Do you feel like people often cut you off when you're talking?

When was the last time someone really listened to you?

Today, Jay sits down with international keynote speaker and communication coach Vinh Giang for an inspiring conversation about building real confidence and finding your voice. Together, they dive into how the way we speak, and how we feel about speaking, isn’t something we’re born with, but a skill you build through experience, self-awareness, and practice.

Vinh breaks down the myth that confident speakers are just born that way. Through his simple “four stages of competence” framework, he explains how with the right tools and consistent practice—anyone can become a powerful communicator, even if you’re naturally shy or introverted. It’s not about changing your personality; it’s about learning to manage your energy and use your voice with intention.

Throughout the episode, Vinh shares easy, practical tips, like how to stop people from interrupting you in meetings, how to sound more confident, and how to use your voice to its full potential. One of the most touching parts of the conversation is when Vinh opens up about his father, a refugee who didn’t understand his career choice at first, but later became his biggest supporter. It’s a reminder that communication isn’t just about being heard, it’s also about understanding, connecting, and growing in every part of life.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Move from Shy to Confident with Communication

How to Master the Four Stages of Speaking Competence

How to Build Self-Awareness with the Record & Review Method

How to Boost Vocal Presence and Authority Instantly

How to Communicate Effectively as an Introvert

How to Reframe “Fake” as “Unfamiliar” When Practicing New Skills

Whether you’re a seasoned speaker, a reluctant communicator, or someone simply yearning to be heard, this episode will leave you feeling inspired, equipped, and encouraged to use your voice, not just to speak, but to be seen.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

00:29 Are You Struggling to Communicate Clearly?

02:13 The Path to Becoming a Confident Speaker

04:27 Do you have “Unconscious Incompetence?”

06:07 Change Your Habits, Change Your Confidence

08:40 A Simple Way to Build Self-Awareness

12:30 Why You Keep Getting Interrupted (and How to Stop It)

15:57 Why Communication Skills Are More Important Than Ever

19:01 Protecting Your Energy as an Introvert or Extrovert

23:21 How to Create a Routine That Helps You Perform at Your Best

26:25 Why You Cringe at the Sound of Your Own Voice

31:00 What Failure Teaches Us About Growth

35:31 How to Become a Natural Communicator

39:43 Why Mastering Communication Gives You True Freedom

44:49 Vinh’s Most Embarrassing Public Speaking Moment

47:53 Do Accents Hold You Back from Being Understood?

52:57 The Pen-in-Mouth Trick to Sharpen Your Speech

56:20 Don’t Just Learn the Tools, Own Them

59:36 How to Slow Down Your Speech Without Sounding Boring

01:04:45 It’s Not Just What You Say, It’s How People Hear It

01:07:40 Matching Energy: How to Meet People Where They Are

01:13:25 How to Show Up as the Bigger, Bolder Version of Yourself

01:16:02 Why Public Speaking Is Still the #1 Fear

01:18:00 How Filming Yourself Can Instantly Improve Your Speaking

01:25:07 What Makes Steve Jobs’ Speech So Powerful

01:28:35 Why We Sense When Someone Feels Inauthentic

01:34:06 Vinh on Final Five

Episode Resources:

Vinh Quang Giang | Website

Vinh Quang Giang | Instagram

Vinh Quang Giang | X

Vinh Quang Giang | YouTube

Vinh Quang Giang | LinkedIn

Vinh Quang Giang | Facebook

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When was the last time you looked back and thought, “If only I knew this earlier”?

In this episode, Jay shares the seven life-changing lessons he wishes he’d learned in his teens and twenties—insights that could have reshaped his relationships, career, peace of mind, and sense of purpose. These aren’t just reflections; they’re powerful revelations most of us only discover through struggle, heartbreak, or burnout.

Jay dives into what it truly means to speak with intention, to know when it’s time to let go, and to stop outsourcing your self-worth. From learning to stay quiet in a world that rewards noise to realizing that boundaries are an act of self-love—each lesson is a powerful reminder that growth isn’t always about adding more, but about releasing what no longer serves you.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why Saying Less Makes Your Words Matter More.

Knowing When It’s Time to Walk Away

Why You Should Talk To People, Not About Them.

What Stress Reveals About a Person’s True Nature.

How to Raise Your Standards Without Guilt.

