Episodios

  • 5 Steps To Stop People Pleasing
    Apr 3 2025
    Talking points: boundaries, relationships, mindsetThe counter-intuitive truth is this: if you're stuck in people-pleasing, you're generally not people-helping. I see a lot of men go through this, and many are unaware of what it really is and where it comes from. This week, straightforward insight and direct steps to breaking free.(00:00:00) - What the heck is people-pleasing?(00:03:02) - Two specific origins of people pleasing, and uncovering where it started in your own life(00:06:18) - The effect of trauma on one’s needs and self-worth(00:07:34) - The two major challenges of people-pleasing, and how to start breaking out of this(00:10:39) - Reflecting on tendencies, practicing your No, and prioritizing what you need (00:14:45) - On boundaries***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthJoin myself, Ryan Michler, Larry Hagner, and Matt Beaudreau on a mission to improve yourself as a man, husband, business owner, and community leader at the Men's Forge. May 1-4, St. Louis, MO: https://orderofman.clickfunnels.com/uprising-landing-page1715263442491Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram
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    20 m
  • Men's Work Session - Healing A Past Full Of Anger
    Mar 31 2025

    Talking points: anger, trauma, relationships

    This is an essential episode for two reasons.


    One, it clearly shows how emotions and behaviors get passed down not just in mind but in body. Two, this episode also shows there are men out there doing real work—and they're committed to it; my guest was already familiar with the somatic part of his feelings. If you grew up in a volatile family, this is doubly worth listening to.


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    Join myself, Ryan Michler, Larry Hagner, and Matt Beaudreau on a mission to improve yourself as a man, husband, business owner, and community leader at the Men's Forge. May 1-4, St. Louis, MO: https://orderofman.clickfunnels.com/uprising-landing-page1715263442491

    Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

    Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

    Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

    Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

    Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify

    For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

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    32 m
  • The Psychological Complex So Many Men Struggle With
    Mar 27 2025

    Talking points: archetypes, psychology, relationships

    I genuinely feel this is one of the most important concepts we as men should understand. It affects a lot of us, and it definitely affected me. It definitely fits the word "complex", but it's absolutely something you can work on. So grab a notepad, dig in, and share with any man you think would benefit.

    (00:00:00) - Intro, definition, and why knowing about this is useful

    (00:08:09) - What causes this split?

    (00:21:55) - Rounding up what kind of man is at risk of this, and where to start healing

    (00:26:04) - What are you hiding, and what do you reveal

    (00:32:16) - Important: have conversations


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    Join myself, Ryan Michler, Larry Hagner, and Matt Beaudreau on a mission to improve yourself as a man, husband, business owner, and community leader at the Men's Forge. May 1-4, St. Louis, MO: https://orderofman.clickfunnels.com/uprising-landing-page1715263442491

    Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

    Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

    Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

    Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

    Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify

    For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

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    34 m
  • Michael Sartain - Moving Beyond The Stereotypes
    Mar 24 2025

    Talking points: relationships, evolutionary psychology, culture

    You know it, I know it, and Michael Sartain knows it: there are a LOT of men out there facing extreme difficulty. I wanted to pick Michael’s brain on how to help men understand why this is, but from the perspective of evolutionary psychology, and the boots-on-ground experience of a fellow coach. I appreciate Michael’s ability to follow (and focus) the data without getting lost in reactionary antics. Listen in.

    (00:00:00) - How Michael works with men

    (00:13:13) - What makes evolutionary psychology such a charged subject?

    (00:25:40) - Why risk is important for men

    (00:31:36) - Strategies to boost your risk tolerance

    (00:39:02) - The difficulty of modern male relationships, and staying neutral

    (00:48:42) - Does the unwillingness to take risk impact relationships?

    (00:53:23) - On status, Bonnie Blue, and what most don’t get about the “bottom third” of men

    Michael Sartain’s journey from a studious kid in Dallas, TX, to a leading expert in high-status networking and masculine self-improvement is nothing short of transformative. He grew up in contrasting environments; a comfortable family life, but a high school marked by gangs and poverty. Michael found refuge in academia, eventually earning a BBA from UT-Austin while nurturing a passion for diverse subjects like physics and psychology. The events of September 11, 2001, ignited his patriotic spirit, propelling him into the US Air Force as a KC135 navigator, rising to the rank of captain. It was here he honed leadership skills and experienced the profound impact of true accountability and integrity.

    In 2019, he founded Men Of Action, a coaching community that has transformed the lives of over 2,000 men. Through his podcasts and public appearances, Michael continues to inspire, emphasizing leadership, social dynamics, and personal growth.


