In this episode, Kimberly and Tyson discuss the magnitude of pornography including addiction, nervous system regulation, and recovery. Tyson describes his own personal journey being addicted to and then healing from porn addiction and how that informs his work with men and couples today. He discusses the prevalence of porn, how it functions with technology and AI, and how many men use it to either up-regulate or down-regulate their nervous systems. Rather than moralizing porn and porn addiction, Tyson describes how to find healing and freedom through channeling real life force as well as advice for women who may have partners or sons addicted to, or exposed to, pornography.

Bio

Tyson Adams is a trauma-informed IFS men's coach, somatic bodyworker and psychedelic facilitator. After spending 20 years addicted to pornography, he outgrew it ten years ago and has found his passion and purpose in helping other men master their lifeforce energy. He also co-facilitates men's work leadership intensives and works with couples experiencing intimacy challenges. When he's not working you'll catch him on a rock wall or riding a slackline in sunny San Diego.

What He Shares:

–His own addiction and healing from porn

–The normalization and prevalence of porn

–Porn and the nervous system

–Advice for women and mothers

–How to heal from porn addiction

What You’ll Hear:

–Tyson’s first introduction to porn at early age

–Boyhood innocence being fractured

–Secrecy, shame, and hiding with internet porn

–Joined fraternity in college

–Porn chairman in fraternity

–Normalization of porn and drinking

–90 percent of porn has some form of violence

–A third of internet searches is porn

–Expecting partners to mimic porn content

–Normalization of extreme sexual behaviors from porn

–Highjacking nervous system

–No age verification

–Comparing ourselves to AI models

–War on nervous system and spiritual warfare

–Installing browser blockers on children’s devices

–Ages 8-9 typically first exposure to porn

–BARK.us Blocker and search tracker

–Importance of early conversations with children

–Importance of community in these conversations for men and boys

–Blind spot in mens’ groups around sex and sexuality

–Inflation of power causing harm in mens’ groups

–How and why Tyson ended porn addiction

–Psychedelic use with studying pornography

–Preys on trauma and normalizes behaviors

–Men using porn to activate energy and nervous system regulation

–Women and porn addictions

–Seminal fluid as a life force

–Healthy number of ejaculation frequency

–Not moralizing porn addiction

–Women blaming themselves for partner’s porn addiction

–Seek therapy and trusted community help in partner’s addiction

–Hope and healing is possible

–Open communication and repair

–Developing archetypes with sex worker

–One on one work and IFS sessions

–From thinking to feeling way to orgasm

–Nervous system resetting with clients

–Convergence of technology, porn, and psychedelics

Resources

Tyson Adams' Website

IG: @tysonadams__

Return guest Ash Robinson dives deep with Kimberly Ann Johnson into the challenges and opportunities for women in business amidst the current economic and technological climate. They discuss the role of AI on personal and professional life, the importance of financial stability, and the need for a clear vision and strategy, particularly for women. Ash emphasizes the significance of taking stock of one's current situation, identifying needs, and focusing on sustainable growth. They also touch on the role of professional resourcing, the balance between enduring and sacrificing, and the importance of community and support in achieving long-term goals. This Fall, they will be offering round 2 of the Mastermind for Women Entrepreneur, so look out for a sign-up announcement coming this August!

Bio

Ash Robinsoon is the strategist standing behind many leaders who are doing their big work. From Ash: “I’m a wife, mother of three, and deeply value my family life. As a CEO for most of my career, I spent most of my time creating and building, not consulting. I come from a family of entrepreneurs, and have personally worked in both product and service businesses across many industries, including early education, fitness, consumer products, online education, brick and mortar, franchise systems, and technology (software). My experience is a unique blend of professional management and entrepreneurship in both private and public companies. In 2014, I co-founded bon-fire for business, an experiential education and consulting firm that leverages strategic planning and human design to bridge the gap between untapped potential and business performance. bon-fire is built on the idea that human beings are driven to create value, and that creating a path for harnessing talent and creating sustainable, thriving culture is the surest way to win in our networked age. For the last 15 years, I have been a student of people and the teams and organizations they work on-- from my work in early education leading a team of hundreds to my own pursuit of optimal health and making a real difference in my work. My passion and research in neuroscience, cognition, behavior change, and culture inform both the tools and approach we use in bon·fire. I believe that your organization is actually a living system- highly adaptable, renewable, and self-organizing- which creates the possibility for a new level of both value creation and engagement with your vision and effective progress toward it. Business can be a bridge— igniting the spark of the human spirit and providing the structure in which a committed group of people make a positive impact. My passion is for bringing people around the bon·fire to achieve extraordinary personal and business performance. I believe we have to build the world we want to belong to.”

What You’ll Hear

• After seeing so many women’s businesses thrive from their masterminding course they wanted to craft another offering.

• Our finances are a huge part of our eros and how we express ourselves in the world

• What role does AI play in online and coaching businesses?

• To build the world we want to belong to that’s our work to do

• What does AI use tell us about our nervous systems

• Do one thing well

• Uncertainty creates instability

• When we are clear we can take more embodied action to what we are after.

• Existential dilemmas live in the parasympathetic nervous system

• Action comes from a healthy sympathetic drive

• How do you young people deal with a helpless parasympathetic response to the world?

• Mistaking business/system problems for personal problems

• The how do wee accomplish the vision can be messy

• Finding clarity not all about a perfect strategy it’s also about being resourced and nourished

• Trying to take stock of the “As Is View”

• What do I need to get where I want to go?

• Reaching financial goals always has a weigh

Links

Website: https://bon-fire.co/

IG: @ashrobinsoncalhoun

In this episode, Kimberly Ann Johnson and filmmaker/producer Jackson Kroopf reflect on their respective experiences watching Best Picture Winner Anora. They discuss their contrasting experiences of seeing the films in theaters, what role sex and violence played in the film, and unpack some of what they were drawn to and troubled by in the film. And while they both found the hedonism in the film uncomfortable, the film's ending landed, particularly in its portrayal of power dynamics, intimate rapport, and the broken fantasies that emerge in pursuit of the American dream. Along the way, they consider to what extent the film’s success hinged on a desensitized audience and what that might say about where we find ourselves culturally when it comes to the female body, our nervous systems, and sexuality. If you’d like to dive deeper into these topics, consider signing up for Kimberly’s upcoming course Activate Your Inner Jaguar: Movement, Meditation & The Female Nervous System.

What You’ll Hear

• Why Kimberly walked out the first time she saw it.
• A consideration of how sex and violence functioned in the film.
• What commentary is the film making about the nature of sex work?
• The erotic vs. the pornographic
• What is the moral center of the film?
• What role does comedy play in the film?
• Sadness around desensitization in our culture
• The desire for representations of sexuality that are connected, off-script, non-generic
• Representations of sexuality on a woman’s own terms
• The fantasy of the American Dream falling apart
• Old world vs. new world when it comes to 1st and 2nd generation immigrants
• Is there any worth in bearing witness to extreme hedonism
• Can cinema re-sensitize us?
• Does violence in films reflect what’s in the collective or determine what’s in the collective?
• What happens when couples more openly discuss their sexual preferences?
• Can repair happen if a negative sexual experience takes place with a partner?
• Longing for seeing representations of moral men outside of "hero" roles

Links

Sign up for the course Activate Your Inner Jaguar: Movement, Meditation & The Female Nervous System here.