Send us a Text Message.

Spacemen, we've let you down. I mean, not really, but sort of. We weren't there for you last week when you needed us most. But we, like many people, have limits and have to take vacations from time to time. We're back though, and everything will once again be aligned in the spaceiverse.

As you will hear, Rob was absent on this episode. But it's a good one anyway. Today, we talk about how we can learn to love. Matt and Mike talk about the book 'The Art of Loving' by Eric Fromm and the four main components of love: care, responsibility, respect, and knowledge. More specifically, they talk about respect, care, self-growth, and vulnerability. I mean, did you really think we'd have an episode in which we didn't talk about vulnerability? So, get ready to learn...to love...and to laugh. Put that on your wall. You're welcome.

Keywords
love, relationships, care, responsibility, respect, knowledge, effort, understanding, self-growth, vulnerability, relationships, tolerance, sacrifice, well-being, love, acceptance, personal growth

Takeaways

• Love requires active concern for the well-being and growth of the person we love.
• Responsibility in love means being willing to respond and take action in service of the other person's well-being.
• Respect involves fully seeing and understanding the other person, allowing them space to develop on their own terms.
• Knowledge in love means deeply understanding the other person's inner workings and being able to interpret their actions and emotions.
• Love is both an art and a science, requiring effort and understanding.
• The component of love that is often missing or misunderstood is subjective and can vary depending on the individual and the relationship. Respect and tolerance for vulnerability are crucial in relationships.
• Men often sacrifice their own well-being for the sake of others.
• Self-care and personal growth are important for maintaining a healthy relationship.
• Love involves accepting and seeing each other for who they truly are.

Titles

• The Art of Loving: Exploring the Components of Love
• Missing and Misunderstood: Reflecting on the Components of Love Accepting and Seeing Each Other for Who We Truly Are
• The Challenges of Sacrificing One's Well-Being for Others

Sound Bites

• "Care, responsibility, respect, and knowledge"
• "To really love somebody it takes these different things"
• "Love as both an art and a science"
• "There's just not enough toleration of the vulnerability that goes along with allowing yourself to be fully seen so that your partner can respect you."
• "My job is to be kind of at your service, right. And there's no room for me to be tired or spent or need space and just communicate that to you in a way that indicates that it's fine for me to feel that way and we'll still be okay."
• "Knowing yourself well enough to let yourself be seen and choosing to see your partner for who they are."

Chapters

00:00
The Joy of Homemade Creations

00:25
Planning for Future Episodes

07:26
The Four Components of Love: Care, Responsibility, Respect, and Knowledge

13:06
The Challenges Men Face in Understanding and Practicing Love

18:22
The Importance of Self-Care in Love and Relationships

24:31
Seeing and Accepting Your Partner for Who They Truly Are

29:28
The Potential for Deep Connection and Fulfillment in Love

37:41
Closing Thoughts and Reflection

Spread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a Text Message.

Wanna arm wrestle? I'd probably win. I was recently diagnosed 100% manly. I know. You're probably like, 'Obvi Rob.' Well, I wasn't so sure. Luckily, the internet never let's me down.

On today's episode, Rob quizzes Matt and Mike to find out how manly they are. And, because we believe ALL men must meet a certain level of manliness to remain in the manliness club, we've provided the link to our quiz here. Quiz it and tell us how manly you are.

Keywords

therapy, manliness, masculinity, leadership, manly movies, asking for help, sense of style, societal expectations, manliness quiz, self-acceptance, individuality

Takeaways

• The concept of masculinity is explored through a manliness quiz and discussions about personal preferences. Masculinity is subjective and can vary depending on the individual and the situation.
• Personal preferences and hobbies do not define one's masculinity.
• Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
• There is no right or wrong answer when it comes to personal style.
• Gender stereotypes and societal expectations should not dictate one's choices and preferences. Masculinity is a concept that is often defined by societal expectations and stereotypes.
• Quizzes and labels can limit our understanding of ourselves and others.
• It is important to be confident in one's true self and not conform to societal norms.
• Self-acceptance and embracing individuality are key to personal growth and happiness.

Sound Bites

• "You guys are both gonna come out as 100% manliness"
• "One of you got 75% manly. And the other one got 100% manly."
• "You're always willing to take risks and nothing seems to scare you. And like a real man, you approach your problems and obstacles directly."
• "I'm confident in my masculinity, even if I barely rate 60% masculine."

Chapters

00:49
Vacation Plans and Work Commitments

05:49
Navigating Therapy Experiences

12:16
Exploring the Concept of Manliness

21:04
Embracing Vulnerability and Asking for Help

23:14
The Joy of Pets: Cats vs. Dogs

25:04
Discovering New Hobbies and Interests

32:21
Subjectivity of Alcoholic Beverage Preferences

36:17
Exploring the Concept of Masculinity

41:55
The Results: 75% Manly vs. 100% Manly

51:45
The Fun of Quizzes and Competing

53:12
Questioning the Definition of Masculinity

56:55
The Desire for Acceptance and Belonging

59:24
Embracing Authenticity and Rejecting Societal Norms

Spread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!

Send us a Text Message.

Come on now, space-cyborg! You're not so bad! In fact, I dare say you might even be a real stand-up guy. Probably doing better than you think. And we'll talk about that today on The Manspace.

Matt, Mike, and Rob explore how we beat ourselves up and hold ourselves to unrealistic standards that usually do us no good. We'll talk about self-compassion and will say it in the most cheesy, unsettling of ways. So, pull up a chair. Be nice to yourself. Listen to The Manspace.

Keywords

self-demanding behavior, beating oneself up, nice guy syndrome, internal struggle, negative self-talk, self-compassion, grace, unconditional love, external criticism, projection, defense mechanism, self-doubt, acceptance, kindness, limitations, comparative language, integrity

Takeaways

• Self-demanding behavior and beating oneself up can be overlapping and interconnected.
• Self-compassion and grace are important in counteracting negative self-talk and high self-demands.
• External criticism can confirm and amplify negative self-perception.
• Projection of buried grievances onto others is a defense mechanism.
• Understanding and addressing these patterns can lead to healthier self-perception and relationships. Avoid self-blame and negative self-talk when facing challenges or setbacks.
• Practice self-compassion by accepting and acknowledging your struggles.
• Talk to yourself with kindness and understanding, as you would to a good friend.
• Recognize your limitations and focus on your strengths.
• Avoid comparing yourself to others and prioritize your own values and beliefs.
• Maintain integrity by aligning your actions with your personal values.

Sound Bites

• "That self-demanding part of myself pushes me to go over the top and over function for them too."
• "Treating myself like a human being and being kind to myself feels really calming."
• "I hate when clients say stuff like, 'I know, I suck at everything.' Don't do that, man."
• "The markers we have that we are doing a good job... They're not usually quantifiable."
• "What's the limits of self-compassion? What's the limits of self-care? There has to be limits."

Chapters

00:00
Navigating the Internal Struggle: Self-Criticism and Mental Health

09:53
The 'Nice Guy' Syndrome: Impact of Societal Standards

20:56
Navigating Self-Compassion and Integrity

28:17
The Struggle with Negative Self-Talk

43:25
Balancing Inner Dialogue and Recognizing Limitations

01:03:08
Aligning Actions with Core Values

Spread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!