🔥 EPISODE SNAPSHOT

Sex isn’t dirty.
Desire isn’t sin.
And freedom doesn’t mean shutting down your sexuality.

In this episode, Justin and Richard confront one of the most harmful lies in Christian purity culture: that sexual desire is inherently sinful. But what if the urge to procreate is no more evil than the urge to urinate?

We explore how God designed sexuality as a gift, why shame has hijacked it, and how the gospel empowers us not to repress desire—but to redeem it. Through vivid metaphors (sugar, smartphones, beach balls in the pool) and biblical insight, this episode unpacks how real transformation starts with renewing your view of sex itself.

🧠 WHAT YOU’LL LEARN

• Why sexual urges are not sinful—they’re signs of a healthy, God-designed body
  
  
  
• The damaging cycle of shame and repression (and how it always backfires)
  
  
  
• How pornography floods your brain with fake “sugar” and makes real intimacy less satisfying
  
  
  
• The gospel’s promise of heart-level transformation—so thorough that your desires are rewired
  
  
  
• Why freedom isn’t about losing desire, but redirecting it back to its God-given purpose
  
  
  

💬 QUOTABLE MOMENTS

“It’s no more evil to want to procreate than to urinate.”

“Shame makes us push sexuality down like a beach ball in a pool—until it explodes back up.”
—Richard Young

“If you’re in Christ, you don’t need to be afraid of your desires. You need to redeem them.”

“You don’t stop craving porn by trying harder. You stop craving it when your soul is full.”

💡 BIG IDEA:

Sexuality isn’t the enemy. Shame is.
God created desire. The enemy corrupted it.
And the gospel restores it.

🛠️ PRACTICAL TAKEAWAY

Your urges don’t need to lead to sin.
They can lead to gratitude.
Instead of saying “What’s wrong with me?” when you feel desire, try:

“Thank you, Lord, for making me fully alive.”

Freedom starts by seeing sexuality the way God sees it.

@riyoun31

richard@lovereality.org

@jkhoehello@justinkhoe.com