Are you stuck in a cycle of jealousy and competition with your best friend, feeling like you're in a 'Toni and Joan' rut from the iconic show Girlfriends? Have you ever had a friend compare themselves to you? Have you ever compared yourself to a friend? How do you handle friends who show up looking better or doing better than you? Let’s talk about it. Of course, there was a viral video about two best friends and outfits at a birthday dinner but we want to discuss how this shows up in friendships. Join your two favorite black therapists as well discuss insecurities, trust issues, and comparisons in friendships.

Did you ever have a childhood bully and if so, how do you respond to them when you see them later in life? Do you revert back to childhood or are you able to move on and remember you are not that child anymore? In this episode, we are talking about just that and what happened in an episode of Sister Sister. We love the show and now join us for digging into the mental health aspects of this episode. We are discussing unhealed trauma, trauma responses, inner child work, and vulnerability. Of course, we are doing it all with some humor and questions that need answers.

We love the show ‘This Is Us’ and in this episode we are discussing communication and being intentional in relationships.

00:00 intro

04:10 overview

07:44 is negativity in relationships contagious?

14:30 Relationship fatigue (perhaps why Miguel and his wife got divorced)

17:36 R&B (Randall and Beth) I call marriage

23:08 Kevin and Sophie (attunement in relationships)

27:55 Toby and Kate (When your partner’s success triggers your insecurity)

34:39 QTNA

Podcasts versions are at:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mentally-dope/id1673538196Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2DiRPvXY1ua6ftLg5FR98Q?si=aa3601b4b9ca490fAmazon Music: ​​https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/2a85c229-4bd8-4526-a65d-66b453998bce/mentally-dope

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What does it mean to be intentional in a relationship

How do you show intentional love

Is divorce infectious

Are breakups contagious

Is relationship fatigue normal

Can you recover from relationship burnout

How to support a person with anxiety

I call marriage this is us

What does attunement mean in a relationship

How do I emotionally attune to my partner

How do I stop being jealous of my partner's success

How to deal with partner success

Why can't I be happy for my partner's success

What kind of pressure has your family put on you about how your life should look? Do you live with cultural expectations? Whether your parents are immigrants, rich, or just come from a humble background, we all have expectations put on us from our parents. In this episode, we are talking about the iconic movie Coming to America. We are discussing cultural and family expectations that can affect us and how we live. We also discuss things that we have learned and come to believe about ourselves and how it can affect how we show up in the world and our relationships. Of course, we always have questions that need answers. As usual, mental health in the black community is different. Join Charmaine and Jasmine, two licensed therapists, in this discussion.

The enneagram is…. We decided that we wanted to learn more about the enneagram and of course find something within the culture to relate it to, so why not the characteristics of the cast of Girlfriends. We invited the amazing hosts from the podcast Enneagram for the Culture @EnneagramFortheCulture to join us in this conversation and explore what enneagrams are, how they do and don’t define us, and how the enneagram types show up in our behaviors and friendships.

Time stamps:

00:00 intro

02:10 What is the enneagram?

07:17 the 9 types

15:10 Internal Family Systems (IFS) and the enneagram connection

17:58 Lynn and the enneagram

29:45 Why did Toni and Maya fight so much?

41:15 How we use the enneagram in our friendships

All of season 1 is a great intro to the Enneagram but this episode explains what it is and run through the core motivations for each type. The rest of season 1 is a deeper dive into each type. https://open.spotify.com/episode/2UYWtpVxYoO3rTnXdJhesF?si=c4df96b66c734735&nd=1&dlsi=53afb8512bea421b

Videos version: https://www.youtube.com/@Stay_mentallydope

Resources:

Enneagram for the culture: https://www.instagram.com/enneagramfortheculture/

If you want to work with Kim: https://www.instagram.com/kreeselcsw/

If you want to make Camille: https://www.instagram.com/camille.logan.lcmhc/

The Enneagram for Black Liberation Return to Who You Are Beneath the Armor You Carry By Chichi Agoromhttps://rep.club/products/enneagram-black-liberation?srsltid=AfmBOoqj_tZdVi7o4t-mY6pOGpkVgj85LmIobrQqhESSjJeduQplwrTG

The Black Enneagram (Dayo): https://www.instagram.com/theblackenneagram/

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Have you watched the show on Hulu called How To Die Alone? If not, you definitely should. How To Die Alone follows a woman who is trying to make major changes in her life after having a near death experience. The show covers vulnerabilities, anxiety, friendship, family, and relationship dynamics, boundaries, and conquering fears. It does all of this with a lot of humor and of course we are talking about. Join us as we, your two favorite black female therapists, discuss this show and its mental health dynamics.

It is the holiday season fam. As always we are talking about mental health and the black culture, because that is what we do. The holidays are no different. So, we are discussing a Christmas episode of Everybody Hates Chris. During this episode we will discuss mental illness, how it is viewed, family struggles around commercialism and flexing during the holidays, and how we navigate all of the above. Let’s continue to be mentally dope.

Time stamps: 00:00 intro 02:37 overview/ why holidays add feelings of pressure 07:34 When Black folks feel pressure to celebrate Kwanzaa 10:35 Do you have to give someone a gift who gets you one? 15:10 Kill moves (dealing with family who have mental health problems) 20:10 meaningful gifts vs expensive gifts and how this impacts people emotionally 25:00 QTNA Videos mentioned: 18:18 How Stella Got Her Groove Back Therapists React to How Stella Got Her Groove Back (Pt 1) 9:15 Emotional Maturity What Does It Mean to Be Emotionally Mature?

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