unmasking lead to more authentic relationships and a stronger, more genuine connection with others?

How do we remove our masks and become more of our authentic selves?

Chapters:

(00:02) Unmasking and Authenticity

We explore the topic of internal family systems (IFS) and the concepts of masking and unmasking. We discuss how masking can be helpful, and how unmasking is essential for self-improvement, growth, and relationships. We also talk about the idea of exiles, which are the hurt and vulnerable parts of ourselves, and how they inform our present life.

(09:27) Importance of Authenticity and Emotional Expression

We discuss how managers, firefighters, and exiles can serve a protective purpose, but also how we can recognize when these masks no longer serve us. We explore how vulnerability is often not rewarded in the workplace and how people use masks as a form of survival. We emphasise the importance of creating a safe space to process and release emotions.

(15:04) Embracing Authenticity in Parenting and Self-Growth

We look at the need for self-compassion and honouring our inner child. We discuss how unmasking can help us become more of our authentic selves, and how to recognize when masks are no longer serving us. We also explore the use of IFS for inner child work, and how we can use it to foster authenticity.

(21:00) Discovering Authenticity and Removing Masks

We explore the importance of self-compassion and the power of unmasking to lead to more authentic relationships. We discuss how our younger selves often mask their true identities out of fear of not fitting in, and how important it is to have people in your life that support you in dropping that mask and embracing your true self.

Resources:

Internal Family Systems (IFS) pie chart (on Managers, Firefighters and Exiles)

More information on Jodie-Lockey Duesling

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Disclaimer: Please note that while the "Therapists off the Clock" presents discussions on various mental health topics and provides general advice and education, it is not a substitute for professional mental health services or counselling. The information shared by the hosts is based on their professional experiences and personal...