Discovering your unique confidence formula

“Successful people often exude confidence-it’s obvious they believe in themselves and what they are doing. It isn’t their success that makes them confident, however. The confidence was there first." Dr. Travis Bradberry

As a vocal specialist and charisma coach, the issue that comes up most for my clients is confidence. There is a belief that if only they had more confidence they would earn more money, be more successful, have better relationships and magically attain all their goals and dreams. My dear clients are often shocked when I tell them my beliefs about confidence. I believe that, like faith, we are born with as much confidence as we will ever have. The art of confidence is not to acquire more confidence but rather to uncover our gifts that are already there and express them with all our heart.

When we approach confidence in this way, we realize it is not all one thing. We can realistically appraise our strengths and challenges without feeling overwhelmed by ideas of “I am not good enough”. We discover that in order to do even the smallest things that are new to us we have to feel a certain level of confidence. The confidence is there first. Then we are able to learn, achieve and step into our greatest self and truly achieve our dreams and goals. We experience ourselves as lacking confidence when memories of failures and past mistakes take hold and rob us of the possibilities of the present moment. We literally can’t remember victories and feelings of confidence when that happens.

When I work with clients on confidence, I ask them to find memories of victory over fear and doubt in order to create victory stories for themselves. Looking for these events in our lives causes us to remember more and more memories of confident moments. I invite them to track what rituals, thoughts and actions enabled them to overcome their fears and doubts in those moments. Then I ask them to create a list of the things necessary for them to feel confident and commit to practicing them whenever they are going to start something new, learn something new or take inspired action.

What is your confidence formula? For an example of a confidence formula, check out Napoleon Hill’s. Remember, your unique confidence formula is a living breathing document that changes and grows as you do. Make it fun. Make it pretty. Commit it to memory and keep it somewhere you can see it often.

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Known to many as “The Magnetic Voice,” Monique McDonald is a Grammy-nominated, award-winning vocal specialist and certified Conscious Transformational Coach. Initially terrified to audition or speak publicly, Monique studied intensely with excellent coaches to cultivate her confidence. As a result, she celebrated with outstanding Opera and Master Class performances throughout Europe, Russia, Japan, and the US, including Carnegie Hall, NYC, and the Kennedy Center in Washington, DC. When Monique helps you unlock your natural charisma and your “Magnetic Voice,” you benefit from secrets learned in over twenty years through High Stakes Performance combined with her unique coaching style. Her passion is inspiring charismatic communication and mastery of the human voice to empower entrepreneurs, speakers, and leaders.

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