Brain-Body Parenting

How to Stop Managing Behavior and Start Raising Joyful, Resilient Kids

De: Mona Delahooke

Narrado por: Emily Ellet

From a leading child psychologist comes this groundbreaking new understanding of children’s behavior, offering insight and strategies to support both parents and children.

Over her decades as a clinical psychologist, Dr. Mona Delahooke has routinely counseled distraught parents who struggle to manage their children’s challenging, sometimes oppositional behaviors. These families are understandably focused on correcting or improving a child’s lack of compliance, emotional outbursts, tantrums, and other “out of control” behavior. But, as she has shared with these families, a perspective shift is needed. Behavior, no matter how challenging, is not the problem but a symptom; a clue about what is happening in a child’s unique physiologic makeup.

In Brain-Body Parenting, Dr. Delahooke offers a radical new approach to parenting based on her clinical experience as well as the most recent research in neuroscience and child psychology. Instead of a “top-down” approach to behavior that focuses on the thinking brain, she calls for a “bottom-up” approach that considers the essential role of the entire nervous system, which produces children’s feelings and behaviors.

When we begin to understand the biology beneath the behavior, suggests Dr. Delahooke, we give our children the resources they need to grow and thrive—and we give ourselves the gift of a happier, more connected relationship with them. Brain-Body Parenting empowers parents with tools to help their children develop self-regulation skills while also encouraging parental self-care, which is crucial for parents to have the capacity to provide the essential “co-regulation” children need. When parents shift from trying to secure compliance to supporting connection and balance in the body and mind, they unlock a deeper understanding of their child, encouraging calmer behavior, more harmonious family dynamics, and increased resilience.

Supplemental enhancement PDF accompanies the audiobook.

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©2022 Mona Delahooke (P)2022 HarperCollins Publishers

The scientific connection with the kid’s brain and body

I liked the variation of voice while narrating. Subtle but enough to distinguish when there was a quote in the lecture

Everyone who works with children and teens should read this!

I have 5 awesome kids. They have had each had their unique challenges and struggles from Autism to Tourette and more and I just wish that I had this when they were younger. However, my oldest 3 are in college and my younger two are in middle school and I find that this book is still very much relevant in my interactions with them now. I love that Dr Delahooke strips down the labels, tears down the behavior charts, and gives a much needed new and refreshing look at how the brain and body connect. She explains how behaviors should be looked at as clues into your child’s (and your own) nervous system and she gives clear examples to help readers understand how to change. This is not giving permission to let your children willfully misbehave but rather gives a better picture of what is a choice and what is a reaction to an overwhelmed nervous system and how to use connecting with your child to overcome these challenges. I honestly believe this is useful for people of all ages and should definitely spark some introspection within your own self as well. I know it did for me. She does this in a nonjudgmental way which I’m glad because about every time I thought oh wow- I should have done this differently she reminds the reader that the purpose isn’t to judge and that it’s never to late to make a change and a difference. Thank you Dr Mona Delahooke for making a difference for my family and I!

An Amazing book

Love - it. What a unique and educational book ! Thank you so much ! I learned a lot !

A superb guide for both therapists and parents

I can recommend this book without reservation. the author and the reader both create an experience for the reader that adds new knowledge and realistically, distinctions in practice that can be learned by the mind and felt in the body. I mostly work with adults in my practice, but at home I work with children, and the distinctions about polyvagal Theory and its application in practice have been enhancing for both worlds in my case. anyone who loved reading the work of Van der Kolk on how the body keeps the score with trauma, the works of Levine on trauma and memory, or the works of D. Siegel on the broader side of interpersonal neurobiology will find this book both enlightening and enjoyable while being practical. The examples in case studies are excellent. Even for a person who has not looked into polyvagal theory or neurodynamics will likely find this to be a simple, conversational, and practical way to get their feet wet. She uses a few simple concepts related to neural platform and some other things that can be applied immediately and how we assess and view our situation with the kids and realistically, with adults, when it comes to how we decide how to help, connect, or work out problems. I found the context and framework she creates to be very useful here.

Very helpful information, annoying narrator

I’m only a few chapters in, but already I’ve found some things that help me understand my children better, and why they may each need different parenting. But the narrator reads as though the listener is a moron, a bit of an annoying challenge to have to fight through. Barring incredibly monotonous voices, why Audible doesn’t just consistently have authors read their own work is beyond me.

Amazing book on emotional regulation and its importance in parenting.

A fantastic expansion on the research found in her previous book with lots of practical implementation.

The reader however was a distraction from the impact of this important book. She read in an inauthentic voice often laughing while reading and overlaying her own emotional interpretation over the text. It comes across as condescending and at times cringy when she fakes male voices. I wish the reader for the author's previous book had been used instead.

It's a fantastic book nonetheless and everyone should read it, especially those trying to understand how to work with neurodivergent children.

well written, well read.

great book. I will certainly be sharing this with my clients with little ones and parent friends.

Explains the reasons for positive parenting

I’ve read probably a dozen books on positive parenting. They’ve all had pros and cons, and have led me to parent our fiery child in a more gentle and loving approach than I was raised in. But nothing really stuck. This book, however, seems to resonate the best with the strategies we need for our extremely smart, active, and strong-willed child. I understand now after reading this book why the strategies I was trying to help our child learn to manage her own emotions haven’t been working. I know now that I need to ensure that her body is regulated and work from a body up approach before trying to help her problem-solve or manage her emotions. This book also takes into account the status of a parents, body, which is something that I found lacking in any other parenting books. I’m excited to see where this will take us and our child.
As a classroom teacher, I would love to see the author write a book based in using these strategies in the classroom. There seems to not be time to implement most of these strategies on a daily basis with many children, so I would like to see what her recommendations are for that.

Compasiva y clara explicación de crianza

Me gustó mucho las herramientas que comparte la autora para padres y niñxs. La manera de explicar las cosas es clara, con calma y acompañada de ejemplos que lo hacen más fácil de poner en práctica. Lo volveré a leer para apreciarlo aún más. Muy recomendado en este océano de libros de crianza.

Should be required reading for parents, teachers & caregivers!

Should be required reading for parents, teachers & caregivers! She clearly put her expertise, love & care into the book. It will create calm and clarity for parents who often feel guilty, inadequate, and shameful. It will be a blessing for the children whose parents read the book, and will create understanding, support, safety, connection & communication skills for the whole family. Don’t miss this important book!