MY SECRET MOTHER: an adoptee speaks to the girls who went away

De: Robert J. Bannon

Narrado por: Virtual Voice

Adoption is an act of pure love. The consequences of the act reach far and wide and affect millions of children and adults around the world. Today there is a move towards an open communication between all parties but it was not always so. Before Roe vs. Wade, the entire process of adoption was shrouded in secrecy and in many cases, lies, fear, guilt, coercion, shame and blame were the forces in play for the participants. Learning at a young age about this thing called "adoption," Mr. Bannon spent his life wondering, confused, curious and a little afraid of what might be out there if he looked too hard. The original manuscript for this book sat on his computer for several years before he took the leap and decided to let his secret into the world. He still does not know the identity of his parents, has had no contact and has not pushed the issue other than to offer his thoughts to other participants in this dance of discovery. This book is written primarily to those young girls who found themselves pregnant, alone, scared and having to deal with parents, teachers, priests, ministers and doctors with almost no support in an atmosphere rife with fear and blame. Many took the only route that appeared open to them, the route to putting their child up for adoption. The interesting thing for mother and child is the similarity of issues that they have lived with for the balance of their lives. Abandonment, loneliness, loss and a constant feeling of being different than other people is a daily reminder of a relationship lost. The result is a lifetime of wondering. My Secret Mother is a love letter to the mother that the author has never known in which he expresses his deepest feelings combined with the questions he would ask, if only he could. Anyone with any connection to adoption, whether a birth parent, child, spouse or sibling will find value and hope in these inspirational words.