The journey of fatherhood is filled with moments of joy, growth, and sometimes, uncertainty. Today, on the Dad & Daughter Connection podcast we bring you Tim Blower of SexandSpace.com. As a father to a 9-year-old daughter and a 6-year-old son, Tim recounts the emotional changes and milestones he has observed in his daughter as she grows. He emphasizes the necessity of kindness and understanding, particularly as children navigate their formative years. Tim reflects on the early anxieties of fatherhood, balancing personal expectations with lifestyle changes, and the impactful experience of spending his daughter's first moments with her post-cesarean delivery. Exploring Sex and Space: Filling the Gaps in Sexual Education A significant portion of the conversation centers around Tim's initiative, "Sex and Space," inspired during the COVID lockdowns. This project addresses the deficiencies in traditional sex education and the cultural influences that often leave parents and children unprepared for conversations about sex. With a podcast and two insightful books—"The Organ Education Forgot" and "How to Talk With Your Kids About Porn"—Tim aims to foster open, non-threatening dialogues about sex. He discusses the alarming reality that children as young as 12 are exposed to pornography, stressing the importance of educating them to navigate explicit content safely and responsibly. Engaging Children in Conversations About Pornography Tim underscores the necessity of framing discussions about sex and pornography with an understanding of personal values and clear definitions of explicit content. He advises parents to initiate these conversations early, adapting the dialogue to be age-appropriate and interactive. Addressing sensitive topics like pornography involves explaining the unrealistic portrayals in porn, encouraging ethical viewing practices, and promoting comprehensive sex education for clarity and truth. Fatherhood Wisdom: Tim’s Reflections and Advice Towards the end of the episode, Tim participates in the "Fatherhood 5" segment, offering profound insights. He characterizes "Fatherhood" as "Love" and speaks candidly about his approach to conflicts with his daughter—focusing on patience and understanding. Inspired by his wife and grandfather, Tim reflects on the importance of self-kindness in fathering, noting it helps create an environment free from resentment. Conclusion: Resources and Gratitude Tim Blower's discussion extends an open invitation for fathers to educate themselves and engage deeply with their children's lives. For more information on his work, parents can explore sexandspace.com, which offers accessible resources and illustrative content designed to facilitate these critical conversations. The episode concludes with mutual gratitude between the hosts and Tim for sharing his valuable insights, ensuring fathers are better prepared for the challenges and joys of raising daughters. If you enjoyed this episode we ask you to take a moment to take our Dad and Daughter Connection Survey to let us know more about you as a dad. You can also sign up to get our newsletter to stay connected to our community and we will send items of interest to you to help you to be the dad that you want to be. Feel free to follow me on the following social media platforms: Facebook, Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, X. TRANSCRIPT Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:16]: Welcome back to The Dad & Daughter Connection podcast, where we bring you guests to be active participants in your daughters' lives, raising them to be strong, independent women. Really excited to have you back again this week. As always, every week, you and I are on a journey together. We are on a journey to be able to be those dads that we wanna be the best dads that we can be, to be able to be the dads that we want to be for our daughters and raising them to be those strong independent women that we want them to be as well. And as I talk about every week, we don't have to do this alone. And this podcast is here to help you on that journey to allow for you to be able to live, learn, and be able to hear other people's experiences to be able to learn from those experiences and add some tools to your own toolbox that will allow for you to be able to be that better father in the end. That's why every week I love being able to bring you different guests, different guests with different experiences that can help you to be able to think about things in different ways. And today we got another great guest with us today. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:18]: Tim Blower is with us today, and Tim is a father of 2. He's got a 9 year old daughter and a 6 year old son, and we're gonna be talking about his own journey as a father, but we're also going to be talking about some work that he's been doing over the last few years in a company called Sex and Space. And yes, it sounds like an interesting company. We're going to talk about Sex and Space, ...
