In this episode, we hear Koby Falks's story of finding authenticity and strength by challenging toxic masculine stereotypes. Koby is an adult content creator, entrepreneur and advocate for authenticity in the adult content industry. Koby and I muse over topics as diverse as when masculinity turns toxic, how negating sex negates ourselves, and what it means to be a good bottom.

REFERENCES:
Koby Falks Linktree: https://linktr.ee/KobyFalks

Follow Koby on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChRpGMrLi-pnJFZCdP3e1Tg

Follow Koby on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kobyfalksofficial

Follow Koby on Facebook: https://facebook.com/kobyfalksdaddy

Follow Koby on Instagram: https://instagram.com/kobyfalks

Follow Koby on Threads: https://www.threads.net/@kobyfalks

• (00:00) - Opening credits
• (00:37) - Show opening
• (01:32) - Introducing Koby Falks
• (02:43) - The pandemic brings new opportunities
• (07:07) - Instead of external, look at the internal
• (12:13) - Dismissing what we don't understand
• (18:13) - Masculinity isn't bottling up, it's showing up
• (21:54) - Avoiding the masculine to feel more comfortable
• (26:47) - Rigidity breeds toxicity
• (32:35) - Being seen helps others be seen
• (36:05) - Bisexual stigmatized in the Queer community
• (41:21) - Challenging our own processes
• (43:58) - Dominant is not always masculine
• (45:54) - Controlling sex means controlling identity
• (50:19) - Power in the feminine
• (56:25) - Turns out we know about sex
• (58:21) - How to find Koby Falks on the internet
• (59:58) - Show closing
• (01:00:55) - Closing credits

Today we hear a story of pain and forgiveness from Katharine Giovanni. Katharine is a three-time award-winning, best-selling author; speaker; and forgiveness and transformation coach whose system of forgiveness empowers others to clear their own energy, even if others do not. Katharine and I talk about topics as diverse as the missed opportunities from holding on to anger, how even entrenched hate and discrimination can be overcome personally, and why forgiveness might reward you with a long trip to the bathroom.

REFERENCES:
Katharine Giovanni’s website: https://katharinegiovanni.com/

Follow Katharine on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/katharine.giovanni

Follow Katharine on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/katharinegiovanni/

Follow Katharine on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katharinegiovanni

Follow Katharine on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0PPtlSUPldGNl9mIRRtAmA/
Masaru Emoto and his Water Experiments: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Masaru_Emoto
Native American Energy Health Practices: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2913884/

• (00:00) - Opening credits
• (00:37) - Show opening
• (01:30) - Introducing Katharine Giovanni
• (02:19) - Everybody has a flashpoint
• (04:49) - Accidentally discovering forgiveness as a practice
• (07:48) - Forgiveness affects the bottom line
• (10:05) - Missed opportunities from holding on to anger
• (14:35) - Not forgotten, but perceived differently
• (16:53) - The science and effects of forgiveness
• (20:50) - Clearing the connections to the Universe
• (27:14) - What is the connection to the Universe?
• (36:07) - Finding forgiveness for yourself
• (38:51) - Some cautions on clearing this energy
• (42:54) - Forgiving the entrenched systems
• (46:25) - But what if your anger is useful...?
• (50:00) - Giving back the hate doesn't help
• (53:39) - How to find Katharine Giovanni on the internet
• (57:23) - Show closing
• (58:22) - Closing credits

This week, I chat with Pepper Kat about Western society's difficulty in embracing physicality and sexuality. Pepper is an adult entertainer and podcaster who founded Design Your Dreamgirl to provide a space for all people to explore their desires with no judgment. Pepper and I discuss the spectrum of sexual fantasy, how shaming intimacy is the worst form of control, and why Sigmund Freud should probably be retired.

