Episodes

  • Are We Conditioned for intimate Consistency

    Are We Conditioned for intimate Consistency
    Nov 4 2024
    Merging Warner Heisenberg’s uncertainty principle with the psychological dynamics of intimate relationships offers a fascinating lens through which to understand the balance between freedom and closeness. Heisenberg’s uncertainty principle, which posits that certain pairs of physical properties (like position and momentum) cannot both be precisely measured simultaneously, suggests a fundamental limit on certainty. Translated to relationships, this principle can mirror the paradox of security and freedom, where the more we try to fix or control a relationship, the less we can embrace its dynamic, evolving nature.
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    39 mins
  • A Deeper Look at Anti-Modeling: Dissecting and dismantling transgenerational patterns in relationship

    A Deeper Look at Anti-Modeling: Dissecting and dismantling transgenerational patterns in relationship
    Nov 4 2024
    The term “anti-modeling” has been coined by Steph Anya, LMFT on her YouTube channel. In a recent video discussing the dynamics between two Love is Blind contestants, Steph dissects how generational trauma impacted their relationship and the ultimate choice to not marry at the conclusion of the show. So how does this concept of Anti-Modeling work in real life?
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    40 mins
  • A Deeper Look at how your good will becomes their great fortune!

    A Deeper Look at how your good will becomes their great fortune!
    Oct 31 2024
    “Dry begging” is a covert psychological tactic where manipulators subtly seek praise, recognition, assistance, or favors without directly asking, sidestepping the risk of outright rejection. Instead, they employ passive cues that prompt their target to offer help, creating a runner-chaser dynamic rooted in unequal investment. This relationship resembles a parasitic bond, where the “beggar” draws emotional or material resources, much like a virus siphoning vitality from its host.
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    1 hr and 15 mins
  • Are You Relationally Impoverished? You Can’t Afford Me!

    Are You Relationally Impoverished? You Can’t Afford Me!
    Oct 29 2024
    In the intricate tapestry of human relationships, the concept of "relational impoverishment" emerges as a profound inquiry into the emotional, psychological, and spiritual currency we possess—or lack. Much like financial insolvency, emotional poverty manifests as an inability to engage in healthy relationships due to a lack of resources, such as self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and personal integrity. This essay will explore the depths of this concept, drawing on the wisdom of thinkers like Krishnamurti, Pema Chödrön, and Patrick Carnes, as we unravel the complexities of relational dynamics and the costs associated with emotional and spiritual maturity.
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    1 hr and 9 mins
  • An interesting look at “STD” politics within intimate relationships!

    An interesting look at “STD” politics within intimate relationships!
    Oct 29 2024
    In the complex landscape of modern relationships, the politics of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) serves as a potent symbol for the deep-rooted issues that lie beneath the surface of intimacy, trust, and societal constructs around monogamy. The stigma surrounding STDs often evokes shame, fear, and misunderstanding—particularly when explored through the lens of attachment theory and trauma bonding. This essay seeks to unravel the intricacies of STD politics, challenging both socially imposed norms around monogamy and the ethical considerations surrounding honesty and responsibility in intimate relationships. Integrating the insights of Krishnamurti, Dr. David R. Hawkins, Patrick Carnes, and others, we will critically examine the moral, ethical, and psychological dimensions of STD dynamics, alongside the attachment wounds that can exacerbate these relational challenges.
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    1 hr and 16 mins
  • Monogamy as a Social Imposition: The Hidden Disadvantages of the One-Partner Model

    Monogamy as a Social Imposition: The Hidden Disadvantages of the One-Partner Model
    Oct 24 2024
    One of the most widely discussed relational dynamics within insecure attachment is the “anxious-avoidant trap,” where individuals with anxious attachment seek closeness and constant reassurance, while those with avoidant attachment push for distance and independence. This dynamic is especially incompatible with monogamy because monogamy requires a level of emotional intimacy and stability that is difficult to maintain in such a polarized attachment relationship.
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    1 hr and 22 mins
  • Mirrored Toxicity

    Mirrored Toxicity
    Oct 24 2024
    In the intricate tapestry of human relationships, the interplay between the Self-Less, Doormat Dater (SLDD) and the Narcissist emerges as a compelling case study in mirrored toxicity—a phenomenon that not only elucidates the complexities of attachment styles but also invites a deeper exploration of the existential underpinnings of love, identity, and healing. Through the lens of various influential thinkers, we can unravel the nuances of this toxic compatibility, probing the philosophical, psychological, and spiritual dimensions that characterize their dance.
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    1 hr and 19 mins
  • Are You Afraid to be Seen & Heard? A Powerful look into pathological loneliness

    Are You Afraid to be Seen & Heard? A Powerful look into pathological loneliness
    Oct 24 2024
    Pathological loneliness is a state of deep, persistent loneliness and feelings of worthlessness that can be considered a disease. It can be a major problem in older adults and is associated with an increased risk of developing biological dysfunctions, psychological distress, and behavioral problems.
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    1 hr and 18 mins