In this episode, we hear Koby Falks's story of finding authenticity and strength by challenging toxic masculine stereotypes. Koby is an adult content creator, entrepreneur and advocate for authenticity in the adult content industry. Koby and I muse over topics as diverse as when masculinity turns toxic, how negating sex negates ourselves, and what it means to be a good bottom.

REFERENCES:
Koby Falks Linktree: https://linktr.ee/KobyFalks

Follow Koby on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChRpGMrLi-pnJFZCdP3e1Tg

Follow Koby on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kobyfalksofficial

Follow Koby on Facebook: https://facebook.com/kobyfalksdaddy

Follow Koby on Instagram: https://instagram.com/kobyfalks

Follow Koby on Threads: https://www.threads.net/@kobyfalks

• (00:00) - Opening credits
• (00:37) - Show opening
• (01:32) - Introducing Koby Falks
• (02:43) - The pandemic brings new opportunities
• (07:07) - Instead of external, look at the internal
• (12:13) - Dismissing what we don't understand
• (18:13) - Masculinity isn't bottling up, it's showing up
• (21:54) - Avoiding the masculine to feel more comfortable
• (26:47) - Rigidity breeds toxicity
• (32:35) - Being seen helps others be seen
• (36:05) - Bisexual stigmatized in the Queer community
• (41:21) - Challenging our own processes
• (43:58) - Dominant is not always masculine
• (45:54) - Controlling sex means controlling identity
• (50:19) - Power in the feminine
• (56:25) - Turns out we know about sex
• (58:21) - How to find Koby Falks on the internet
• (59:58) - Show closing
• (01:00:55) - Closing credits

Today we hear a story of pain and forgiveness from Katharine Giovanni. Katharine is a three-time award-winning, best-selling author; speaker; and forgiveness and transformation coach whose system of forgiveness empowers others to clear their own energy, even if others do not. Katharine and I talk about topics as diverse as the missed opportunities from holding on to anger, how even entrenched hate and discrimination can be overcome personally, and why forgiveness might reward you with a long trip to the bathroom.

REFERENCES:
Katharine Giovanni’s website: https://katharinegiovanni.com/

Follow Katharine on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/katharine.giovanni

Follow Katharine on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/katharinegiovanni/

Follow Katharine on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katharinegiovanni

Follow Katharine on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0PPtlSUPldGNl9mIRRtAmA/
Masaru Emoto and his Water Experiments: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Masaru_Emoto
Native American Energy Health Practices: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2913884/

• (00:00) - Opening credits
• (00:37) - Show opening
• (01:30) - Introducing Katharine Giovanni
• (02:19) - Everybody has a flashpoint
• (04:49) - Accidentally discovering forgiveness as a practice
• (07:48) - Forgiveness affects the bottom line
• (10:05) - Missed opportunities from holding on to anger
• (14:35) - Not forgotten, but perceived differently
• (16:53) - The science and effects of forgiveness
• (20:50) - Clearing the connections to the Universe
• (27:14) - What is the connection to the Universe?
• (36:07) - Finding forgiveness for yourself
• (38:51) - Some cautions on clearing this energy
• (42:54) - Forgiving the entrenched systems
• (46:25) - But what if your anger is useful...?
• (50:00) - Giving back the hate doesn't help
• (53:39) - How to find Katharine Giovanni on the internet
• (57:23) - Show closing
• (58:22) - Closing credits

This week, I chat with Pepper Kat about Western society's difficulty in embracing physicality and sexuality. Pepper is an adult entertainer and podcaster who founded Design Your Dreamgirl to provide a space for all people to explore their desires with no judgment. Pepper and I discuss the spectrum of sexual fantasy, how shaming intimacy is the worst form of control, and why Sigmund Freud should probably be retired.

REFERENCES:
Pepper Kat’s website: https://www.pepperkat.com/

Spicy Spectrum Podcast: https://www.pepperkat.com/heartfelt-perspectives

Follow Pepper on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@_pepper_kat_

Follow Pepper on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/pepperkat.bsky.social

Follow Pepper on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/peppertheblackkat/

Follow Pepper on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100091550276924
Follow Pepper on X: https://x.com/BlackKatPepper

• (00:00) - Opening credits
• (00:37) - Show opening
• (01:32) - Introducing Pepper Kat
• (02:06) - From news producer to Design Your Dream Girl
• (04:04) - Acknowledging desires reduces assault
• (09:12) - Historical biases drive current views on sex
• (13:48) - The spectrum of desire
• (18:23) - Sex work keeps the world sane
• (21:53) - Embrace your physicality
• (26:59) - Voice as a method of affirmation
• (29:16) - Intimacy takes many forms
• (32:22) - Being confident neough not to lie to yourself
• (36:45) - Why not just change social norms?
• (41:29) - And it all comes down to control
• (48:02) - Who can call Pepper Kat?
• (50:47) - How to find Pepper Kat on the internet
• (52:27) - Spicy Spectrum Podcast
• (54:04) - Show closing
• (55:48) - Closing credits