REFERENCES:
Pepper Kat’s website: https://www.pepperkat.com/

Spicy Spectrum Podcast: https://www.pepperkat.com/heartfelt-perspectives

Follow Pepper on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@_pepper_kat_

Follow Pepper on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/pepperkat.bsky.social

Follow Pepper on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/peppertheblackkat/

Follow Pepper on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100091550276924
Follow Pepper on X: https://x.com/BlackKatPepper

• (00:00) - Opening credits
• (00:37) - Show opening
• (01:32) - Introducing Pepper Kat
• (02:06) - From news producer to Design Your Dream Girl
• (04:04) - Acknowledging desires reduces assault
• (09:12) - Historical biases drive current views on sex
• (13:48) - The spectrum of desire
• (18:23) - Sex work keeps the world sane
• (21:53) - Embrace your physicality
• (26:59) - Voice as a method of affirmation
• (29:16) - Intimacy takes many forms
• (32:22) - Being confident neough not to lie to yourself
• (36:45) - Why not just change social norms?
• (41:29) - And it all comes down to control
• (48:02) - Who can call Pepper Kat?
• (50:47) - How to find Pepper Kat on the internet
• (52:27) - Spicy Spectrum Podcast
• (54:04) - Show closing
• (55:48) - Closing credits

My guest this week is Leah Spasova, a psychologist, sex and relationships expert, and Founder of the website lifesexplicit.com, which provides resources for exploring identity, gender, and sexual wellness. Leah and I muse over topics as far afield as why people have sex, why bro culture needs sex, and how to find Jesus.

REFERENCES:
Lifesexplicit website: https://www.lifesexplicit.com/

Follow Lifesexplicit on Facebook: https://facebook.com/your.lifesexplicit

Follow Lifesexplicit on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifesexplicit_

Follow Lifesexplicit on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/leahspasova/

• (00:00) - Opening credits
• (00:37) - Show opening
• (01:32) - Introducing Leah Spasova
• (02:36) - Becoming the resident sexpert
• (08:24) - Two hundred reasons to have sex
• (14:06) - The horrific results of marketing with sex
• (16:42) - Humans want black and white for reality
• (23:18) - Combatting powerlessness with poor behavior
• (29:38) - Don't pay public opinion tax
• (35:32) - Don't be different from what you are
• (39:17) - ...you left
• (42:47) - Censorship from both sides
• (46:35) - The protectors are the predators
• (52:34) - Men's sexuality has no censorship
• (56:00) - Battling the censorship around sexual wellness
• (01:03:10) - How to find Leah Spasova on the internet
• (01:04:45) - Parting thoughts
• (01:06:57) - Show closing
• (01:07:32) - Closing credits

In today's episode, we hear John Diggs's story of distilling wisdom and personal insight using Mind Maps. John is a Mappineering Mentor, retired NFL and CFL player, and founder of MappineerVille.com, a community for the practice of Mappineering. John and I consider topics as far afield as the purpose of life, making sound decisions, and the importance of embracing who you are deep in your Soul.

REFERENCES:
John Diggs website: https://johndiggs.com

John’s I AM method: https://johndiggs.com/iam/

Follow John on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JohnDiggsMappineer/

Follow John on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MrJohnDiggs

Follow John on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-diggs-mappineer/

Follow John on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@johndiggable

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• (00:00) - Opening credits
• (00:37) - Show opening
• (01:29) - Introducing John Diggs
• (02:15) - The purpose of life is to love it
• (10:47) - Adults with minds of a child
• (14:22) - Choose your friends wisely
• (19:09) - The audacity of One True Perception
• (24:05) - Making decisions with Five Ws and One H
• (31:02) - The I AM Mind Map
• (36:03) - Mental health requires good tools
• (39:18) - Embrace what feels natural and right
• (43:10) - Finding who you are in your Soul
• (47:20) - Making I AM a practice
• (49:41) - Tools for Mappineering
• (56:50) - Find John Diggs on the internet
• (01:00:08) - Show closing
• (01:01:31) - Closing credits

In this episode is Mhara Starling's truly amazing magical journey of gender and self-acceptance. Mhara is a Welsh witch, spiritual leader, and author of the recent book "Welsh Fairies." Mhara and I muse over topics as far afield as natural churches, bigger-than-life mentors, and a Scooby Doo lesson in witchcraft.

