One of the biggest criticisms of purity culture is the way it reduced sexuality to a list of do’s and don’ts, but there are lots of other reasons millennial men and women report feeling burned by it.

Dr. Camden Morgante, author of “Recovering from Purity Culture”, shares some of the harmful narratives that formed the movement, and provides some alternative approaches to discussing sexuality.

Guest: Dr. Camden Morgante

Website: drcamden.com

Instagram: @drcamden

Book: Recovering From Purity Culture by Dr. Camden Morgante

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Timestamps

00:00 Introduction to Purity Culture

02:13 Camden’s Personal Journey and Professional Insights

05:58 Understanding the Harm of Purity Culture

09:52 Navigating Sexual Awakening in Adolescence

13:58 The Importance of Teaching Values

15:57 Dating Dynamics and Courtship Culture

22:08 Modesty and Its Misinterpretations

25:07 The Role of Patriarchy in Purity Culture

30:54 Steps Towards Healing and Wholeness

39:03 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

If questions about sex lead to questions about God, it’s important that we know and follow Jesus as He really is.

Rick Lawrence, author of “Editing Jesus”, joins Juli to discuss how many American Christians make Jesus into an image other than Himself.

Guest: Rick Lawrence

Rick’s Website: ricklawrence.com

Book: Editing Jesus: Confronting the Distorted Faith of the American Church by Rick Lawrence

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Timestamps

00:00 Understanding God and Sexuality

02:50 The Journey to “Editing Jesus”

06:11 Confronting Cultural Misunderstandings

08:57 The Mud Puddles of Scripture

11:57 The Hard Sayings of Jesus

15:12 Intimacy and Relationship with Jesus

18:02 The Challenge of Self-Centeredness

21:01 Joy vs Happiness in Faith

23:49 The Role of Suffering in Growth

27:01 Practical Steps to Know Jesus

29:52 Conclusion and Resources

Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

In this special Q&A episode, Juli answers your questions about sex and marriage. You’ll hear answers to questions like, why did God make us sexual when it causes so much pain? Does sex matter in marriage? And, is it possible to be too focused on sex in marriage?

Join Juli and Hannah for a brief exploration of good biblical theology on sex and marriage.

Co-host: Hannah Nitz

Hannah’s Website: hannahnitz.com

Hannah’s Instagram: @hannahnitz

Blog: Overcoming Sexual Shame and Fear in Marriage

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How can women overcome fear and shame around their bodies and embrace the beauty of God’s design for sex?

Whether from purity culture, other messages, or poor experiences, many women don’t see their bodies and sex as good or beautiful. Francie Winslow, host of the podcast “Heaven in Your Home” went through her own struggle with this, and joins Juli to explain how she is learning to embrace the goodness of God’s design.

Guest: Francie Winslow

Website: franciewinslow.com

Instagram: @franciewinslow

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When a marriage is in crisis, it can be hard to know what the next step should be. Is divorce the only option? Are there other steps available that couples often miss?

Dr. Greg Smalley, Vice President of Marriage and Family Formation at Focus on the Family, joins Juli to talk about some of the options couples can explore.

Guest: Dr. Greg Smalley

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It’s reported that 20-30% of marriages have a higher-desire wife and lower-desire husband.

This means that while many women may wish their husbands requested less sex, there are also many women who experience the opposite. For the woman who wants her husband to want sex a little more, Sheri Mueller, LCPC, author of “I Want Him to Want Me”, joins Juli to share insights, wisdom, and encouragement.

Guest: Sheri Mueller, LCPC

Sheri’s Website: marriagetrac.com

Sheri’s Instagram: @growthtrac

Book: I Want Him to Want Me by Sheri Mueller, LCPC

Blog: Why Christians Need to Care About Sex

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What secret are you keeping?

Many of us keep secrets to protect ourselves. But secrets also hide us from others. They can prevent us from being fully known and fully loved.

Jason VanRuler, author of “Get Past Your Past”, joins Juli to share some insights about secrecy and why it’s worth us living in the light.

Guest: Jason VanRuler

Website: jasonvr.com

Instagram: @jason.vanruler

Book: Get Past Your Past by Jason VanRuler

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Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Sexual pain makes sex challenging, stressful, and a source of tension rather than a source of pleasure. Sadly, it’s a very present reality for many couples, and one that can quickly erode sexual intimacy for years or even decades.

Many women are told to ‘watch porn’, ‘drink wine’, or ‘relax’, with no clear diagnosis found and no real solution given. Today’s guest, Jess Setiz, knows this reality all too well. Now a trauma-informed pelvic health practitioner, Jess struggled through painful sex for 8 years before she and her husband were able to find a solution that really worked. She joins Juli to share what she learned, and how she’s helping other women enjoy pleasurable, pain-free sex.

Guest: Jess Seitz

Website: painfreeintimacy.com

Instagram: @painfree.intimacy

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