If you’ve ever found yourself swiping left over something as simple as height, this episode is for you.

Today, we’re diving into Tinder’s new height filter - but more importantly, what our dating preferences really say about us. Is it just a preference, or is it a way to avoid vulnerability, risk, or disappointment?

Let's unpack how physical “requirements” like height can sometimes mask deeper needs for safety, control, and certainty. It's time to reflect on your own filters - both on and off the apps, and ask yourself: What am I really trying to feel?

Inside this episode:

✨ What dating filters might actually be protecting you from
✨ The deeper emotional needs behind common physical preferences
✨ Why attraction isn’t always about appearance — it’s about patterns
✨ How to tell the difference between genuine compatibility and emotional defense
✨ A new perspective on creating meaningful connections, not just curated profiles

🎧 Hit play to explore the link between safety, standards, and self-awareness in modern dating.

I'd love to connect with you and of course if you have any insights or questions from the show, please reach out to me on Insta!

To access my free relationship e-books or to book a coaching call with me, head to my website.

Have you ever wondered why certain dating dynamics feel so familiar, or so frustrating? Why you keep attracting the same kinds of partners, or why true connection still feels out of reach even when you're doing all the “right” things?

In today's episode, I'm joined by relationship coach Jack Bohannan for a deep dive into the inner workings of attraction, attachment, and authenticity. Jack brings a powerful lens to modern relationships, blending his expertise in attachment theory, gender polarity, and the Somatica Method to help clients connect more deeply - with others, and with themselves.

Together, we explore the real reasons behind common relationship struggles, and how stepping into your authentic self can change the game in love and connection.

In this episode, we discuss:

💫 How attachment styles shape your dating patterns
💫 What “polarity” really means - and why it matters in healthy relationships
💫 How the Somatica Method helps people explore boundaries, desire, and intimacy
💫 The impact of gender roles and authenticity in modern dating
💫 What secure connection actually looks and feels like
💫 How to connect with Jack and access his upcoming relationship webinar

✨ Whether you're navigating new dating dynamics or working on healing old wounds, this conversation is a powerful reminder: real love starts with real you

Connect with Jack

Free Webinar: polarityunscripted.com/heal

Instagram: www.instagram.com/polarityunscripted/

I'd love to connect with you and of course if you have any insights or questions from the show, please reach out to me on Insta!

To access my free relationship e-books or to book a coaching call with me, head to my website.

If dating has started to feel more draining than exciting, you’re not alone.

In this episode, we’re unpacking the very real (and very common) experience of dating fatigue - what causes it, how it shows up, and what you can do to move through it with more clarity and self-compassion.

From the addictive nature of dating apps to the pressure to “keep trying” without a real plan, dating can quickly become overwhelming. Today I share real client stories and practical steps for taking a mindful pause, resetting your intentions, and protecting your emotional energy.

Inside this episode:

✨ The telltale signs of dating burnout (and how to spot them early)
✨ Why taking a break isn’t “giving up” - it’s often the smartest move
✨ How to re-enter dating with clear goals and stronger boundaries
✨ What to do when swiping starts to feel like self-sabotage
✨ How intentional breaks can actually fast-track your path to healthy love

💭 If you’ve been feeling jaded, cynical, or just plain tired of the dating scene, this episode is your permission slip to pause, realign, and date differently.

🎧 Hit play and learn how to shift from dating on autopilot to dating with purpose.

I'd love to connect with you and of course if you have any insights or questions from the show, please reach out to me on Insta!

To access my free relationship e-books or to book a coaching call with me, head to my website.

If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in the same painful dating patterns, emotionally unavailable partners, one-sided connections, chasing love while abandoning yourself - you’re not alone. And more importantly, you’re not broken.

On today's episode, I'm joined by clinical psychologist, couples therapist, and author Phoebe Rogers, who is a returning guest, to talk about her new book: When Will it Happen for Me? A shame-free guide to finding love on your own timeline.

Phoebe shares her own story of healing, including how inner child work, self-compassion, and therapy helped her break free from toxic dating cycles and start showing up for herself in love. Together, we delve into how our past shapes our patterns - and how real transformation begins when we choose to love ourselves first.

On this episode we explore:

• Why toxic relationship patterns often stem from early emotional wounds
• How inner child work can transform your dating life
• The shift from chasing validation to building self-trust
• Why self-love doesn’t mean waiting to be “fully healed”
• How Phoebe’s personal story shaped her clinical work and her book
• A sneak peek at her book release and pre-order bonus for listeners

✨ If you’ve been wondering when love will finally “happen” for you - this episode might just be the reminder you didn’t know you needed: real love starts with you.

Connect with Phoebe:

www.instagram.com/therelationshipspace

www.therelationshipspace.com.au

And pre-order your own copy of Phoebe's book, due for release on 19th June 2025: https://www.therelationshipspace.com.au/when-will-it-happen-for-me-book

I'd love to connect with you and of course if you have any insights or questions from the show, please reach out to me on Insta!