Why Some People Miss the Old You (for the Wrong Reasons).

How to Stop Absorbing Others' Emotions and Expectations.

This episode is for anyone feeling stuck, overlooked, or overwhelmed. Jay reminds you that you don’t get what you deserve — you get what you accept. And that sometimes the most powerful transformation happens when you choose peace over performance, presence over perfection, and truth over approval.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discussed:

00:00 Intro

01:37 Things I Wish I Knew

03:27 Lesson #1: Speak Less, Say More

11:57 Lesson #2: Let Go Before It Drags You Down

17:34 Lesson #3: Talk to Your Partner, Not About Them

21:43 Lesson #4: Understand the Whole Person, Not Just the Parts You Like

28:05 Lesson #5: You Get What You Tolerate, Not What You Deserve

32:52 Lesson #6: People Cling to the Old You Because It Was Easier to Control

36:22 Lesson #7: “Bad at Texting” Often Means You're Not a Priority

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Do you ever feel like you need to be funny to be liked?

How do you handle pressure to always “perform” for others?

In this candid, hilarious, and unexpectedly moving episode of On Purpose, Jay sits down with comedian, actor, and podcast superstar Bert Kreischer—famously known for his shirtless stand-up and his ability to keep audiences laughing nonstop. This conversation goes way beyond the jokes as Jay and Bert dive deep into the real stories behind the spotlight, revealing the layers of vulnerability, self-doubt, and emotional growth that make Bert more than just a party-loving comic.

Bert shares what it was like growing up with a tough, old-school dad who believed in powering through pain and never showing weakness. That mentality helped shape Bert’s work ethic but also left him carrying emotional weight for years. In one of the most touching moments of the episode, Bert shares how a simple, unexpected conversation with his dad, while they were both high on edibles, changed everything, helping them finally see each other clearly and connect on a deeper level.

With Jay’s thoughtful guidance, they unpack Bert’s real-life struggles with anxiety, chasing approval, and feeling like you’re never enough, things so many of us can relate to. Bert is refreshingly honest about his mental health, his parenting ups and downs, and what it's like trying to stay grounded while raising two sharp, hilarious daughters who aren’t afraid to call him out.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Stay Humble While Chasing Big Dreams

How to Raise Kids Who Keep You Grounded

How to Keep Showing Up Even When It's Hard

How to Use Vulnerability as a Superpower

How to Manage Anxiety Without Shame

How to Turn Criticism into Growth

How to Stay Grateful Through Every Stage of Success

This episode is full of laughs, a few tear-jerking moments, and plenty of insight into what it really means to show up, be yourself, and keep going, even when it’s hard.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:45 The Wildest Plane Stories You’ve Ever Heard

04:25 Why a Marriage Built on Laughter Works

06:01 When Your Family Becomes Your Funniest Critics

07:16 Were You Always the Funny One?

09:08 How Bert Mastered the Art of Storytelling

14:35 Growing Up with a Tough-Love Dad

17:56 What It’s Like Seeing Your Parent Cry for the First Time

20:40 Realizing Your Parents Are Human Too

23:36 When Your Dad Realizes He Can Use Your Fame

24:35 What It’s Like to Share Your Success with Your Parents

29:05 The Lifelong Quest for a Parent’s Approval

35:08 How a 6-Figure Deal with Will Smith Changed Everything

37:20 The Moment You Know You Have to Chase Your Talent

42:50 Embracing the Power of Pressure

44:09 Is There a Pain You Can’t Laugh Through?

47:06 Letting Your Kids See You Cry

49:56 Why the Way You Tell a Joke Matters

51:43 How Your Kids Really See You

54:05 The Challenge of Uninterrupted Family Time

56:51 Just Show Up and Do the Work

01:01:33 Success Was Never a Straight Line

01:07:24 Don’t Let Greatness Become Familiar

01:11:12 Living with Anxiety When Life Doesn’t Slow Down

01:17:26 Building a Healthier Relationship with Alcohol

01:19:29 How Tracking Your Fitness Can Change You

01:22:00 Bert on Final Five

Episode Resources:

Bert Kreischer | Website

Bert Kreischer | Instagram

Bert Kreischer | X

Bert Kreischer | YouTube

Bert Kreischer | TikTok

Bert Kreischer | Facebook

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