Yes, I said it... Yes, I said it! No is a beautiful thing. It stands the test of time. It's the best word ever in some seasons of our life. I say this because when you are out of balance, saying yes to everything and not stopping to think about what you're agreeing to. That is not healthy. We need to set boundaries. I'm sharing a few tips on how to set boundaries that align with your ideal and authentic life. In order to know when to say yes, and when to say, no, you got to set some boundaries here. I want to mention a few of those topics. I have found that setting boundaries in areas of my life, creates more time, and more energy for me. It's freeing and as you learn to set boundaries, not just with others, but within yourself as well, you learn yourself better. You start treating yourself better when you are not a 'yes' person. No more people-pleasing for you. So here we go. I've got a few, just a few things that I think will help you learn to create those boundaries. Let's get started. 1. Set Priorities First, you must set priorities. What is number one for you? What are the top three things that you need? You must set priorities in your life so that, you know, really what comes first and what's important. If you don't, then everybody else's stuff is now more important. Set your mind to what those things are. Is sleep important to you? Is eating healthy important to you? Would reading a book be important to you? Is riding your bike important to you? Is having family time important to you? What about quiet time, is important to you? Take some time and think about what you need. Now set those priorities and work your boundaries around them. 2. Communicate Your Boundaries Second, you need to communicate. Communication is key. We have heard this many times and it is true. You must communicate what you will and will not tolerate. Let them know girl, 'This is what we not finna do!'. If you don't express your feelings and thoughts, they won't know and be clear on your position. Most of the time we don't like to deal with confrontation. And I get it. But can we really expect people to read our minds? Did you tell the person that it makes you feel some type of way, or you didn't like it? Do they even have a clue how you feel? And most of the time they don't. I truly understand that know body really likes confrontation but it is a necessary part of life. And just because we think they should know doesn't mean they actually know. If you don't communicate what you will and what you will not tolerate, then they think, oh, you're good with it all. And that's not the truth. Grab Your FREE Lovin' Myself Masterclass 3. Listen To Your Gut Third, you've got to listen to your gut. Lovie, it's like intuition, whatever you want to call it, you must listen. Nobody had to tell you that when Sally Sue opened her mouth she was not telling you the truth. You just knew it. There is a scripture that I love from the Bible and it is 'Be quick to hear and slow to speak'. This is truly a lifesaver. If we listen close enough we will get all the information we need. We will be able to know the next step. We can take the time to make the right decision for ourselves rather than giving an answer we will later regret. 4. Think About The Impact Of Your Actions Fourth, think about the impact of your actions. What will it cost you? This is so serious because a cost is not a temporary thing. A cost could be consequences for days, hours, months, or years to come. So let's just say that healthy eating is your priority and you're wanting to set boundaries around it. You are not being unsociable, unfriendly, or judgemental to other people. They are free to eat whatever they want to eat. You have just set a priority in your life regarding your health. But you know, that if you get that Whopper and you got it fully loaded, yes that does exist. That's not healthy and that is not the direction that you are going in. Certain decisions impact us in different ways. So now Sally Sue convinced you to move your boundaries and disregard your priority and she hasn't missed a beat but you, on the other hand, are tired, sleepy drained all because you didn't do what was best for you and say 'no thanks'. You didn't stick to what you knew, worked for you and you have set your priority in this instance is eating healthy. 5. Do Things That Make You Feel Good Fifth, do things that make you feel good. If I could stand on the top of the mountain and scream this, I would, because it's so much happening that we have to process. If we don't do some things that make us feel good we can fall down this little rabbit hole of depression, anxiety, confusion, and unhappiness, there are so many holes you could fall down and they all lead to one place. But if you start to do things that make you happy, things will change. You must be intentional about it so I suggest you schedule some time. It's like date night, ...
