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  • Episode 146: James Hollis - How To Be Who You Are
    Mar 14 2025

    James Hollis is a Jungian psychoanalyst and the author of many books, including "A Life of Meaning," which is the primary subject of our conversation.

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    00:00 Intro

    01:05 Why Jim wrote "A Life of Meaning"

    05:28 The shadow

    08:38 Why confront one's shadow?

    10:48 The numinous and finding your calling

    25:20 Lethargy is a threat to living

    29:55 A modern culture of distraction

    32:28 Jim's decision to become a public educator

    37:02 Jim's growth beyond his family of origin

    44:30 Psychopathology

    48:26 Sin: missing the mark

    55:15 Fear - the spirit of evil is negation of the life force by fear

    58:50 Jim is a "recovering nice person"

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  • Episode 145: Daniel Lieberman - Direct Dopamine To Friends, Not Phones
    Mar 7 2025

    Daniel Lieberman is a psychiatrist, the SVP of mental health at Hims & Hers, and the author of the best-selling book, The Molecule of More.

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    (00:00) Intro

    (00:59) What would humans be without dopamine?

    (01:29) Donating dopamine to phones, not friends

    (03:58) What is dopamine?

    (07:53) What are the signs of someone with high dopamine?

    (11:56) How can high dopamine people live wisely?

    (18:50) Can workaholics change their insatiability?

    (22:22) "The modern devil is cheap dopamine"

    (28:58) What does a wise future look like re: smartphones?

    (31:37) Dopamine in relationships and love

    (38:46) Skills to develop to sustain long-term relationships

    (43:11) Are we on the cusp of a conservative cultural shift?

    (48:02) Modern dopamine and men in society

    (54:42) What advice does Daniel give to his sons?

    (57:14) What's next for Daniel?

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    59 m
  • Episode 143: Robert Plomin - The Power of Genes in Human Nature
    Feb 21 2025

    Robert Plomin is a British-American scientist, a psychologist and behavioral geneticist, and the author of the bestselling book, Blueprint: How DNA Makes Us Who We Are.

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    (00:00) Intro

    (01:00) The history of nature vs nurture debate

    (15:40) "All parents are nurture-ists - until their second child."

    (18:54) Identical twin studies

    (39:16) Lessons from the film "Three Identical Strangers"

    (41:20) How much influence do parents have on their kids?

    (58:40) Genes and psychology

    (01:10:55) A better model for psychology

    (01:16:35) How should society look, based on the truth and power of genes?

    (01:27:03) Nucleus genomics in NYC for polygenic information

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    1 h y 30 m
  • Episode 142: Derek Sivers: How To Keep Growing
    Feb 14 2025

    Derek Sivers is a TED speaker, an essayist, a businessman, a musician, one of my favorite thinkers on the planet, and the author of many books including his most recent, Useful Not True: Whatever Works For You.

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    (00:00) Intro

    (01:00) Your actions reveal your values

    (03:25) Obvious to you, amazing to someone else

    (05:19) How Derek thinks about money

    (13:03) Deep happy vs. shallow happy

    (21:00) Following an innate drive and desire

    (24:07) 18 months of feeling adrift

    (30:04) To find direction: read a lot and wait for energy

    (31:18) The power of heroes and anti-heroes

    (36:05) Egotists and hedonists

    (40:00) Changing your mind and keeping your identity small

    (44:37) Think of yourself as a student, not a preacher

    (47:42) Personal growth over wealth growth

    (53:00) Prioritizing openness

    (56:59) What lifestyles or beliefs is Derek against?

