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  • 343 Your Inspirational Talk Must Be Dynamic
    Mar 16 2025
    Public speaking takes no prisoners. I was attending a Convention in Phuket and the finale was the closing inspirational speech for the week of events. I had to deliver the same speech myself at the Ho Chi Minh Convention a few years ago. This is a daunting task. Actually, when your audience is chock full of presentation’s training experts from Dale Carnegie, it is simply terrifying. The length of the speech is usually around ten minutes, which though it seems shortish, can feel quite long and challenging to design. Being an inspirational speech, it adds that extra degree of difficulty. It comes up though. The organisers ask you to deliver the closing, rousing call to action to fire the troops up for another year. Are you ready to meet the challenge? There are some key components we must assemble. There must be one clear and compelling message. In a speech like this, we can’t rattle off the twenty things everyone should be doing. They can never remember them all and the whole effort becomes too diffused. It is a single call to action, so what is the action or idea we want to propose. We might use slides or we may not, it will really depend on what we want to say. Often in these cases, we can use images very effectively without any words and we supply the narrative during our comments. Photos and images are powerful for capturing attention and people’s emotions. A call to action is an emotional commitment that goes beyond logic. We need to hit the bullseye of what grabs people’s hearts. This is delivered through stories. We take people on a journey of our construction. We plan it such that it leads them to feel what we want them to feel and to think what we want them to think. This planning creates a funnel effect where we keep pulling people back to our central message. Storytelling technique is a terrific vehicle for the speaker to lead people’s hearts and minds. We populate the story with people who are familiar to the audience. Ideally, they can see these people in their mind’s eye. They might be people they have actually met or have heard of. They may be historical events, legendary figures, VIPS, celebrities or people of note who are familiar to our audience. In Ho Chi Minh for my closing speech at Convention, the timing was such that we had previously suffered from the triple whammy of earthquake, tsunami and triple nuclear reactor meltdown in Japan. I spoke with emotion about that event. About having a nuclear cloud pass over your head polluting all the drinking water. Of having massive aftershocks every day for weeks, of the relentless black churning oily water engulfing coastal communities, of the chaos and destruction. I brought that experience alive to drive home my central point. We flesh out the surroundings of the story to make it real. We are all used to watching visual storytelling on television or in movies, so we are easily transported to a scene of the author’s creation, if the words create pictures. We describe the room or location in some detail in order to transfer minds to that place. We place the event into a time sequence with a peg for the audience to grab hold of, to make the story come alive. We might do this by nominating the date or we might specify the season or the time of day or night. This type of context is important because it takes the listener down more layers of the story to make it more relevant. They can draw on their memory of similar occasions to approximate this story. The delivery is where all of this comes together. It is a call to action so the speaker needs to get into high gear to make that happen. There will be an element of theatrics involved for effect. This is not some dubious, dodgy trick or variant on a parlour game to distract the punters. No, it is taking the key message and driving it hard through controlled exaggeration. Our speaker in Phuket, toward the end of his talk, dropped down to the push up position and pumped out twenty rapid fire pushups on his fingertips. I don’t know if you have ever tried this fingertip version, but it was pretty impressive for a man of his age group and was totally congruent with his key point about stress equals strength. It was dramatic, it was daring, but it also added that X factor to his talk. There must be vocal modulation too, from conspiratorial whispers to hitting key words or phrases with tremendous intensity. Gestures will be larger than normal and more dramatic. The speaker will be eyeing the audience with great intensity, with a fire burning in their pupils of complete certainty of the veracity of the key message. There will be a level of super engagement with the audience, to the point they are cheering and responding throughout the talk rather than consolidated clapping only at the end. Crafting a key message, a powerful call to action for an end worth pursuing and then wrapping it up in storytelling...
