That's Where I'm At

By: Laura Richards
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  • Welcome to "That's Where I'm At" with your host, Laura Richards! Join Laura Richards, a survivor of narcissistic abuse with 33 years experience, as she guides you through the journey of identifying, healing from, and thriving after emotional and psychological abuse. With a mission to raise awareness, foster emotional recovery, and empower you to love yourself, Laura brings honesty, compassion, and a touch of humor to every episode. Dive into deep, meaningful conversations, tackle tough topics, and uncover moments of hope and healing. Our supportive community is here for you, offering insights, support, and a shared path to recovery and empowerment. Subscribe now and be part of a transformative journey that’s messy, real, and truly inspiring!
    2023
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Episodes
  • The Narcissist’s Playbook: Chelli's Strategies for Overcoming Narcissistic Patterns

    The Narcissist’s Playbook: Chelli's Strategies for Overcoming Narcissistic Patterns
    Nov 13 2024
    Navigating the treacherous waters of narcissistic relationships can be a particularly daunting and emotionally draining experience for women. Many find themselves trapped in a cycle of manipulation, self-doubt, and emotional turmoil, often sacrificing their own needs and identities to appease their narcissistic partners. However, there is hope for breaking free from these destructive patterns and reclaiming one's self-worth. By understanding the narcissist's playbook, female survivors can arm themselves with the knowledge and tools necessary to heal, grow, and ultimately thrive beyond the shadow of narcissistic abuse. In today's episode of the That's Where I'm At Podcast, Laura Richards is joined by Chelli Pumphrey, a Licensed Professional Counselor with 30 years of clinical experience specializing in trauma and recovery from narcissistic abuse. The discussion explores the complexities of narcissistic relationships, offering valuable insights on recognizing patterns, breaking cycles, and healing from trauma. Chelli delves into various aspects of narcissism, including its origins, common survivor experiences, and effective strategies for overcoming narcissistic patterns. She emphasizes the importance of journaling, understanding attachment styles, and engaging in trauma therapy. Chelli Pumphrey is a Licensed Professional Counselor with 30 years of clinical experience specializing in trauma, adult attachment, and recovery from narcissistic and psychopathic abuse. Chelli is the author of "Insight is 20/20: How To Trust Yourself To Protect Yourself From Narcissistic Abuse & Toxic Relationships" and offers a holistic, mind-body-spirit approach to therapy. As a Certified Narcissistic Abuse Survivor Therapist and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, Chelli brings a wealth of knowledge and expertise to help survivors recognize and overcome narcissistic behaviors. Her unique blend of traditional and integrative therapies, including EMDR, psychospiritual growth, Reiki, and ketamine-assisted therapies, provides a comprehensive toolkit for healing and personal growth. Tune in to learn more about effective strategies for recognizing and overcoming narcissistic behaviors, empowering women to establish healthier boundaries, and cultivating fulfilling relationships that honor their authentic selves. Timestamps [02:53] Are we more diagnosing or being more aware of narcissism? [07:58] How Chelli got into being a trauma professional [13:07] How your brain gets trained [17:41] Common things survivors say about narcissists [19:45] The origin of narcissism [24:32] Journaling narcissists’ patterns [27:31] How to break narcissist patterns [33:20] Attachment styles [35:37] Therapy and narcissism [41:48] Things you will benefit from working on yourself [42:56] Chelli’s thoughts on PTSD [45:27] Trauma therapy training Notable Quotes “1% of the United States population is diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder.”“If you think there is an issue, you just need strategy.”“It’s important to talk to a therapist or do other kinds of holistic therapy as well.”“Do not go start dating when you are in the middle of a separation.” “You must work on healing trauma with trauma therapy.” RESOURCES: MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW CHELLI: https://www.chellipumphrey.com BOOK: https://www.amazon.com/Insight-20-Yourself-Narcissistic-Relationships/dp/B0B27PTQ5S/https:/www.facebook.com/chellipumphreytherapy https://www.instagram.com/chellipumphrey https://www.linkedin.com/in/chellipumphrey C (COMPLEX)-PTSD DEFINITION: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/24881-cptsd-complex-ptsd DOG WHISTLING DEFINITION: https://katiecouric.com/lifestyle/relationships/what-is-a-dog-whistle-narcissistic-abuse/#:~:text=Dog%20whistles%20are%20also%20used,person%20they%20wish%20to%20devalue. ATTACHMENT STYLES: https://www.attachmentproject.com/blog/four-attachment-styles NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE: https://www.thehotline.org/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=domestic_violence
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    52 mins
  • Reclaiming Your Voice: Navigating Narcissistic Relationships with Coach Mireille Nicole

