Hey lifers and welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions!

First question of the day is who is your 'hear me out' character (which fictional character are you attracted to)? Laura revealed her attraction to Barney the dinosaur by accident the other day and Britt is quite the fan of the ninja turtle Leonardo who would be in their 40s/50s now...

Keeshia has a question about tipping etiquette; how do you feel when the tip is automatically applied when it comes to pay and if you don't want to tip, you're expected to select to remove it?

Vibes for the week:
Laura: The Mailroom co
Britt: The Trial of Diddy
Keeshia: Christophe Robin Scalp Scrub

Then we answer your questions!

HE DOESN'T WANT ME TO USE OUR EMBRYOS
My ex husband left me & after 4 years of IVF. We have embryos in storage (we have one beautiful little IVF baby girl) who is my entire world. But I would love to make her a big sister one day too! He has so easily just said let’s donate the spare embryos. I am mortified by how easily he has suggested this and absolutely not interested in donating, I want them! They’re my babies. I walked through the toughest times of my life undergoing IVF and on my 8th transfer, I got my beautiful girl. I’m 33 and I don’t know if I should freeze my eggs and get a donor sperm .. or wait till I ‘might’ meet someone. PSA - I will continue to pay for storage for my embryo babies as I love them too! I also didn’t see our marriage being something that would end but he clearly fell out of love with me & left me 10 months postpartum.

CHRISTMAS WITH PARTNER’S FAMILY
I have been invited to spend Xmas with my partner's family interstate (we are mid 20s and dated for almost 6 years). My family has been disapproving/disappointed when I told them about not having Xmas at home and tried to guilt trip me out of accepting the invite. However, I really do want to go. How do I approach the topic again with them and is it wrong to spend one Xmas away from your family?

THE SEX ISN'T GOOD. HOW DO I NAVIGATE THIS?

I've been in a relationship with this guy for 6 months and everything is great. He is a wonderful guy and we share the same sense of humour. He could be my person, however there is one glaring problem. The sex is not good. He's a jack hammer kind of guy where he seems to only be interested in pleasing himself. I have done all of the things that you would normally recommend; we have had the conversations and I have tried to softly guide him to do the things in the way that I like it. The problem is that he does the things I like for about a week and then goes back to the jack hammering. How do I navigate this? How important is having great sex in a relationship?

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Elizabeth Gilbert is one of the most brilliant authors of our time. She authored ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ which sold over 12 million copies and was then turned into a movie starring Julia Roberts. She’s also written books like ‘Committed’, ‘Big Magic’ and ‘City of Girls’.

Elizabeth shares so many teachings around vulnerability, connectedness, living a life that is led by love, and now how to become ‘a relaxed woman, pushing back on the expectations of what society wants from you’.

Today we spoke about:

• Being an award winning writer who wrote about men and was sympathetic to the male experience, until she wrote the number 1 ‘chick-lit’ book of our time. Funnily enough, the award nominations dried up.

• The shared experience of having everything that we are meant to ‘want’ and feeling so deeply unhappy.

• How Liz used to drain herself by giving her everything to relationships, and how free she now feels being emotionally autonomous

• The facts about how marriage affects women: married women don’t live as long as single women, they’re more likely to report being depressed and anxious, they are more likely to have autoimmune conditions, more likely to be addicted to substances etc.

• How all of our lives could be titled ‘not exactly what I had in mind’

• The complexity of falling in love with someone knowing it will hurt other people that you care about

• Learning about loss through grief

You can find Liz’s Aus and NZ tour dates
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Hey guys!
Britt and Keeshia have spent the entire weekend together and they're the friends that ask you if you can come to Africa tomorrow.
Laura shared a story about some of the early days of Marlie's life that aren't quite her best moments! Laura would love to know how many times your kid accidentally rolled off the bed?

We unpack the goss from the Wicked premiere!
We were interested in how they would approach the PR of the film given the reputational damage that Ariana Grande and Ethan Slater suffered after having a rumoured 'affair.'
We wondered whether they would take a 'Don't Worry Darling" approach (Harry Styles and Olivia Wilde) where they kept space from each other in public, or if they would lean in to their romance!
There was one line in the movie that we are shocked they kept in!

Plus, what would bring you to 'loyalty test' your partner?
We speak about the 'how' and the 'why' you may get to a place where you consider conducting a loyalty test. Is the entrapment just as bad as the potential cheating?

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Haven Shepherd was born in Vietnam. When she was 16 months old, her biological parents, who had had an affair, detonated a bomb that was intended to be a family suicide. It instantly killed her biological parents but Haven survived. Haven was thrown 10 metres from the family hut and driven for 2 hours on a motorbike to the local hospital where they amputated both of her legs.