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  • 342 Success As a Leader In Japan
    Mar 9 2025
    Being the leader is no fun anymore. In most Western countries we are raised from an early age to become self-sufficient and independent. When we are young, we enjoy a lot of self-belief and drive hard along the road of individualism. School and university, for the most part, are individual, competitive environments with very little academic teamwork involved. This is changing slowly in some Universities as the importance of teamwork has been re-discovered. However, for the most part, it is still a zero-sum game, of someone is the top scholar and some are in the upper echelons of marks received and others are not. This extends into the world of work where the bell curve is used to decide who are the star players, who are in the middle and who at the bottom are going to be fired. The modern world of work though demands different things from what we have had in the past. The sheer volume of information available is mind boggling. When I was at University, your world of knowledge was what was on the shelves of the stacks in the University library or other libraries in town. There was a physical card index system to help you find information, although browsing book spines was the fastest method of locating relevant tomes. Today, we have the entire holding of libraries digitized and available for discovery through advanced search tools. We have search engines like Google, Yahoo, Wikipedia and YouTube and now AI platforms to help us find what we need to know. There are powerful publishing platforms like Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Instagram, and TikTok which floodlight information to us, using crowd sourcing of knowledge. We have email connecting us globally 24/7, we have video recordings, live streaming of events, podcasts, etc., all drowning us in information. My 23 year old son’s generation have had to learn how to swim in the floodtide of data, how to analyse, synthesise, select only what is relevant, reliable and credible. Voice commands have replaced keyboards and AI is speeding up the process of access. Even the single, most powerful savant cannot withstand this data flood, cannot keep up with the publishing platforms, cannot do it all alone. Teamwork, the distribution of labour based on finite specialties, crowd sourcing of information and ideas is now a must. Most leaders were not raised in this maelstrom of confusion and over-reaching and struggle just to keep up. We were more or less able to have a superior grasp of subjects, better information than our followers, expert authority and greater specialisation to justify us being the boss. Today, we cannot know it all or do it all by ourselves. In any boss/follower situation, as you climb the ranks you get further and further away from the coalface and have to live the market reality absorbed by osmosis from your people. The flood of information makes that imperative even more pressing. The problem is are you and the other leaders in your organisation any good at coalescing the team’s total power? Are those at the top able to develop people further to make them highly valuable experts supporting the growth of the enterprise? In Japan, the middle management echelon has been crushed by technology, too much data and the democratisation of data challenging their position power. Further, the speed of modern business is being propelled forward in asteroid catching slingshot mode, by instant communications and the widespread flattening of layers in organisations. In Japan, the gradual rise through the ranks, where you were coached by your bosses up the corporate rungs, until you got into a leadership position has been collapsed into only a few rungs today. Your erstwhile bosses had the time to develop their people. Today, be you expat or local, you as the boss in Japan, don’t have any time to do that. You keep adding spinning plates to be kept in motion, as you flit from meeting to meeting, interspersed by deluge email, relentless social media and phone calls on your mobile at any hour of the day. Your “coaching time” has been compressed into barking orders and giving direction to the team. You have no time for doing much brainstorming, because you just have no time. Anyway, the brainstorming method you are using is almost 100% ineffective anyway, so it probably makes no difference. You may as well do a few more emails instead. Actually, it does make a difference though, compared to what needs to be done. The bosses can’t do it all by themselves anymore. They don’t have all the key data and insights. They are perilously time poor, distracted, stressed and busy, busy, busy. They need to have the support of the team to get all the work done and they need the team to be engaged to care about getting it all done. People quality is an issue and only going to get worse as Japan’s demographic decline means anyone with a pulse will be hired. People who just turn up to work in Japan, waiting for their turn to rise up through the ranks, based on ...