    Reclaiming Your Voice: Navigating Narcissistic Relationships with Coach Mireille Nicole
    Oct 30 2024
    Navigating relationships with narcissistic individuals can be a challenging and often emotionally draining experience. Finding your voice in these situations is crucial for maintaining your sense of self and making decisions that align with your well-being. It's essential to recognize the signs of narcissistic behavior, understand its impact on your mental health, and develop strategies to assert your needs and boundaries. This process of self-discovery and empowerment can be both liberating and daunting, requiring courage, self-reflection, and often professional support. By learning to identify narcissistic traits, cultivating self-awareness, and prioritizing your emotional health, you can begin to make informed decisions about the future of your relationship and reclaim your voice in the process. In today’s episode of the That’s Where I’m At Podcast, Laura Richards, the host, is joined by Mireille Nicole, a certified relationship coach on a mission to empower women in their pursuit of happiness. The discussion delves into the complexities of navigating narcissistic relationships, offering valuable guidance on trusting intuition, setting boundaries, and making crucial decisions about staying or leaving. Mireille shares her personal journey and professional expertise, emphasizing the importance of self-discovery, healing, and maintaining a sense of fun in relationships. Mireille has been obsessed with anything romantic — books, movies — all of her life. Divorced [by choice] and remarried [but almost failed], she is now navigating "blended family" life with her soulmate. Having gone through a lot in the love department, she’s on a mission to help other women ditch the struggle and have their Happily Ever After. She holds a certificate in relationship coaching from IAP Career College and is a member of the IAPO International Association of Professional Relationship Coaches. In her spare time, Mireille enjoys mountain biking, date nights and being a mom. Tune in to learn more! Timestamps [03:15] How Mireille became a relationship coach [08:35] Mireille’s pivotal moment in her journey [11:18] The variety of women coming to Mireille for coaching [14:06] Trusting your intuition [15:25] How to handle relationship issues [19:47] Having fun as a woman [21:14] Healing [24:09] Mireille’s thoughts on Should I stay or should I go situation [27:40] The decision to either leave or stay [29:37] The reality about boundaries [33:43] About Mireille’s life now [36:10] Having the tools to recover [38:17] Mireille’s mission Notable Quotes “Awareness is key.”“If your partner is not willing to do couples therapy, you are doomed.”“When you treat your husband like gold, he will act like gold.”“When you pick a partner, you pick a set of problems.”“You can make the decision to leave, obviously, if you are experiencing narcissistic abuse.”“Sometimes we need to focus really on ourselves and what we are doing and really detach from what the man is doing so that we can discover who we are.”“Boundaries are for you to express what you need and what you are going to do if something doesn’t happen.” RESOURCES: MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW MIREILLE: WEBSITE: https://stan.store/mireillenicolecoaching FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/mireilletheriault1979 YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@mireillenicolecoaching INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/mireillenicolecoaching/
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    41 mins
  • Rewriting Your Life: Brooke's Secrets to Overcoming Narcissistic Trauma

    Rewriting Your Life: Brooke's Secrets to Overcoming Narcissistic Trauma
    Oct 16 2024
    Rewriting your life after experiencing narcissistic trauma in a marriage is a profound and transformative journey. Narcissistic relationships often leave deep emotional scars that can persist long after the relationship has ended, affecting one's self-esteem, trust, and overall well-being. However, true healing is possible through the powerful process of subconscious reprogramming. By delving into the depths of the subconscious mind, survivors of narcissistic abuse can uncover and rewrite the harmful beliefs and patterns instilled during their toxic marriages. In today’s episode of the That’s Where I’m At Podcast, Laura Richards, the host, is joined by Brooke Kekos, a trauma healing coach and a rapid transformational therapist who specializes in empowering survivors to rewrite their stories. Brooke, a survivor of complex PTSD and narcissistic abuse, shares her transformative experience of accessing her subconscious mind to rewrite her life story. Through her struggles with dissociation, self-doubt, and codependency, Brooke discovered the profound impact of positive self-talk and the power of challenging ingrained thought patterns. Her journey from victim to coach demonstrates that healing from narcissistic trauma is possible and that by carefully examining our thoughts and beliefs, we can break free from the cycle of narcissistic abuse, reclaim our authentic selves, and live a very happy life. Brooke Kekos is a Trauma Healing Coach, Rapid Transformational Therapist (RTT), and NLP Practitioner, Brooke specializes in empowering survivors to rewrite their stories. Her personal path, a testament to overcoming indoctrination, abuse, and toxic bonds, ignites her profound insight and unshakeable dedication. A sought-after speaker, author, and fervent advocate against religious abuse and domestic violence, Brooke's voice resonates far beyond the confines of her coaching practice. With Brooke as your ally, embrace a voyage of transformative healing, armed with potent tools, nurturing guidance, and profound revelations. Step into an existence where authenticity thrives, drawing soul-aligned relationships that foster your truest self. Tune in to learn more! Timestamps [03:15] How Brooke got into coaching [07:38] Brooke’s Complex PTSD [12:36] How dissociation looks like in someone’s body [14:34] How it was like for Brooke to write her book [19:02] Does Brooke unpack people when coaching? [20:23] Rewriting our lives [23:03] Brooke returns to her family and church [27:13] Things Brooke talks about in her coaching sessions [28:36] Cutting ties [30:37] How Brooke rewrote her life by accessing her subconscious life [32:14] Talking and thinking positively about ourselves [38:55] Being co-dependent as mothers [44:17] Brooke’s final remarks Notable Quotes “A lot of times, you are always doing that thing you are passionate about.”“You don’t need faith for the whole staircase. It’s just that first step.”“Just be careful what you are thinking about because it might not be your thoughts.”“If you tell yourself the same thing every day, you are going to recreate the same thing over and over.”“What you judge in another is a reflection of what you judge in yourself.” RESOURCES: MARRIED TO A “NICE” GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: SHOP HERE PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP: https://www.facebook.com/groups/marriedtoaniceguy/ FOLLOW THE PODCAST: http://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com BOOKS & JOURNALS: https://www.amazon.com/author/laurarichards RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/resources FOLLOW BROOKE: WEBSITE: https://www.lifecoachinggoddess.com/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachinggoddess/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/brooke.kekos/
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    46 mins

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