So Gay for You

Friendship, Found Family, and the Show That Started It All

De: Kate Moennig, Leisha Hailey

Narrado por: Kate Moennig, Leisha Hailey

*AN INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER*

An intimate, hilarious memoir of art, friendship, queerness, and found family, written and read by Kate Moennig and Leisha Hailey, stars of The L Word—including never-before-shared stories from behind the scenes of the show and their personal lives. This program includes an exclusive bonus Q&A with fans' questions.

"Are you comfortable with nudity?" my manager asked.

In the early 2000s, Kate Moennig and Leisha Hailey—both young artists trying to figure it all out—met at auditions for an unknown little TV show. Given that it was a show about lesbians living in Los Angeles, with the first ever ensemble cast of openly queer female characters, Kate and Leisha knew the project was going to be unlike anything else out there—that is, if it even got picked up.

Then, one million people watched the premiere. The show, which came to be called The L Word, turned into a trailblazing phenomenon. Its influence on pop culture, in the political arena, and in the lives of viewers has been lasting, impactful, even life-saving. And in addition to changing the course of television history, The L Word changed Kate and Leisha's lives forever.

From their first day on set, Kate and Leisha have always had each other’s backs, inseparable to the degree that the cast joked they were like a pair of pants—you couldn't have one leg without the other. Hence the name for their branded partnership, PANTS, launched in 2020, and accompanying podcast, which has been downloaded over twenty million times.

This friendship has seen Kate and Leisha through their greatest triumphs and most painful moments, stumbling from closeted queer kids in a hostile culture, to LGBTQ+ activists, actors, podcasters, and business owners. Full of never-before-shared glimpses into the making of The L Word, Kate and Leisha's real-life loves and losses, and their experience as queer icons, So Gay for You is a heartfelt, inspiring love letter to a ride or die friendship over the decades, and a testament to the liberating power of chosen family.

A Macmillan Audio production from St. Martin’s Press.

©2025 Katherine Moennig and Leisha Hailey (P)2025 Macmillan Audio

Reseñas de la Crítica

"So Gay for You is more than a memoir; it's a comprehensive almanac of Kate Moennig and Leisha Hailey. Take it from a die-hard fan, and friend, this intimate exploration of their lives blends candid anecdotes with reflections on their youth, queer identity, the impact of The L Word, and perhaps most importantly, their two decades of friendship. Must-read queer lit and a testament to the enduring legacy of The L Word and the culture-changing stars at its heart."—Tegan Quin, bestselling author of High School

"So Gay for You is a beautiful story of two besties who also played besties on the ground breaking series The L Word. Read this book, you will love it as I did."—Rosie O'Donnell

"As magnetic and authentic as Kate and Leisha themselves, So Gay for You feels like catching up with an old friend. Hilarious, candid, and full of heart, this memoir perfectly captures the ups and downs of the 2000s and beyond, and the life-changing power of true, lasting found family."—Gwyneth Paltrow

Fantastic!!!

Loved every minute of it! It is a beautiful testimony to your friendship! Thank you!

Felt like a sit down

Felt like old friends sitting down to have a chat. Very enjoyable. Felt like I knew them

Fantastic!!!!

I absolutely loved So Gay for You. It’s a heartfelt, honest, and beautifully written memoir that truly moved me. What struck me the most was how open and vulnerable Kate and Leisha were throughout the book—especially knowing how private they are in real life. Their willingness to share so much of themselves made the reading experience feel intimate, like hearing from two close friends.

Their friendship, humor, and deep connection shine through every page. Whether they were reflecting on their early days in the industry or offering behind-the-scenes stories from The L Word, everything felt genuine and raw in the best way. It’s not just a book for fans—it’s a celebration of queer friendship, chosen family, and living your truth.

Highly recommend this one. It stays with you long after the last page.

I purchased a physical book but loved that they had this audiobook.

Loved it so much!

Love the both of them so much. So much of my teenage/ young adult life was influenced by their early work!

They are the Best!!!

I grew up watching them on The L Word so for me I knew I had to listen to this. It was such a great insight to their lives. They keep you in the story and feel like you’re there with them. This is a definite listen to book.

Must read for fans

Loved the flow of storytelling, delving into the behind the scenes details of Leisha and Kate’s lives, and impeccable narration. Been a long time fan of both and happy this book was made into an audiobook.

Fascinating

Very well done. Honest, genuine, and intriguing. Thank you for allowing us to go on the journeys of your lives up to this point. It was a truly enjoyable listen.

So Thankful For You

Been a fan of The L Word OG and their Pants podcast. As a “lesbian auntie” maturing with these folks, I’m happy to see and hear them continue on with their creativity and personal advocacy as well. We GenX lesbians don’t get much exposure in mainstream global pop culture, so I’m elated that Leisha and Kate still go on producing such endeavors. Congrats on this great book, folks! Never doubt yourselves if you’ve got an audience or if people want to hear “mundane” stuff from you. We’re always here and we’ll always tune in — even from other side of the world (hello from Manila! 🇵🇭) so just do the things that make you happy. You folks make us happy. Be well! 💜

Consumed in 24 hours!!!!

I love it when the authors read the book to me. It feels very special and personal. It’s great to know that the L word brought so many people, joy and friendship. I miss it.

Great Listen, very well written

First book I've listened to start to finish so quickly. Both authors retold their life stories in such detail and it transitioned from author to author perfectly. Awesome!!!