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  • 341 Don't Get Sabotaged By Your Colleagues When Selling in Japan
    Mar 2 2025
    Sales is a nightmare. It is usually a solitary life. You head off to meet customers all day. Your occasional return to the office is to restock materials or complete some processes you can’t do on-line. Japan is a bit different. Here it is very common to see two salespeople going off to meet the client. If you are selling to a buyer, it is also common to face more than one person. This is a country of on-the-job training and consensus decision making, so the numbers involved automatically inflate. Even in Western style operations, there is more of a tendency to send more than one person to the sales meeting. Often, there is a need for a technical person or someone with highly specialised knowledge to attend the buyers’ meeting. This can present some issues if there is no plan for the meeting. I was coaching a salesperson recently who related a horror story to me. The person in question is relatively new to sales, so still finding their way. A more experienced salesperson from a different division was joining the meeting. The intention was to provide more than one solution for the buyer. Without any prior discussion, the accompanying salesperson offered 70% off the pricing in exchange for a volume purchase, in order to grow the relationship. Hearing this from him I was so shocked. I nearly blew my coffee out through my nose. There are so many things wrong with this vignette. These are both salespeople on a base and commission arrangement. One salesperson is hacking into the commission of the other, for a product line-up they don’t represent. This is outrageous behaviour. If you are in that sales meeting and your partner blurts out a combustible like that, you cannot reel it back in or reduce its toxic lethality. It is stated, out on the wild now and you have to live with that statement having been uttered by your side. This was first meeting too, so the damage is even worse. Now the client automatically discounts any rack rate or stated pricing by 70%, because that is what you have trained them to do. When you are in a first meeting in Japan, it would be reasonably rare to even get into pricing. The first meeting has some fixed requirements. The first is to build the trust with the buyer. They don’t know you, so they are suspicious. They are not sitting across from you thinking, “oh goody, here is someone who can help our business to grow”. They are not sure if your word can be trusted, whether you are smart enough to deal with them or if they like you. These outcomes take a good chunk of time to achieve and doing so in one meeting is being overly confident. You also have to understand if there is any point in talking at all. Do you have what they need? In order to make that judgement, you must be asking them highly intelligent questions. What are they doing now? Where would they like to be? If they know that, then why aren’t they there already? What will it mean for them personally if this goes well? We have to be running a scanner over them to understand their needs and then match it up with our catalogue of solutions. All of this takes time. We usually only get an hour with the buyer in Japan, so we need to grab as much information and insight as we possibly can before we have to high tail it out of there. Before we do so though, we must set the date and time for the follow-up meeting to present the solution. Don’t wait - do it right there and then or we may never get back into their busy, busy diary. Back at the lab we brew up the perfect solution and craft it into a killer proposal. Now we go back and present the solution. They may want us to email it to them, but with every fibre in our body we resist that option. We never ever want to be sending a naked, unprotected proposal to the buyer. It needs us right there alongside it, to underline the value attached to the pricing and deal with any questions or misunderstandings which may emerge. We want to read their body language very carefully when they react to what we have suggested. We only talk price in the second meeting and we never start with a discount. We offer the set price and this is the anchor that sets the terms of the discussion. We may drop the price in exchange for a volume purchase, but by 70%? That is the stupidest thing I have heard in a while in sales. As it turns out, I know the guilty party in this case, so it is even more shocking. They should have had more common sense. The problem is they state it and there is nothing you can do. Common sense is not common. The horse has bolted for our hero in this story, but the rest of us should all take careful note. So don’t expect that the people accompanying you to have common sense. Now this is especially the case if they are selling a different line of product from you and they have no skin in the game concerning a heavily discounted sale of your offering. Before the...
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  • 340 How Crazy Can We Go When Presenting In Japan
    Feb 23 2025
    Japan doesn’t love crazy. In our High Impact Presentations Course we have exercises where we ask the participants to really let go of all their inhibitions and let it all hang out – and “go crazy, go over the top”. This is challenging in Japan. Normally, we are all usually very constrained when we speak in society. Our voices are very moderate, our body language is quite muted and our gestures are rather restrained. Unfortunately, this often carries over into our public presentations. Without realising it, we find ourselves speaking in this dreadful monotone, putting everyone to sleep. Our body language is minimal and our gestures rather weak, even perfunctory. The radical exercises we put everyone through are there to expand their range of possibilities as presenters. To do this, we really exaggerate the energy levels and scope. Of course, in its raw, uncontrolled form, it is way too much for a professional presentation. As a specific