Want to learn how to lead with love instead of fear? In his interview with Adam Hill, former Air Force officer and speaker Patrick Yanke shares how focusing on virtues like forgiveness, gratitude, and humility can help you overcome struggles and lead others effectively.

Patrick draws on his experience in the military and faith to discuss how we can all practice "sacrificial leadership" by putting others first - even in difficult times. Don't miss this insightful conversation on rising above challenges through a servant's heart.

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:

• Where leadership begins and why we always have poor people

• How the question on authority brought him back to faith

• Why shame is a gift

• Understanding Christ-like leadership

• Our job is forgiveness.

• The servant leader CARES

Episode Highlights:

[08:53] Where leadership begins

Patrick quotes William Penn saying "No man is fit to command another who could not command himself." Where true leadership begins is being able to follow others doing things the right way.

[10:34] Why we will always have poor people

We will always have poor people so that we have opportunities to practice love. The poor give us a chance to choose to love others through helping and serving those in need.

[11:49] It was the question on authority that brought him back to faith.

Patrick nearly lost his faith during a family crisis but later found his way back to rebuilding his Catholic faith from the ground up, taking on the zealousness of a religious convert or "revert".

[17:46] Shame is a gift.

Patrick viewed the feeling of shame over sin as a gift because it helps one recognize their sin and turn back to God in repentance. When we turn around, there is no place where God is not with us.

[23:53] Our job is forgiveness.

Patrick discusses how anger turns bad as wrath, explaining God says vengeance is His, not ours to carry - our job is forgiveness.

[26:39] Love vs. fear: The heart of servant leadership

Patrick contrasts fear, which is selfish, and love, which is unselfish and about helping others complete the mission as a servant leader through ensuring the work gets done while also showing love to the people doing it.

[29:02] The servant leader CARES.

Patrick shares that his acronym for servant leadership is CARES, standing for Communication, Commitment, Responsibility, Evolution, and Service.

[33:00] Does love require sacrifice?

Yes, it does. Because in true love, you're giving up something of yourself for someone else.

[42:04] Without free will, there’s no love.

Patrick explains that without free will, there could be no love, because for there to be true love requires the ability to freely choose to love others.

[43:06] How to lead ourselves

Recognize emotions and associated virtues/vices. Discipline negative emotions through virtues. Pray daily prayers incorporating virtues. And humbly seek God's will over personal wants.

Resources Mentioned:

www.yankeacademy.com

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Did you know it's not possible to simply choose happiness after extreme trauma? In the latest Flow Over Fear podcast, Cheryl Hunter shares why recovery is actually a gradual climb, not a single leap.

After surviving a horrific kidnapping and rape, Cheryl found healing through small steps like tolerating difficult emotions for just moments longer each time. Discover her insights on the incremental process of overcoming the deepest darkness.

Cheryl also shares her harrowing yet hopeful story of abduction, recovery, and her mission to give voice to those overcoming adversity. Be inspired by her journey from victim to victor, made possible through embracing and sharing her experience.

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:

• How she got abducted and tortured as a teenager

• The captivity of the mind and the dangerous downward spiral of "why me?”

• Simply choosing happy doesn’t work after trauma

• Healing from trauma requires baby steps, not a single leap

• Be the author of your experience

• The power of sharing your story

• Own your fears and share them beautifully

Episode Highlights:

[04:26] Cheryl's terrifying teenage abduction in France

As a teenager, Cheryl was abducted after arriving in France seeking to become a model, and was tortured by her kidnappers before managing to escape for her life.

[14:16] Overcoming Cheryl’s captivity of the mind

Cheryl describes how after escaping her physical captivity, she felt captive to her own thoughts of being "ruined" if anyone discovered what happened, as well as thoughts of revenge against her kidnappers.

[18:53] The dangerous downward spiral of "why me?"

Cheryl's mother had taught her that the question - "why me?" - leads down a slippery slope into an even darker mental space.

[20:00] Simply choosing happy doesn’t work after trauma

Cheryl explains that when in the depths of hell after extreme trauma, it's too dense a transition to just choose happiness. Instead, take incremental baby steps.

[25:32] Healing from trauma requires baby steps, not a single leap

Cheryl explains that overcoming trauma is an incremental process of climbing rungs of a ladder, not an impossible leap from hell to happiness.

[30:41] Be the author of your experience

Cheryl reflects that embracing adversity allows seeing potential gifts by authoring the experience as something chosen despite all, involving speculation on possible upsides.

[35:36] The power of sharing your story

Cheryl realized not sharing her own trauma story was partly why it took so long to get her overcoming adversity message out, and had to learn to share it in a way that left people feeling triumphant, not concerned.

[44:02] Own your fears and share them beautifully

Fear is just another hurdle we can own as part of ourselves and share about beautifully

Resources Mentioned:

Cheryl’s TEDx Talk: Wabi Sabi: The Magnificence of Imperfection

www.CherylHunter.com

www.MagnifyYourMessage.com

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Ready to get unstuck in life? In this episode, Adam Hill sits down with life coach Jen Bee who shares how she overcame adversity through small, consistent actions. Learn how changing your identity with habits can lead to lasting success.

Hear Jen's powerful story of taking the leap from corporate to coaching, and discover the Five Pillars of Growth framework for sustainable wellness in body, mind and spirit. Tune in now for practical tools to make positive changes in your life.

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:

• Overcoming childhood struggles with identity and belonging

• It’s not about perfection, but about showing up

• Changing your identity through habits

• Starting with 1%

• Comparison is the thief of all joy

• The athlete mentality

• Jen’s five-pillar framework for sustainable progress

Episode Highlights:

[03:46] The impact of her father’s imprisonment on her life

Jen's journey began with her father incarcerated for 12 years in Cuba for opposing Fidel Castro, shaping her early life as the daughter of immigrants and a political prisoner with feelings of not fitting in.

[22:01] It’s not about perfection – but about showing up

Personal growth is not about perfection but rather about showing up through small, consistent actions over time.

[25:00] Start with 1%

Jen advocates starting with 1% to achieve growth, emphasizing small incremental steps can lead to big results over waiting for perfection.

[28:48] It starts with your why

Change starts internally with understanding your "why"and not by immediately taking external actions, as meaningful and sustainable change comes from within.

[33:58] Get unstuck from unsustainable cycles

People often get stuck in unsustainable cycles chasing after comparisons in areas like money, fame, social media likes or weight, rather than focusing on redefining success in a holistic, sustainable way.

[34:53] Adopt the athlete mentality

Taking on an "athlete mentality" can help you achieve wellness through habits matching who you want to be, focusing more on consistency than fleeting results.

[42:57] Jen’s five-pillar framework for sustainable progress

• Mental wellness: Focuses on being your own best friend through positive self-talk.

• Emotional wellness: Addressing baggage from past experiences through vulnerability and storytelling.

• Physical wellness: Prioritizing health and relationships over numbers, spending quality time with loved ones.

• Spiritual wellness: Cultivating inner peace and making room for quiet reflection.

• Financial wellness: Achieving financial health and stability as something everyone deserves.

Resources Mentioned:

www.growwithjenbee.com

Atomic Habits by James Clear

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