REFERENCES:
Support Mhara on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/mharastarling
Follow Mhara on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@mharastarling2730

Follow Mhara on TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@mharastarling

Follow Mhara on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MharaStarling

Follow Mhara on Instagram: https://instagram.com/mhara_starling

• (00:00) - Opening credits
• (00:37) - Show opening
• (01:31) - Introducing Mhara Starling
• (02:34) - Growing up transgender: mermaids, witches, and fairies
• (10:30) - We know you don't like this, but you should
• (13:41) - She has ever been Mhara
• (15:49) - A church of trees and headland
• (21:25) - Scooby Doo teaches about witchcraft
• (24:35) - Mhara's first witch mentor
• (28:53) - Meeting the drag queen down the road
• (32:00) - Coming out with an explosion
• (40:00) - Feeling completely and wholly accepted
• (45:09) - Magic does not occur on a binary
• (49:03) - A communal view to witchcraft
• (55:00) - Find yourself, your land, and your community
• (59:10) - Mhara's work for the near future
• (01:03:50) - Show closing
• (01:05:52) - Closing credits

Today's episode features Deane Benninghoven's stories of subconscious symbolism. Deane is a certified hypnotherapist and hypnosis instructor who helps everyday people overcome everyday problems. Deane and I mull over topics as diverse as the value of dissociative states, Jungian archetypes in everyday life, and the lack of value in clucking like a chicken.

REFERENCES:
Summit Hypnosis website: https://www.summithypnosisnw.com/

Follow Deane on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/summithypnosis

Follow Deane on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/summithypnosisnw/

Émile Coué: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/%C3%89mile_Cou%C3%A9

• (00:00) - Opening credits
• (00:37) - Show opening
• (01:31) - Introducing Deane Benninghoven
• (02:27) - Chronic pain, grief, and self-hypnosis
• (08:34) - Working with the subconscious
• (15:27) - Becoming the person we needed to heal
• (19:53) - Hypnosis as a useful dissociative state
• (26:57) - Intentional links into existing values
• (33:52) - Empirical evidence of archetypes
• (39:05) - Every one of us is the Princess of Light
• (46:14) - Are there contraindications for hypnosis?
• (49:30) - How can we get started in hypnosis?
• (55:22) - How to find Deane Benninghoven on the internet
• (57:34) - Hypnosis can save your life
• (01:00:50) - Show closing
• (01:02:15) - Closing credits

Today's episode features David Beckemeyer discussing tribal identity and the outrage it brings. David is a bridge-builder and host of the "Outrage Overload" podcast. David and I consider topics as far afield as social media detox, street epistemology, and libraries lousy with drag queens.

REFERENCES:
“Outrage Overload” website: https://outrageoverload.net/

Follow Outrage Overload on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/OutrageOverload

Follow Outrage Overload on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/outrageoverload/

Follow Outrage Overload on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@OutrageOverload?sub_confirmation=1

Follow David on Mastodon: https://toad.social/@DavidBeckemeyer

Follow Outrage Overload on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/outrageoverload.bsky.social

Follow David on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidbeckemeyer/

Arnold Toynbee: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arnold_J._Toynbee

• (00:00) - Opening credits
• (00:37) - Show opening
• (01:30) - Introducing David Beckemeyer
• (02:38) - How Facebook fights inspired a podcast
• (08:26) - We love to be outraged, but we don't want to admit it
• (12:13) - Blind spots to our side's behavior
• (17:46) - A hot-button issue example with Ami!
• (22:09) - Street epistemology of vegetables
• (27:02) - Needing to change minds
• (31:00) - Fear of social death
• (36:27) - Enforcing social norms as the origin of outrage
• (39:47) - When outrage becomes recreation or profession
• (45:16) - And even when you're wrong, it doesn't matter
• (47:27) - Ending reliance on outrage with a larger cultural identity
• (54:49) - Building your own private echo chamber
• (01:04:02) - How to find David Beckemeyer on the internet
• (01:06:32) - Show closing
• (01:07:18) - Closing credits