To access my free relationship e-books or to book a coaching call with me, head to my website.

Do you really need to be fully healed before dating again? Or is that belief actually keeping you stuck?

In this episode, we’re breaking down the myth that you have to be perfectly healed to start a new relationship. Healing is a lifelong journey, and the truth is, some of the most powerful growth happens inside relationships - not outside of them.

Let’s shift the pressure from being “ready enough” to being intentional and self-aware.

On this episode we explore

• Why waiting to be fully healed may be delaying the love you actually want
• How to date with self-awareness and emotional responsibility
• The role of self-connection and self-talk in navigating dating setbacks
• How to recognize burnout in dating and stay grounded in your values
• Why growth in relationships can be just as meaningful as growth outside of them

✨ If you’ve been holding yourself back in love because you’re not “there yet,” this episode is your permission to show up as you are - healing, human, and open to connection.

🎧 Press play and reimagine what dating can look like when you lead with truth instead of perfection.

I'd love to connect with you and of course if you have any insights or questions from the show, please reach out to me on Insta!

To access my free relationship e-books or to book a coaching call with me, head to my website.

Welcome back, in this episode I sit down with Davina Hehn, a former therapist turned mental health coach, to explore the recurring patterns that often disrupt our relationships. From self-sabotage to the fear of conflict and emotional unavailability, we deep-dive into how these behaviors show up in both personal and romantic connections. Davina opens up about her own journey with her husband, sharing how their relationship transformed through emotional work and sobriety.

This week, we explore:

• The hidden patterns in relationships that often lead to self-sabotage, and how to identify them before they take control
• How fear of conflict and emotional unavailability can create distance and disconnection, even in the healthiest of partnerships
• Davina’s personal story of relationship struggles and transformation, offering real-world examples of growth
• Practical tools for singles and couples alike to better understand their emotional patterns and engage in proactive relationship maintenance
• The importance of building emotional literacy and conflict tolerance for a more fulfilling, resilient relationship

✨ If you’ve ever felt stuck in recurring relationship patterns or are struggling with fear of conflict or emotional blocks, this episode is your chance to break free and create more meaningful connections.

Connect with Davina

• https://www.instagram.com/asteadyspace
• https://www.threads.net/@asteadyspace
• https://www.tiktok.com/@asteadyspace
• https://www.youtube.com/@asteadyspace
• https://www.asteadyspace.com

I'd love to connect with you and of course if you have any insights or questions from the show, please reach out to me on Insta!

To access my free relationship e-books or to book a coaching call with me, head to my website.

Breakups hurt, but what if they’re also one of the most powerful portals to self-discovery and growth?

This week, we explore your breakup through a new lens: not as a failure, but as an opportunity. Let's unpack the hidden wisdom that heartbreak can reveal about your boundaries, your needs, and the relationship patterns you may be ready to break.

Rather than rushing into the next thing, consider slowing down, journaling, and reflecting on what your past relationships have been trying to teach you.

On this episode we go through

• Why breakups can hold the key to deeper self-trust and conscious connection
• The most important questions to ask yourself before getting into a new relationship
• How to recognize and rewrite recurring patterns in love
• What it looks like to express your needs without guilt or fear
• Why reflection is the real path to healing and emotional maturity

This isn’t just about moving on, it’s about moving forward intentionally.

✨ If you’re ready to stop repeating the same story in relationships, and start building a more authentic connection with yourself and others, this episode is your invitation.

🎧 Press play and begin the journey back to you.

I'd love to connect with you and of course if you have any insights or questions from the show, please reach out to me on Insta!

To access my free relationship e-books or to book a coaching call with me, head to my website.

Ever wondered why you keep reacting the way you do in relationships—even when you know it’s not helping?

In this episode, I’m joined by Flora Ong, certified life coach and integrated attachment specialist, to explore how our early attachment patterns silently shape our adult relationships—and how to finally break free from the ones that no longer serve us.

Flora opens up about her own post-divorce healing journey, and we unpack the deep, subconscious forces that fuel self-sabotage, emotional reactivity, and insecure attachment.

Inside this episode, we dive into:

• The difference between anxious and avoidant attachment styles—and how they show up in love
• Why your “window of tolerance” matters more than you think
• The sneaky ways self-sabotage shows up in dating and relationships
• How childhood conditioning wires your nervous system for disconnection
• Why curiosity, not judgment, is the secret weapon in personal growth
• What it really takes to feel safe in intimacy and connection

Whether you feel stuck in anxious loops, shut down emotionally, or keep replaying painful patterns—you’re not broken. You’re just repeating what once kept you safe.

This conversation is your invitation to slow down, get curious, and start building the emotional resilience that leads to secure, satisfying love.

🎧 Press play now—healing starts here.

Connect with Flora:
https://www.instagram.com/redo.love
https://www.tiktok.com/@redo_love
https://www.youtube.com/@RedoLove/shorts

I'd love to connect with you and of course if you have any insights or questions from the show, please reach out to me on Insta!

To access my free relationship e-books or to book a coaching call with me, head to my website.