    Connect with Michael:

    -Website: https://www.moamentoring.com/

    -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michaelsartain/

    -YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/MichaelSartain

    -Twitter: https://x.com/michaelsartain


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    Join myself, Ryan Michler, Larry Hagner, and Matt Beaudreau on a mission to improve yourself as a man, husband, business owner, and community leader at the Men's Forge. May 1-4, St. Louis, MO: https://orderofman.clickfunnels.com/uprising-landing-page1715263442491

    Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

    Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

    Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

    Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out

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    1 h y 6 m
  • A Rise In Avoidant Attached Women?
    Mar 20 2025

    Talking points: attachment, relationships, culture

    I recently brought in an attachment specialist for the Alliance because a lot of men are noticing an uptick in women who are emotionally distant, avoid vulnerability, and break it off the second things get serious. There are a ton of ways to look at this, and lots of factors, but I wanted to dig in a bit—and give some insight into what YOU can do if you're dating an avoidant woman.


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    Join myself, Ryan Michler, Larry Hagner, and Matt Beaudreau on a mission to improve yourself as a man, husband, business owner, and community leader at the Men's Forge. May 1-4, St. Louis, MO: https://orderofman.clickfunnels.com/uprising-landing-page1715263442491

    Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

    Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

    Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

    Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

    Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify

    For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

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    18 m
  • Men's Work Session - The Depth Of The Anxious/Avoidant Dance
    Mar 17 2025

    Talking points: attachment, marriage, trauma

    There’s a lot of attachment content out there. I should know, I make a fair bit myself. But in my work with this week’s anonymous guest, you can see just how complex things can get. My guest is managing the anxious-avoidant dance really well, but processing what causes it is something that requires deeper work. Listen in.


    (00:00:00) - Intro, handling the anxious/avoidant dance in marriage, and the what it felt like losing a father

    (00:11:21) - Who was there for you?

    (00:22:52) - The search for peace


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    Join myself, Ryan Michler, Larry Hagner, and Matt Beaudreau on a mission to improve yourself as a man, husband, business owner, and community leader at the Men's Forge. May 1-4, St. Louis, MO: https://orderofman.clickfunnels.com/uprising-landing-page1715263442491

    Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

    Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

    Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

    Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

    Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify

    For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

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    36 m
  • The Main Trap For An Anxiously Attached Man—And How To Escape It
    Mar 13 2025

    Talking points: relationships, attachment

    There's one significant trap a lot of men fall into when they're anxiously attached. Good news? It's manageable—as long as you know where it's coming from. If you or your partner has this attachment style, dig in.


    (00:00:00) - Defining the trap, and why it happens

    (00:04:29) - What you’re really up against, and the first step in escaping the trap

    (00:09:15) - Uncovering where it shows up in your relationship, and taking action

    (00:12:09) - Don’t just practice in the relationship, and what causes blacksliding


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    Join myself, Ryan Michler, Larry Hagner, and Matt Beaudreau on a mission to improve yourself as a man, husband, business owner, and community leader at the Men's Forge. May 1-4, St. Louis, MO: https://orderofman.clickfunnels.com/uprising-landing-page1715263442491

    Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

    Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

    Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

    Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

    Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify

    For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

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    16 m
  • Tad Hargrave - How To Date (And Market) Beautifully
    Mar 10 2025

    Talking points: culture, marketing, relationships

    I consider it an achievement to have Tad on the show. He's a soulful and wise person who can cut through the BS quickly—and do it kindly, no less. We sat down to discuss the parallels in ethically presenting your case in both the business and dating realms. You'll be surprised at how similar some aspects are!


    (00:00:00) - How is dating an extension of marketing?

    (00:13:24) - The meaning of “gauging” a potential partner, and what to look for

    (00:19:57) - On sunk cost, grief, people pleasing, and our fear of risk

    (00:27:17) - Is there a connection between fear of approach and polarization?

    (00:34:43) - How is AI going to change how we market

    (00:47:33) - What are the key implementations of ethical marketing?

    Tad Hargrave is a hippy who developed a knack for marketing (and then learned to be a hippy again). Since 2001, he has been weaving together strands of ethical marketing, Waldorf School education, a history in the performing arts, local culture making, anti-globalization activism, an interest in his ancestral, traditional cultures, community building and supporting local economies into his work helping people create profitable businesses that are ethically grown while restoring the beauty of the marketplace.


    Connect with Tad:

    -Website: https://marketingforhippies.com/

    -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marketingforhippies/

    -Substack: https://tadhargrave.substack.com/


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    Join myself, Ryan Michler, Larry Hagner, and Matt Beaudreau on a mission to improve yourself as a man, husband, business owner, and community leader at the Men's Forge. May 1-4, St. Louis, MO: https://orderofman.clickfunnels.com/uprising-landing-page1715263442491

    Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

    Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

    Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

    Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

    Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the...

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    56 m