In this episode, grief specialist Gary Roe discusses how survivors can manage feelings of guilt after the death of a loved one. Roe explores the difference between guilt and regret and offers methods for finding forgiveness and reducing emotional baggage.

Guilt vs. Regret

Roe explains that while often used interchangeably, guilt and regret are distinct emotions:

- Guilt is the feeling we experience when we knowingly do something wrong, usually related to ethical, moral, or legal reasons.
- Regret is the emotion we feel when looking back on past actions, realizing we could have handled situations differently.

Strategies for Managing Guilt and Regret

Roe shares several strategies for managing these difficult emotions:

1. Release these feelings through talking, writing, or creative expression

2. Seek support: Talk to someone who listens well and loves you[3].

3. Practice self-compassion: Remember that you're doing the best you can with the information you had at the time.

Reducing Emotional Baggage

To lighten the load of guilt and regret, Roe suggests:

- Accepting that you can't change the past: Focus on what you can control in the present.
- Practicing forgiveness: Both for yourself and others involved in the situation.
- Honoring the deceased: Find ways to celebrate their memory and continue their legacy.
- Seeking professional help: If guilt or regret persist, consider talking to a grief counselor or therapist.

You can visit Gary's website for free resources and contact information at www.garyroe.com.

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