training tool it is fine. I am often asked though, how much is too much, when it comes to being more powerful as a presenter? How much “over the top” is appropriate? I definitely think there is a place for going “over the top” in a business presentation. The degree to which you push the envelope though is dependent on the subject, your message and the audience. There is no simple scale where the excessive bits are neatly marked in red warning lines for our calibration. If you are giving your talk and you outraged by something, then expressing your outrage during your talk will be entirely congruent. You may do that with a higher level of voice volume, hitting certain key words harder, combined with strong body language, a matching facial expression and bigger gestures backing up the message. You can’t keep going at that “over the top” level though, because you will wear out your audience and its real impact begins to unwind pretty quickly. Clinical, well planned bursts are more effective, because of the contrast between the storm and calm. It is a bit like classical music with its crescendos and lulls. When presenting, our body language is very powerful and very expressive. It can really jumpstart an idea. We are firm devotees of this concept. For example, in our morning meetings or chorei, we have a couple of set pieces. Each day a different person leads the group. We go through the Vision, Mission, Values, one of Dale Carnegie’s principles, motivational quote, etc. In our Mission Statement component we say, “By providing customised business solutions, based on the Dale Carnegie Principles, we exceed our client’s expectations”. When the chorei leader says the word “exceed” everyone does their version of thrusting a pointed finger as high as possible, upward toward the sky. At another point in the chorei we talk about our mantra, which is to “10 X our thoughts and our actions”. We used to do this by thrusting our arms across our chests, opening up the fingers of both hands, so that we are expressing the symbol of an X shape and the number ten. One of the team had the genius idea of going more over the top. So now we stand with our feet well apart and push both our arms out and upward at 45 degrees, so that the effect is to create a cross symbol, in the same shape as the letter “X”. It is a very dynamic movement and very powerful in communicating the idea behind it. What has this got to do with presenting in public? The difficult part is to free ourselves from the limitations and constraints of normal daily conversation. Usually we are highly restrained by societal conditioning and so we need to let some pizzazz come into our presenting persona. Our daily chorei gets us used to going over the top. How can we change what we have been doing for so many years? Let’s start small. When speaking in public, just hitting a key word very loudly or elongating its pronunciation is very dynamic. This pattern break will grab your audience’s attention. It helps us to break through all of the mental clutter and minutiae that is dominating their thoughts and preventing them from giving us their full attention. Always assume that when they enter the venue, their brains are already completely full and we have to create some space for our ideas and main points. When we combine a key word with a very big gesture, then the amplification of that message becomes very powerful. I noticed this when I was presenting to an audience of five thousand people. The venue was large, the seats at the back were far, far away. To the top tier guests, in the very back rows, I was as big as a peanut from that distance. In this case, you have to use the whole stage, center, left and right sides and the stage apron. You have to employ very exaggerated gestures to overcome the tyranny of distance from your audience seated in the cheap seats at the back. Props are another area where some ...
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  • 339 Building A Team In Stages In Japan
    Feb 16 2025
    Team building is fraught. Actually, when do we create teams? Usually we inherit teams from other people, stocked with their selections and built around their preferences, aspirations and prejudices, not ours. In rare cases, we might get to start something new and we get to choose who joins. Does that mean that “team building” only applies when we start a new team? If that were the case, then most of us would never experience building a team in our careers. This concept is too narrow. In reality, we are building our teams every day, regardless of whether we suddenly became their leader or whether we brought new members onboard or we started from scratch. Teams are fluid. People come and go, so there is never an end point to team building. “Yeah, it’s built” would be fatal last words for a leader. Before you have even drained the champagne flute in celebration, your best performer is planning to head off to bigger and better things with your competitor. So we are constantly adding people to the team, even if we kicked it off ourselves. New individuals arrive with their own work culture, cobbled together like a coat of many colours from their previous employment. The team has to coalesce again and again and we are the orchestra conductor. Our job is to get all the specialists to “play nice” together and in harmony. It helps to analyse what we are doing and remind ourselves that there are four stages of team building. 