Welcome back to Here Comes Sunshine. In Part 2 of our Deciding to Stay or Go series, we're turning the focus inward. You can’t make a grounded decision about your relationship until you know what you're truly looking for.

So many men over 40 have never fully asked themselves:

• What kind of connection do I crave?
• What does intimacy look like for the man I’ve become?
• What type of partnership feels aligned with my values?

• How to define your relationship vision in just five powerful sentences
• How to name your non-negotiables and core values
• How to recognize old patterns that are no longer serving you

• Have I outgrown this version of love?
• What part of me have I been silencing to avoid conflict?
• What would it look like to love—and be loved—in a way that honors who I am now?

Today’s episode will help you reconnect with your emotional, physical, and relational needs. You’ll walk away with practical tools and clarity, not about what your partner wants, but about what you want in this next season of life. We’ll cover: You’ll also get reflective prompts like: You deserve clarity. And you’re allowed to want more.

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Let’s keep walking this path together.

You’re doing the brave work.

Welcome to Here Comes Sunshine. Today, we begin a powerful four-part series for anyone who has ever lain awake asking, “Should I stay, or is it time to go?”

Whether you’ve been married for decades, dating again after divorce, or sitting in a relationship that no longer feels right, you’re not alone. This episode invites you to stop ignoring your needs and get honest about where you truly stand.

We’ll explore:

• How to create a relationship energy audit

• What emotional patterns you been tolerating

• How to reconnect with what you want and need

You’ll also get soul-searching questions to reflect on, like:

• Who am I when I’m around my partner?

• Have I been honest about my unhappiness?

• What am I afraid will happen if I speak my truth?

This isn’t about rushing to a decision—it’s about beginning a deeper, more honest conversation with yourself.

If you need support on this journey, you can find coaching tools and resources in my Stan Store or contact me directly at sarah@intimateconsciousness.com.

You don’t have to stay stuck.
And you don’t have to walk this alone.

It is that time of year again, I am taking some time to unplug, enjoy time with family, and get my house (literally) in order!

See you in a couple of weeks!

Email: Sarah@intimateconsciousness.com

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In today’s episode of Here Comes Sunshine, I’m talking about one of the most damaging forces in any relationship: contempt.

You’ll hear how it shows up, why the Gottman Institute calls it the number one predictor of divorce, and how to recognize it in your own life. I also share a personal story of what contempt looked like in my past relationship, and how I found the strength to walk away.

I reference a powerful video clip from Diary of a CEO and break down how to move from toxic dynamics into a healing, honest connection.

Whether you’re the one experiencing contempt or noticing you’re dishing it out, there are real steps you can take to create change. This one is raw, real, and important.

Email: Sarah@initmateconsciousness.com

Coaching & Resources: https://stan.store/the_sarah_valentine

Do soulmates really exist?

Or is love about timing, readiness, and doing the inner work first?

In today’s episode, I respond to a listener who asked me to describe my soulmate. I share why I believe we have many potential matches in this life and how my journey through heartbreak, healing, and clarity helped me call in a partner who aligns with the woman I’ve become.

This episode is part story, part encouragement, and full of tools for establishing a healthy, honest, and grounded relationship.

Whether you're newly single, doing the inner work, or just wondering what’s next in love, this one's for you.

Email: Sarah@initmateconsciousness.com

Coaching & Resources: https://stan.store/the_sarah_valentine

Today’s question comes from a follower:

“What kind of responses to your sexy pics do you prefer?”

And while that might seem like a simple question, my answer is anything but.

I’m diving deep into how my views on attention, sensuality, and online expression have changed, mainly as I’ve processed past abuse, found a committed relationship rooted in respect, and done the emotional work of reclaiming my body and voice.

This episode is for the men who follow me, admire women, and want to express their sexuality without shame. They also want to understand what it means to truly be respectful, emotionally aware, and in integrity with the relationships they’re building.

I’m talking about objectification vs admiration, consent, emotional safety, the shifting cultural tide around women’s rights, and how men can show up better, online and in real life.

If you’re ready to think differently about desire, digital behavior, and the kind of partner you want to be, this conversation is for you.

Want to connect or go deeper?
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Let’s keep growing together.

Ever get tongue-tied around your crush and wonder, "How do I say something without sounding like a weirdo?"

You're not alone.

In today’s episode, I answer a follower’s question about how to approach someone you're into without creeping them out.

We’re talking real-world, low-pressure ways to show interest that feel genuine and magnetic. Plus, I’m throwing it back to a little moment from my Spark & Ignite live show, where I tackled this topic.

If you're ready to flirt confidently, this one's for you.

Contact Sarah:
Email: ⁠sarah@intimateconsciousness.com⁠
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Is it weird... or just sexy?

In today’s episode of Here Comes Sunshine, I will answer a follower's question about pantyhose, turn-ons, kinks, and embracing your unique erotic blueprint. What matters most isn’t what turns everyone on; it’s what turns you on, and whether you can find someone who honors that.

This is a celebration of adult consent, curiosity, and connection. Let's remove shame from the discussion and talk about what really matters.

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