Why running from temptation might be keeping you stuck—and how to flip the script.

🔥 What We Talk About:

Most of us were taught: "Just flee temptation." But what if that advice is keeping you spiritually weak?

In this episode, Justin and Richard dismantle a commonly misused phrase—“flee temptation”—and explain why that mindset can actually deepen your slavery to sin. They walk through what Scripture actually says (and doesn’t say), and challenge you to view temptation as a training ground, not a trap.

Key highlights:

• 📖 Scripture never says “flee temptation” — we show you what it does say instead
  
  
  
• 💪 Why temptation is spiritual leg day—the thing that makes you strong, not sinful
  
  
  
• 🧠 How your mindset (Expectation Effect) shapes your strength in moments of weakness
  
  
  
• 🛠️ Practical steps to engage temptation without fear and walk in freedom
  
  
  
• 🙏 A powerful prayer for those still wrestling with shame, discomfort, or fear
  
  
  

🧩 Practical Tools & Takeaways:

• Matthew 4:1 — Jesus was led by the Spirit into temptation
  
  
  
• Hebrews 4:15 — Jesus was tempted in every way, yet without sin
  
  
  
• James 1:12 — "Blessed is the one who endures temptation..."
  
  
  
• Reframe: Temptation isn't your enemy—it’s your opportunity to grow stronger in truth.
  
  
  
• Identity Shift: Stop seeing yourself as weak and about to fail. You are free, equipped, and filled with the Spirit.
  
  
  

💬 One-Liner Takeaway:

“Temptation is not the problem—it’s the place where freedom becomes real.”

🎧 Listen now if you’ve ever thought:

• “Why am I still tempted if I’m free?”
  
  
  
• “Does temptation mean I’m sinning already?”
  
  
  
• “How do I stop running and start growing?”
  
  
  

This episode flips your view of temptation and gives you a gospel-centered framework for enduring it with confidence and clarity.

🧠 Freedom is your new normal.
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🔥 EPISODE SNAPSHOT

Freedom doesn’t happen alone.
It’s not just about willpower, filters, or white-knuckling your way through temptation.

If you want real, lasting freedom from porn—you need a grace-filled community.

In this episode, Richard and Justin unpack how shame drives isolation, and why the enemy loves to keep you there. You'll hear personal stories, biblical wisdom, and an invitation into something far more powerful than “trying harder.” Because according to Scripture—and experience—transformation is a team sport.

🧠 WHAT YOU’LL LEARN

• Why shame isolates—and grace brings healing
  
  
  
• How Jesus modeled vulnerability in His darkest hour (Gethsemane wasn’t a solo mission)
  
  
  
• What Sequoia trees and your spiritual health have in common
  
  
  
• How real confession leads to real healing—not guilt
  
  
  
• Why freedom thrives in truth-filled, grace-driven relationships
  
  
  

💬 QUOTABLE MOMENTS

“Community isn’t a crutch—it’s a strategy of heaven.”

“Confessing to God is powerful. But confessing to a brother? That’s where healing explodes.”

“The devil wants you isolated. God calls you into family.”

💡 BIG IDEA:

Freedom is your new normal—but it doesn’t grow in isolation.
If shame keeps you quiet, community breaks the silence with truth.

🛠️ PRACTICAL TAKEAWAY

• Don’t just find any community—find a grace-filled one.
  
  
  
• Surround yourself with people who speak to your identity in Christ—not your past.
  
  
  
• Want to go deeper? Richard and Justin are launching a 60-day coaching program where you’ll be surrounded by men who get it, support you, and walk with you toward lasting transformation.
  
  
  

🎯 WANT TO JOIN THE COACHING PROGRAM?

If you’re ready to stop hiding, start healing, and actually live out the freedom Jesus already purchased for you—we’d love to walk with you.

📥 Send us a message on Instagram
@riyoung31

richard@lovereality.org

@jkhoe

hello@justinkhoe.com

🔥 EPISODE SNAPSHOT

Sex isn’t dirty.
Desire isn’t sin.
And freedom doesn’t mean shutting down your sexuality.

In this episode, Justin and Richard confront one of the most harmful lies in Christian purity culture: that sexual desire is inherently sinful. But what if the urge to procreate is no more evil than the urge to urinate?

We explore how God designed sexuality as a gift, why shame has hijacked it, and how the gospel empowers us not to repress desire—but to redeem it. Through vivid metaphors (sugar, smartphones, beach balls in the pool) and biblical insight, this episode unpacks how real transformation starts with renewing your view of sex itself.

🧠 WHAT YOU’LL LEARN

• Why sexual urges are not sinful—they’re signs of a healthy, God-designed body
  
  
  
• The damaging cycle of shame and repression (and how it always backfires)
  
  
  
• How pornography floods your brain with fake “sugar” and makes real intimacy less satisfying
  
  
  
• The gospel’s promise of heart-level transformation—so thorough that your desires are rewired
  
  
  
• Why freedom isn’t about losing desire, but redirecting it back to its God-given purpose
  
  
  

💬 QUOTABLE MOMENTS

“It’s no more evil to want to procreate than to urinate.”

“Shame makes us push sexuality down like a beach ball in a pool—until it explodes back up.”
—Richard Young

“If you’re in Christ, you don’t need to be afraid of your desires. You need to redeem them.”

“You don’t stop craving porn by trying harder. You stop craving it when your soul is full.”

💡 BIG IDEA:

Sexuality isn’t the enemy. Shame is.
God created desire. The enemy corrupted it.
And the gospel restores it.

