"My sister in law has been hosting Thanksgiving at her house around lunch time for several years. We all make a couple dishes and show up. We prefer the early afternoon lunch time on Thanksgiving because my family goes to the deer camp 2 hours away after we eat.

We get a text from the sister in law that says, "I would like to have Thanksgiving this year at our house, but I want to take a vote. Would anyone be opposed to an afternoon meal, like 4/5? I know we usually do lunch but, lets call him Charlie, sleeps from 12-3 so he would miss it all. (fyi he turns 2 next month). But, I also know you go to deer camp."

My husband and I were both annoyed. Are you serious? A Nap? Not that she has to go to her in-laws for Thanksgiving, it's naptime. I would have rather her just said, this year we need to have it later in the day and never mention the nap. Why are we letting a toddler's nap time dictate our Thanksgiving plans? I have 2 older children of my own and I know how crucial a nap can be, but I would have never even thought to revolve my Thanksgiving plans, a HOLIDAY to remind you, or ask anyone else to revolve their plans around my toddler's nap time. You nap where you nap! Back in the day you bust a blanket out and make a pallet. Will this kid look back when he's a grown man and say, "Mom, remember when I was 2 and I missed Thanksgiving?" It sounds so ridiculous to me. Thanksgiving I think of family, togetherness, chaos, and lots and lots of naps. Let him nap in the middle of it or DON'T!

She knows what our vote is and it doesn't matter. She sent a text yesterday saying "Afternoon it is!" There is a part of me that doesn't want to to go. I think it's so rude of her, like her kid is more superior than we are. We discussed going to the camp earlier and having our own dinner down there. What would you do?"

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"I don’t even know where to begin. My husband and I are heavily involved in our local school system. Over the past two months, he has been spending a lot more time at my daughter’s choir practice. My suspicions led me to check his phone. I found flirty messages between him and the choir director. At this point, there is no physical cheating, it’s just nauseating cutesy messages. Here’s the kicker. She’s not just some random school employee, she’s the assistant principal’s wife. So now, every week I’m sitting at practice watching her lead the choir with my husband sneaking glances at her. I’m torn. On one hand, I want to expose them. The school deserves to know. On the other hand, if this scandal goes public, it could destroy the choir and the kids, break apart families, and make me look like the bad guy. Help me navigate this mess before I lose my mind. I told my sister and she said the kids come first. Do they or do I?"

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"My daughter-in-law is angering me. She sent an email to everyone in our family telling us not to buy gifts for the three grandchildren for Christmas. She says this year instead of getting gifts she wants each family member to make a donation to a charity in the name of one of the children. I love the idea, but also hate the kids won't be getting any gifts. They're young and have been waiting all year for Santa to come. I think my daughter-in-law is ruining Christmas. She's hard-headed and won't change her mind. I also think she's being selfish and doing this more for herself than the kids because they are too young to understand. Is this bad parenting?"

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