1. Uncertainty If we have newly been parachuted into a team as the boss or whenever new members are injected into the existing team, we are in stage one of team building. In Japan, this is a tricky stage. If we are new, the team is uncertain of us. They have been moulded by our predecessor and have worked each other out. Here we turn up, all shiny and new with our “whacky” ideas , idiosyncrasies, foibles, penchants and talents. If we later bring in someone new, now the whole team has to regroup again. What will this person be like, are they going to be cooperative, nice, trustworthy? What will happen to my role – is it safe, will it change? Anxiety If we know in advance that there is this uncertainty stage then we can prepare for it. Often though, the “new broom” boss arrives, puffed up with their own massive self-belief, hubris, ambition and zeal. They scare the team because they blow up everyone’s comfort zone. Things start to change rapidly. Few in Japan are up for the roller coaster ride about to commence. People’s roles start to change as the new boss reorganizes things. Performance standards are invariably raised, because the new leader is here to demonstrate their metal to their boss. Life becomes more fragile for some and they look for ways to protect themselves. In foreign multi-nationals, if things become too intense or too dire in Japan, then the real trouble starts. Senior executives at headquarters start to receive anonymous communication, telling them what a jerk this new boss is and pointing out in florid detail how they are destroying the Japan business. In smaller Japan operations, there is a possibility some people are going to be moved out. “Am I next?”, is a permanent question in the minds of the survivors. New people are being absorbed into the team, but this takes time. Change creates a sense of instability in the team. Are these new folk going to be “teacher’s pet” because the new boss hired them or are they going to become part of the existing team? The key question for everyone is are they with “us” or “them”? Clarity The card carrying “boss watchers” in the team, that is to say, the whole team, start to work the new boss out. Their intelligence, skill set, experience, capability, emotional quotient, etc., are very carefully calibrated. The navigation required for dealing with the new boss is gradually discovered. People adjust to the new style or they just leave if they don’t like it. As we know, people don’t leave companies – they leave bosses. The new mid-career hire arrivals get a similar ruler run over them, to measure how well they will fit in. If they don’t fit in, then the herd groups together and tries to isolate them out. So, if they stay, then they have been successfully acclimatised to the dominant culture of the work group. This is often the opposite of what the new boss desired to happen. They expected the new people would be sprinkling their pixy dust on the “old” team members and creating the internal changes needed. Consistency Presuming the new boss doesn’t blow the whole thing up and go down in flames, then things start to settle down. People get used to the new work requirements, their new colleagues, new boss, new targets and get back to focusing on their work. The team might even improve their performance and enjoy the recognition which comes with success. If the boss is any good, then the team now have a greater sense of shared responsibility toward achieving the ...
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  • 338 Sales Storytelling That Wins In Japan
    Feb 9 2025

    Salespeople often miss the point. They are brilliant on telling the client the detail of the product or service. When you think about how we train salespeople, that is a very natural outcome. Product knowledge is drummed into the heads of salespeople when they first join the company. The product or service lines are expanded or updated at some point, so again the product knowledge component of the training reigns supreme. No wonder they default to waxing lyrical about the spec. These discussions, however, tend to be technical, dry, unemotional and rather boring. This is ridiculous, because we know we buy on emotion and justify with logic. If we know that, then why are we spending so much time on the logic bits?

    Finding relevant stories to wrap the product or service up inside is the answer to getting clients emotionally involved. For example, I could say, “Dale Carnegie has an excellent sales programme that is very complete and comprehensive”. All true but very dry in the telling. Or I could say, “In 1939 Dale Carnegie decided to revolutionise sales training. In those days, if your company provided sales training you were trained, but if they didn’t, you had to work it all out for yourself. Dale Carnegie introduced the first public training classes for salespeople. He created the material with Percy Whiting, one of the top securities salesmen in America at that time”.

    The second telling is through a story and more engaging and memorable. It adds impressive elements about Dale Carnegie’s thought leadership about sales training, his partnership with an expert salesman to create the programme and the longevity of the training methodology. These are all USPs or unique selling propositions wrapped together in a story. In this way they are more easily absorbed by the listener. We think in pictures, so we need word pictures to be employed in our storytelling.

    When we read books, we tend to best remember the stories being told. We all grow up listening to stories, so our brains are hard wired to remember them with just one exposure. A famous American sales trainer Charlie Cullen in the 1950s was one of the first to record his sales training on vinyl LPs. His recommendations on what salespeople should do, were all backed up by examples conveyed through stories.

    In more modern times, Zig Ziglar’s whole approach to sales training was telling a series of parables for sales. Growing up in America’s Bible Belt, perhaps lessons communicated through parables came natural to him because of the culture of bible study in those regions. Brian Tracy, another great sales trainer is constantly mixing science and psychology with storytelling to get his point across. Gary Vaynerchuk, the modern marketing guru and entrepreneur is a master storyteller. They are almost exclusively about himself, but that is his style – supremely confident, self-opinionated, self-absorbed and constantly drawing on his own experience. He has a huge following of fans, including me. What he teaches is easy to follow because of the way he employs stories to get his key messages across.