She hasn’t had surgery since!
4 months later, she was adopted into an American family and gained 6 siblings! Haven is now an elite paralympic athlete who competed at Tokyo 2020. She also happens to be a laugh and a half with some of the most outrageous ‘double decker’ date stories we’ve ever heard!
In the chat we speak about:

• What Haven remembers about her early years

• Whether she holds resent for her biological parents

• How strangers ask inappropriate questions about how Haven lost her legs

• How Haven’s parents initially weren’t going to be her parents and the serendipitous way they found each other

• Why swimming was the best option for her

• How parents should teach their kids about disability

You can find more from Haven's Instagram!

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Hey Lifers!
Britt has potentially found a new life... as a trad wife!
Either that or she's going off grid more often.
Laura has had a bit of a mishap spreading her beautiful grandparent's ashes.

How do you feel about sharing your kids online? Where is the line when it comes to kids being paid to create online content?
You might remember the horrible story of the mum, Ruby Franke, who was charged with 4 counts of child abuse earlier this year. There is a brand new film called 'Mormon Mom Gone Wrong' that came out on Oct 26 that details the story of the Franke family and their youtube account that had 2 million subscribers.
Shari Franke is now 21 years old and has shared her testimony in court about her experiences of abuse and family vlogging. She states that there is no such thing as a moral and ethical family vlogger.
We unpack these questions:

• Should children have a say in family vlogging content?

• What are the ethical implications of involving kids in content?

• Can you get informed consent from kids?

• How should kids be ‘compensated’ if they are making content that makes money?

• Does it matter if they make money? Does it change when it becomes a significant income source?
  
  

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It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.

Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!
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On the show:

• An honest conversation around the choice to have children
• Laurs Law - Getting to the bottom of the fight between Britt and Mitch
• Unbelievable coincidences
• How to build resilience in kids
• Bec Judd and her 8 year olds apple watch

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Hey Lifers

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions!

There is a lot of weird news in the world today... mostly the guy who chose to put 15 hard boiled eggs in his backside. Britt's partner Ben has had a hair makeover.
Did you 'plan' your hair look for your wedding in terms of colour/length etc? Did you opt for something that was your 'look' rather than going for a short term hair change?

Vibes for the week:

Keeshia: Sweet Bobby on Netflix
Britt: Instax camera
Laura: Fallen Angel Podcast

Then we jump into your questions!

DID WE DO THE RIGHT THING BY THE DRUNK HEN?
We just wrapped up a hen's night where the hen KO'd herself pretty early, before the festivities were finished - the MOH got her home safely (talking 7.30) and the rest of the party headed home. We'd already organised some entertainment, so instead of going out to where it'd been organised for, we made the call to stay in the hotel room and keep an eye on the hen, and enjoyed the entertainment (just the two of us). The groom found out and blew up - said we put the hen in danger, that it was unforgivable, and he doesn't want anything to do with either of us. Major drama! My question - Did we do the wrong thing? Is his blow up and subsequent major drama valid? Or were we fine to have a little fun while we still took care of our friend? It's created so much drama a week out from the wedding, is all the hatred warranted, or is he just being a complete dick?

I DON'T LIKE THEM CALLING HER GRANDMA
I have a new baby who is now 3 months old, and when I was pregnant my dad’s partner asked to be called Grandma which at the time I felt a bit put on the spot and was like ‘sure’. After thinking about it and chatting with my partner I am not sure how comfortable I am with her being “Grandma”. For context she has been with my dad since I was 18 which I think is relevant because I have never lived with her and she has had no hand in raising me and to be honest we have never had a great relationship. I feel like my mum and my partner's mum have done the hard yards to earn that title which she has not. I also don’t want to confuse my child for example if she is asking on Mother’s Day why “Grandma” doesn’t get a card or present and having to explain she is not actually her Grandma. So basically throughout the end of my pregnancy and having a new baby I never ended up having the convo and tbh I am a bit conflict avoidant. Over the weekend her and my dad met my partner’s parents who are visiting from Spain and she introduced herself as Grandma. So my question is… is it too late for me to have that conversation? I really don’t want her to be called Grandma or anything like that but have I let it go too long? Or how would you go about having the convo? Should I speak with my dad as he knows her better than me and would know the best way to address it?

CAN I TELL HIM TO NOT GO?
My partner of 3 years has been invited on a family overseas holiday by his ex-wife and their 2 young kids. The ex-wife is paying for his expenses as one of the kids really wants Dad to be there. The ex wife’s new partner is also joining them. This has left me feeling really uncomfortable and ultimately left out. Is it fair to ask my partner to not go because of how I feel or should I tell him he should go despite it making me feel uncomfortable and anxious.

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