    (01:04:50) The downside of optimism in Derek's personal life

    (01:14:24) Dating, marriage, and the role of women in Derek's life

    (01:23:55) How to save a life with $2,000

    (01:27:50) Derek's thoughts on philanthropy

    (01:33:54) "Useful Not True"

    (01:38:39) A prequel to "How To Live"

    (01:41:13) "Useful Not True": the truth of many answers and perspectives

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    1 h y 47 m
  • Episode 141: Anna Lembke - Dopamine Nation: Overcoming Modern Addictions
    Feb 7 2025

    Anna Lembke is a psychiatrist, Chief of the Stanford Addiction Medicine Dual Diagnosis Clinic, and the author of "Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence."

    This is a rebroadcast of episode 35, from 2022.

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    (00:00) Intro

    (00:57) Anna Lembke’s interest in studying addiction

    (04:34) Defining addiction and the "gremlin theory" of addiction

    (15:19) Characteristics of an addict

    (23:48) The stigma around addictions

    (26:46) Characteristics of a healthy person living today

    (33:50) The importance and role of struggle in a good life

    (41:04) The impact of modern addictions on society today

    (46:54) Habit change ideas and the role of struggle in a good life

    (52:11) How to know if you're becoming an addict

    (58:45) The effective and ethical way to address addiction

    (01:03:58) Workaholism as an addiction

    (01:20:13) The connection between shame and a “never enough” attitude towards work

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    1 h y 25 m
  • Episode 140: Russell Foster - Sleep: The Most Important Thing You Do
    Jan 31 2025

    Russell Foster is a sleep expert, a professor of circadian neuroscience, a fellow of the Royal Society, and the author of Life Time.

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    (00:00) Intro

    (00:55) Views on sleep through time

    (03:34) Why we have de-prioritized sleep

    (05:39) Where should sleep rank in our health priorities?

    (08:22) How do we know we're getting enough sleep?

    (11:59) The historic and current cost of sleep deprivation

    (17:44) Why does sleep exist?

    (21:53) What is happening biologically while people sleep?

    (27:59) Sleep and mental illness

    (38:09) What those with mental illness can do to stabilize their sleep

    (01:00:25) Sleep for new parents

    (01:03:35) How would a healthy society approach sleep?

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    1 h y 7 m
  • Episode 139: Nick Pollard - The Problem With People-Pleasing
    Jan 24 2025

    Nick Pollard, "The People Displeaser," is a speaker and life coach who advocates for honest, authentic living through mindful boundaries, free of people-pleasing.

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    (00:00) Intro

    (01:00) When Nick's was homicidal and suicidal

    (04:09) Nick's father

    (09:10) How Nick got his life together

    (18:08) Why Nick focuses on people-pleasing

    (23:25) Symptoms of a people-pleaser

    (26:44) Why do people become people-pleasers?

    (31:23) Your rules for life and a personal bill of rights

    (37:23) Establishing personal boundaries

    (42:39) Confronting fear and quotes from Jim Hollis

    (49:16) People-pleasers often have few same-sex friends

    (57:11) When should former people-pleasers leave relationships?

    (01:09:15) Nick's relationship deal-breakers

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    1 h y 13 m
  • Episode 138: Pico Iyer - What We Can Learn From Silence
    Jan 17 2025

    Pico Iyer is a novelist, a travel writer, and the author of many books, including his most recent, "Aflame: Learning From Silence," which is the subject of this conversation.

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    (00:00) Intro

    (00:00) Intro

    (00:58) Santa Barbara, June 1990

    (04:25) The New Camaldoli Hermitage

    (07:30) Pico's life when he first went to New Camaldoli

    (11:08) Silence elicits gratitude, what's shared and what's essential

    (16:10) Intentionally turning off technology

    (22:39) Creating a wise amount of "cathedral time"

    (25:53) Embracing silence as a non-religious person

    (32:03) Leonard Cohen exploring his inner landscape in silence

    (36:05) How Pico has developed from his 100+ hermitage visits

    (41:35) Saying no in order to prioritize space for silence

    (47:07) How to begin a life with more silence and contemplation

    (50:41) Silence as an antidote to despair

    (54:36) What Pico has learned from the Dalai Lama

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