Douglas E. Noll, JD, MA left a successful career as a trial lawyer to become a peacemaker. His calling is to serve humanity, and he executes his calling at many levels. He is an award-winning author, teacher, and trainer. He is a highly experienced mediator. Doug’s work carries him from international work to helping people resolve deep interpersonal and ideological conflicts.

In today’s episode, Doug talks to Monique about his work as a mediator and peacemaker, forcing him to confront human emotion straight on. After all, conflict is all about emotion. He discovered how to listen to others into existence. That led him to training inmates serving life sentences how to be peacemakers in maximum security prisons and then teaching his skills at the highest levels of government in Washington, D.C.

HOT TOPICS OF THE EPISODE

[2:02] - Monique introduces her guest, Doug Noll.

[2:33] - How do we know that a person is actually a narcissist? 

• They don't have a clue.
• We all are narcissists. We can't be healthy without a certain amount of narcissism.

[3:06] - 2 types of narcissist:

• Overt and maladaptive narcissist.

[12:47] - Doug talks about how he started as a peacemaker.

[23:17] - Doug talks about law enforcement.

[32:28] - Monique and Doug talk about the differences of Police brutality in the U.S and Germany.

[46:47] - Doug explains the big deal of beliefs.

[47:29] - Monique and Doug talk about flat earth society.

[56:12] - How we can talk to politically polarized people?

• The number one rule and listening and talking to or being with a politically polarized person is you're not going to talk, you got to listen.

[1:03:15] - Doug talks about how to get people who have these entrenched beliefs.

[1:09:38] -  What does efficiency mean to you?

• Efficiency is generally using the least amount of energy to get the most done. 

[1:10:16] - If someone is in the middle of a huge conflict, and they want to make peace, what's the three things that you would give them on the way?

• Bring in a professional, you find a professional Peacemaker mediator to come in and help.
• Recognize that all conflicts are highly emotional.
• Hold as much compassion as you can, for the people you're in conflict with.

AWESOME RESOURCES THAT WE TALKED ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE

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IMPACTFUL QUOTES OF THIS EPISODE

“Try to hold as much compassion as you can, for the people you're in conflict with.” - Doug Noll.

“Efficiency is generally using the least amount of energy to get the most done.” - Doug Noll.

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