    So look into your line-up of products or services and pick out the stories that go with each item. It may come from the history. Or it may be the technology. It may be client stories about users and we relate what happened to them. We need to look for an angle that will make the story interesting for the buyer. It should bolster the USPs of the offering and project pots of value.

    We don’t necessarily need a Hollywood production here in the storytelling. It doesn't have to be War and Peace either. Let’s keep them brief and to the point. If we can engage the listener’s emotions and bring them into the story, then we are succeeding. Can the buyer visualise what we are describing in their mind’s eye? This takes some work and some creativity. This is why it is often a good practice to involve everyone in the sales team to work together to curate some great stories and case studies of satisfied customers.

    There is no doubt stories work. When I record my own sales talk, I realise how many stories I am employing. When I listen to the gurus of sales training, their whole underpinning platform is built on stories. Stories work, so let’s start creating them and using them with our buyers. We have tons of them, in fact. All we have to do is collect them and arrange them to match the industry or industry segment of the buyer. Buyers want proof and stories are a way of delivering that proof. Don’t forget that stories need data and data needs stories.

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  • 337 Don't Freak Out During The Q&A In Japan
    Feb 2 2025
    Q&A can destroy your personal brand. Creating and delivering the presentation sees you in 100% total control. You have designed it, you have been given the floor to talk about it, all is good. However, the moment the time comes for questions, we are now in a street fight. Why a street fight? Because in a street fight there are no rules and the Q&A following a presentation is the same – no rules. “Oh, that’s not right” you might be thinking. “What about social norms, propriety, manners, decorum – surely all of these things are a filter on bareknuckle duking it out in public?”. That is correct but it is not a guarantee. When doing public speaking, there are different personality types assembled in the room. In Japan, often the English language presentation occasions are like mini-United Nations’ assemblies, in terms of national representation. Different social norms apply in countries apart from your own. My French friends tell me the French educational system promotes critique of statements and ideas and that is seen as an illustration of superior intellect. My fellow Australians are often sceptical, doubting and don’t hesitate to mention it, in a direct assault on what has just been said. There are also different personality types in the room. Some people are naturally aggressive and want to argue the point, if the speaker has the temerity to say something they disagree with. What is considered rude, aggressive or inappropriate behaviour is a relative judgment depending on where you grew up, how you were educated and how you individually see the world. Even in Japanese society, there are occasions where there is heated arguement and a lot of the typical Japanese restraint is out the window. As the speaker, we are pumped full of chemicals when we get up to present. If we are nervous, then the flight or fight adrenaline chemicals are released by the Amygdala inside our brain. We cannot stop this, but we can control it. It is interesting that if this state is held for a long period of time, we lose the feeling of strength and have a sense of weakness. A forty minute speech is a long time to be in a heightened state and by the time we get to the Q&A, we may be feeling denuded of strength. Just at the moment when we come under full force street fighting attack. The face of the speaker is a critical indicator during the Q&A. I caught myself shaking my head to indicate disagreement with what was coming my way in the form of a question during the Q&A. Without initially realising it, I was sending out a physical sign that I wasn’t accepting the questioner’s bead of disagreement to what I had been pontificating. From an audience point of view, this looks like you are inflexible, closed to other opinions and just dismissive of anyone with an opinion that differs from your own. Even if you are not a rabid head shaker like I was, the expression on your face may be speaking volumes to your audience. You might be displaying a sceptical visage of doubt and rejection of what is being said before you have heard the whole argument out. You might even be pumping blood into your face so that it goes red in colour. There is a female businesswoman I know here, whose skin goes bright red when she is in the public eye and begins to look like one of those warning beacons. There is probably nothing she can do about that, but it is definitely not a good look. Or maybe your general demeanour is one of disdain for the questioner and you look arrogant and disrespectful of alternative opinions. Given the chemical surge leading to denuding of strength I mentioned earlier, we may look like we are defeated by the questioner. This impacts our credibility. We need to be showing we are true believers in what we said and are fully committed to that line of argument. We don’t want to appear like we have collapsed in the face of pushback during the Q&A. Maintain a brave front, even if it is all front. The audience won’t know the difference. Nodding during the questioning is also a big mistake. We do this in normal conversation, to show the speaker we are paying attention to them. Unfortunately, this bleeds over into public speaking events as well. I learnt this when I did media training. The television media love it when you are nodding, because they can take that bit in the editing and transpose it to sync with the voice of the person disagreeing with you and it appears you are accepting their argument. Very sneaky isn’t it. When you pop up on the TV replay agreeing with your questioner attacking all that you have said, it is too late. Even if there is no TV there, don’t look like you are agreeing with the questioner and control that nodding right from the start. So during Q&A maintain a totally neutral expression on your face and don’t allow you head to nod. If you feel anxiety from the question, take some secret slow deep ...
