Dear White Women

By: Sara and Misasha
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  • Biracial co-hosts Sara & Misasha - two wickedly smart, funny, compassionate best friends - have very mixed-race children between them, and are personally invested in helping to uproot systemic racism. Weekly episodes include interviews of people whose stories you might not often listen to; deep dives into history, psychology, and current events to explain why we are where we are as a country; and actions that you take right now to make change in your spheres. We're not perfect, but we're real. Join us on this journey.
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  • 259: Making and Maintaining Friendships, with Dr. Marisa G. Franco

    259: Making and Maintaining Friendships, with Dr. Marisa G. Franco
    Nov 19 2024

    We’ve had a lot of focus on this show leading into Election 2024 about the state of the country and the deep divides that we’re seeing in society. We’re grateful to and for everyone who worked to ensure that democracy worked in early November. AND, given the election results, we know that these divides still exist and have the ability to grow even deeper.

    What can we do about that? One step that we can take right now is to examine how we talk to each other, to better connect. So today, we focus on the good stuff - building community, nurturing friendships, and coming together with a lot of meaning and joy.

    And given who we are, of course, we don’t just do it alone - we do it in partnership with a leading psychologist who specializes in developing friendships, showcased in her NYT bestselling book Platonic, and who - alongside us in our multi-racial identities, also has personal experience driving her desire to help more of us understand how to belong, and find those connections in the world.

    Listen for so many scientific frameworks about:

    • The importance of friendships - because so many of us make them less of a priority!

    • Three types of loneliness: intimate, relational, and collective

    • How adults make friends

    • Nurturing our existing friendships

    • What we need to consider when building relationships with those different than us

    Action items:

    • Reflect on what is truly meaningful and important in your life, and be intentional about making time for those things.

    • Consider evaluating your existing friendships and community based on factors like authenticity, energy exchange, and shared values.

    • Be brave and put in the effort to make new friends, even if it feels uncomfortable at first - i.e. get over our overt and covert avoidance!

    • Explore internal work to develop a stronger sense of self, which can help in tolerating and nurturing healthy relationships.

    About our guest:

    An enlightening psychologist, TED speaker, and New York Times bestselling author, Dr. Marisa G Franco is known for digesting and communicating science in ways that resonate deeply enough with people to change their lives. She works as a professor at The University of Maryland and authored the New York Times bestseller Platonic: How The Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends. She writes about friendship for Psychology Today and has been a featured connection expert for major publications like The New York Times, The Telegraph, and Vice. She speaks on belonging at corporations, government agencies, non-profits, and universities.

    For tips on friendship, you can follow her on Instagram (DrMarisaGFranco), or go to her website,www.DrMarisaGFranco.com, where you can take a quiz to assess your strengths and weaknesses as a friend & reach out for speaking engagements.
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    35 mins
  • 258: (Why We) Vote For All Of Us

    258: (Why We) Vote For All Of Us
    Nov 5 2024

    This is a short episode – about why we vote, and why we hold onto hope today and going forward – and it may be the episode that you need to hear today.

    If you’ve already voted: THANK YOU.

    If you haven’t voted yet, pause this and go do that.

    Spread the word. Please VOTE.
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    13 mins
  • 257: Abortion is About Women’s Health and Human Rights. Vote Like It.

    257: Abortion is About Women’s Health and Human Rights. Vote Like It.
    Oct 22 2024
    When we first recorded this episode, we were at the end of the Trump presidency, when we still had a legal right to abortion in this country. Roe v. Wade was still the law of the land, and women had access to safe abortion options in many states. Now, on the eve of the 2024 Presidential elections, abortion is on the ballot in a post-Dobbs world, where we have women dying because they cannot get legal abortions, and there’s a whole bunch of lawmakers (mostly White dudes) who want to tell women what they can and cannot do with their own bodies. Oh, and don’t be fooled by Melania’s sudden desire to be pro-choice: there’s only one Presidential candidate who cares about women’s health and human rights (of which abortion is one), and her name doesn’t end with Trump. So, take this as your reminder to vote for the candidate who cares about women - not about sexually assaulting them, but about their healthcare, their agency, and their bodies. And also, hopefully, as you listen to this re-release, you find that there are so many people out there fighting for women’s health care and reproductive justice, just like If/When/How and Mariko Miki are, and that there is a real community in this. That part is hope personified. And that is what we need to lean into now as well. So vote. And hold onto that hope. Have questions, comments, or concerns? Email us at hello@dearwhitewomen.com. What to listen for: What is a self-managed abortion anyway? What are some of the issues when it comes to criminalizing reproductive decision making? Sign a petition here. How we need to destigmatize abortion and decriminalize women’s reproductive lives. The groundbreaking work If/When/How is doing in spearheading a legal defense fund for reproductive justice. Resources people can use, including: a Reproductive Legal Helpline for anybody thinking about a self-managed abortion, and the latest state-by-state information on what’s happening in the legal landscape of women’s reproductive rights (with a quick escape button if you need to close the browser immediately). For this episode, we spoke with Mariko Miki, who is the Managing Director and General Counsel at If/When/How: Lawyering for Reproductive Justice, where she oversees the organization’s programs, people, and policies. Joining If/When/How in 2010, Mariko designed, launched, and directed the Reproductive Justice Fellowship Program, now in its 10th year, and worked to expand reproductive rights and justice course offerings in legal academia. Mariko has served on the Advisory Board of TEACH (Training in Early Abortion for Comprehensive Healthcare) and the Board of Directors for Exhale Pro-Voice, and was a 2019 Rockwood Leadership Reproductive Health, Rights, and Justice Fellow. Mariko graduated from Brown University and Harvard Law School. Relevant episodes: Ep. 190: Why abortion became political Ep. 92: Real talk about abortions, with Dr. Jenn Ep. 198: Everything adoption – and we mean EVERYTHING – with Patrick Armstrong Ep. 46: Our conversation with abortion provider Dr Jenn. Ep. 47: The bridge between reproductive rights and health care. Ep. 13: Racial disparities in the U.S. healthcare system when it comes to Black moms. Like what you hear? Support us through Patreon! Don’t miss another episode and subscribe to the podcast! Follow us on Instagram – and don’t miss our new anti-racism action calendar by joining our email list.
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    46 mins

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