🛠️ PRACTICAL TAKEAWAY

Your urges don’t need to lead to sin.
They can lead to gratitude.
Instead of saying “What’s wrong with me?” when you feel desire, try:

“Thank you, Lord, for making me fully alive.”

Freedom starts by seeing sexuality the way God sees it.

@riyoun31

richard@lovereality.org

@jkhoehello@justinkhoe.com

🔥 EPISODE SNAPSHOT

No one has ever hated themselves into healing.
Yet for so many, shame has become the default strategy for breaking free from porn.

Here’s the truth:
Shame doesn’t heal you.
Shame doesn’t change you.
Shame just makes you feel worse.

In this episode, Richard and Justin unpack why shame feels powerful—but never produces lasting transformation. You’ll hear powerful (and vulnerable) stories of how shame led to deeper bondage, even when it should’ve been the final straw.

And more importantly—you’ll hear what actually does lead to real, permanent change.

🧠 WHAT YOU’LL LEARN

• Why shame-based transformation always fails—even when it looks like it’s working
  
  
  
• How the gospel reframes your value before you ever get it “right”
  
  
  
• The difference between behavior modification and mind renewal
  
  
  
• How to replace the question “What’s wrong with me?” with “What am I believing?”
  
  
  
• Why God’s love is the only power strong enough to lead to lasting repentance
  
  
  

💥 QUOTABLE MOMENTS

“Shame is like drinking salt water—it just makes you thirstier.”

“The cross wasn’t proof that God hates sin. It’s proof that God values you.”

“Your Father isn’t watching to catch you failing—He’s in the pool with you, arms outstretched.”

💡 BIG IDEA:

Shame leads to cycles. Kindness leads to repentance.
That’s not our opinion—it’s Romans 2:4.
If you want freedom, stop using the enemy’s tools. Start trusting your Father’s love.

🛠️ PRACTICAL TAKEAWAY

• Shame leads to hiding.
  
  
  
• Hiding leads to habits.
  
  
  
• But truth? Truth sets you free.
  
  
  

Use the two-step practice from this episode:

1. Identify the lie (e.g., “I’m broken. I’m too far gone.”)
   
   
   
2. Replace it with truth (e.g., “I am a beloved child of God. I’ve been set free.”)
   
   
   

You’ll also be guided through a powerful closing prayer to help you start this shift today.

@riyoung31

richard@lovereality.org

@jkhoe

hello@justinkhoe.com

If effort alone could set you free… you’d be free by now.

Let’s get honest.
You’ve tried the filters.
You’ve tried the alarms.
You’ve tried accountability, apps, and prayer marathons at 5am.

And yet—you’re still stuck.

In this episode, Justin and Richard dismantle the lie that white-knuckled effort leads to lasting freedom. Spoiler alert: it doesn’t. In fact, trying harder may be reinforcing the very addiction you’re trying to escape.

🧠 WHAT YOU’LL LEARN

• Why discipline and willpower aren’t enough to experience gospel-centered transformation
  
  
  
• How the “Pavlok shock collar experiment” (yes, really) exposes the limits of behavior modification
  
  
  
• The tragic consequences of shame-based purity culture—and why it keeps people stuck
  
  
  
• What Romans 12:2 actually teaches about real transformation (hint: it’s not “try harder”)
  
  
  
• A practical 2-step tool to renew your mind: identify the lie → replace it with truth
  
  
  
• Why the discomfort of temptation isn’t proof that you want porn—but that you actually don’t
  
  
  

💡 BIG IDEA:

Your problem isn’t willpower—it’s what you believe.
If your mind is filled with lies, your life will reflect it.
But if the truth sets you free…
Then freedom starts with renewing your mind.

🛠️ PRACTICAL TAKEAWAY

End the cycle of guilt.
Trade in the shame.
Let the Spirit of God reveal the lies…
…and replace them with truth.

You’ll even be guided through a powerful prayer to help you do it—right here in the episode.

@riyoung31

richard@lovereality.org

@jkhoe

hello@justinkhoe.com

What if the way you describe yourself is the very thing keeping you stuck?
In this episode of Free From Porn, hosts Richard Young and Justin Khoe dismantle one of the most common (and damaging) beliefs in the fight against porn: the identity of a porn addict.

If you’ve ever thought,

“I guess this is just something I’ll struggle with forever…”
—then this episode is your wake-up call.

We unpack:

• The hidden power of labels and how your brain literally follows your beliefs
  
  
  
• What the nocebo effect teaches us about staying stuck in shame
  
  
  
• Why Scripture doesn’t just suggest—but commands—a new identity in Christ
  
  
  
• And how two guys with over 50 combined years of addiction finally found freedom… without white-knuckling, shaming, or “trying harder”
  
  
  

💡 WHAT YOU’LL LEARN

• Why calling yourself a “porn addict” may be reinforcing the cycle
  
  
  
• The scientific & biblical case for identity-based transformation (hello, Romans 6:11)
  
  
  
• The link between belief and behavior—and how Jesus rewires both
  
  
  
• How shame-based tactics (like accountability groups and filters) often backfire
  
  
  
• The better foundation: Freedom is not the reward for your effort—it's the reality in Christ
  
  
  

🧠 BIG TAKEAWAY:

“The only thing that keeps you enslaved to sin… is the lie that you still are.”
—Justin Khoe

@riyoung31

Richard@lovereality.org

@jkhoehello

@justinkhoe.com