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  • 336 Team Glue Insights In Japan
    Jan 26 2025
    Staff can be a nightmare. Teams are composed of the most difficult material ever created - people. That requires many capabilities, but two in particular from leaders: communication and people skills. Ironically, leaders are often seriously deficient in one or both. One type of personality who gets to become the leader are the hard driving, take no prisoners, climb over the rival’s bodies to grasp the brass ring crowd. Other types are the functional stars: category experts; best salesperson, long serving staff members; older “grey hairs” or the last man standing at the end of the recession. Usually, communication skills and people skills were not prominent in their rise to this position of trust. How do we handle such a contradiction? What does it take to be successful as a team leader? Here are nine different adhesives to help glue the team together. Don’t criticize, condemn or complain When we criticize people for mistakes or poor performance, they stop listening to us and use all of their brainpower to marshal their defense or assemble their excuses, about why it isn’t their fault. We have created a barrier with them and they are in denial. The scolding, harsh direct approach may make us feel better but it leads nowhere useful, so don’t bother. Give honest and sincere appreciation Snowing staff with false praise or fake appreciation doesn’t work. People have well-tuned gauges for flattery. When they detect it, they do two things simultaneously: they ignore it and they don’t ever fully trust the perpetrator. They are saying to themselves, “Do you really think I am that dumb?”. Instead, we need to become “good finders”. Look for what people are doing well and recognise it. When we give appreciation, be very specific about what they did well, this makes it real and believable,. Look for strengths to develop, rather than trying to pull people down because they are not perfect. Arouse in the other person an eager want As leaders we want a lot of things to happen. Our targets, accountabilities and directives from above drive us. It can very quickly become all about “me” and what “I” want. Others are not that excited about what we want compared to what they want for themselves. If we can coalesce what we want with what others want we will do a lot better in terms of getting cooperation and achieving our desired outcomes. This is a communication skill we absolutely need to master. Become genuinely interested in other people We are all firmly attached to ourselves. We are the center of our universe and we want all things that are good to flow to us. As the leader though, you have to flip that self-absorption and get focused on your people. You can work 100 plus hours a week, but your team of 10, only working a 40 hour week can out work you with four times the input of hours. So working 100 hours yourself is dumb and getting your team fired up and working at peak performance is smart. Why would they do that? Because they feel there is something attractive in it for them. They feel that way because the leader has been an excellent communicator to explain the connection between hitting their own goals and hitting the firm’s goals. They are committed because they trust the leader. When Dale Carnegie did it’s global study on the emotional drivers of engagement, they found that “feeling valued” by the immediate supervisor was the trigger to having people become highly engaged. You have to know what your team values, in order to help them understand they are highly valued. Your personal values are only interesting to you. Their values, for them, are the key. Once you are really genuinely interested in your team, you will naturally understand what they value. Then you can arrange for good things to happen for them, based on what they want, not what you want. Smile We think we smile, but we do it more rarely than we imagine. We are swimming through a flood tide of emails, meetings and reporting every week. We are under pressure to produce the goods. Our internal rivals are nipping at our heals, our external competitors are making life hell. It becomes hard to smile in the face of difficulties. What our team sees is a serious face, maybe an explosive face, when the pressure gets too much. Our mood every day is the barometer of how the team feels. If we are stressed out, we transfer that stress to everyone and we take their mood straight down. We have to be up, regardless of the pressure, the irritations, the stress. Remember to smile and pass this on to your team, to keep their mood positive. Remember names Presumably you can remember your team’s names. However, in a big organisation that may not be that easy. In Japan, in larger operations, it is interesting that often colleagues can’t remember their workmate’s personal name, only their family name. You need to send an email and you ask, “what is so and so’s personal name?”. The answer is often, “I don’t ...
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