What creates good sex

Co- creation

Most women have some kind of sexual trauma

Feeling safe to be with whatever happens

Ok to say no

No pressure to have sex even though there is sexual energy and he gets a boner

Confidence work

Holding a rejection

Accepting a sexual rejection

Being with the inner child who cannot handle sexual rejection

Being with discomfort of a no

Rejection sucks, can we handle a no?

Vulnerable and scary initiating

Meeting all vulnerability with love and compassion, also sexual interest, instead off fear

Dealing with rejection

Daring to reject and handling their reaction

Don’t want to do something with someone who don’t want to do it with us

Communication and being clear about what we ask for

Stop assuming and start asking questions, specify, be curios, what do you want? Nothing or could you want something

Exploring how to be me with you

Dare asking questions, being vulnerable and sharing impact

Being ok with other people’s feelings

Your feelings aren’t my responsibility

Community - a place where you can explore being more of you and evolve

People we trust and who are there for us

Feeling safe

Support system outside our partnerships and families

How to find the community for you?

Practice and show instead of explaining theories.

Sofia Su:

https://www.instagram.com/___sofiasu___/

Magefølelsen & Therese Fallentin

https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/

Spirits or stuck energies?

Spirituality

Understanding energy, what is it?

Meditation

Finding time to get contact with our intuition

Closed off or connected in surrendering?

Spirituality meeting business

Trusting instincts without facts and understanding

Magic happening from following intuition and Instinkts

Believing in the flow of life

Is Sofia a witch and what does that mean?

How to be a modern witch?

Power over our own lives.

Healing powers.

Co-regulation.

Connection to nature and darkness.

What feels right to me?

Finding our own truths

What’s the worst thing that could happen by leaning into our own paths?

Allowing dislikes as a part of life.

Endemetriose - emotional causes?

Placebo or not, does it matter if it it works?

Helping people feel loved and worthy

Manifestation

Trauma triggers - not knowing what we want

Trauma creating new trauma

Tantric Tempels

Sexual healing

Being around sexual energy without engaging in it

Feeling safe around and in sexual energy

Learning to set boundaries and feeling the sadness, anger and fear from all off those times I didn’t say no

Opening up to our boundaries in all aspects of life

The world is scary when we don’t dare setting boundaries

Having our own backs

No it’s ok, I had worse

Being scared off sexual energy from men

Trust issues towards men

Allowing others to do things with us that we don’t want

Holding space for and supporting the feminine, instead of controlling and pushing to much on the feminine

Healing trust issues with men

Somatic therapy

Ancestral trauma

Creating our own fears

Crossing our own boundaries and letting people step on my boundaries

How to create safety for intimacy

Trust created by asking questions.

Asking for consent for every step is sexy when you are confident and can handle a no.

Healing our trust issues

It’s ok to go slow and for a man to prove that he is trustworthy

The more you like someone the slower you need to move

Having sex too early leads to bad sex because we aren’t ready to be vulnerable

Sofia Su:

https://www.instagram.com/___sofiasu___/

https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/

Performance anxiety. How does it show up and how to break free.

How does performance anxiety stand in your way from being you and living the life you want to live?

Relationship between performance anxiety, trauma, ADHD, fawn and freeze.

Just do it. I can bet you that you won’t regret the times you tried something new, something a bit outside the comfort zone. The times you stood in fear and discomfort because you were super excited to get somewhere.

Sharing passions and dreams, and everything else close to our hearts, can bring enormous discomfort and resistance.

It’s where we are most afraid of rejection, judgement and criticism. So oftentimes we keep it for ourselves. Well hidden from the outside world.

Sometimes even more from our closest, because we couldn’t bear hearing that they don’t like or accept this side of us.

So we hold back.

Keep our babies safe.

We hide our softness and love.

What if we can find love for ourselves in every moment. Who I we are here and now.

And bring the heart into our conversations.

Start pulling people in, instead of pushing them away. Seeing cooperation instead of competition.

Seeing invitations, warmth, curiosity, love and connection by assuming the best about other people. Assuming that people can handle us and like us.

And that we can handle when they don’t. Because let’s be honest. Everyone dislikes and judges something about us. No one likes it all and wants to be with us 24/7 for the rest of their lives..

Even though they love us, likes us and wants to be our friends, partners and colleagues.

And still when they dislike us, they still want to have us in their lives. And if they can’t handle our inner truths, who we are underneath all of the walls and protection mechanisms, well, then maybe it’s not people we wanna have in our lives.

Let’s dare be soft and squishy.

Let’s see each other and find inspiration in each other. Co-create and find heartfelt connections where we often see competition, jealousy, criticism and judgement.

Let’s have trust and faith in ourselves and others.

Let’s learn to listen and invite people in. Be curious and create conversations. Let’s build connection where we often create disconnection and push people away.

Everyone is just a person, probably doing the best with what they know.

Let’s be compassionate, assume the best, give people the befit of the doubt, believe people are soft and squishy inside their hearts and try and understand where their love goes.

Let’s have the uncomfortable conversations and listen to what we disagree with. Let’s create conversations where we now have monologues.

After burnout and healing people pleasing, codependency and trauma comes a journey into a new kind of living.

A life doing what is right for me, because I want it, like it, find joy in it.

A life where I let people in, where I believe I belong, where I trust people’s intentions, love and attention.

Where I believe in my ability to create the life I long for. That everything I need to feel safe is available to me, as long as I lean into it.

We are whole beings,

still when we are healing and in need of support we are all of those other things we have always been.

When healing it’s easy to feel disempowered though. To feel stuck, needy, helpless, misunderstood, lonely, insecure. Often because people start feeling sorry for us, sympathize, look down on us, try to fix us.

Our need for support, empathy and compassion makes people uncomfortable. They don’t know how to handle our feelings, our situation and so they become rescuers, trying to fix us. Bring us out of our situation by telling us what to do and not.

Instead of listening, people tell and push their knowledge and truths on you. You become the victim. The helpless person in need of help.

People stop believing you are capable of taking care of yourself, or doing stuff, so they are annoyed. Find you needy. They become the perpetrator critiquing you.

Both the rescuer and perpetrator enabling/ creating exactly what they dislike in you; your helplessness.

You stop believing in your abilities, become insecure and think that you truly need others. That you are helpless. That you cannot trust yourself.

When needing help this truly happened to me. I totally lost my abilities while convincing NAV that I needed support healing trauma.

Suddently I didn’t believe in myself. I went from being a person really capable of making things happen, into not trusting myself at all.

What if we can get support and believe in ourselves at the same time?

The difference between sympathy (looking down at people) and empathy (still believing in people’s capability of taking care of themselves) is crucial in a healing journey.

I am ready to share my story.

Xoxo

Therese Fallentin