This episode might make you ruffle your feathers. If it does, it means I'm hitting a nerve that needs to be hit.

Here's what I'm NOT going to do:

• Pretend that your sticker charts are helping
• Act like time-outs are teaching life lessons
• Tell you that you just need the "right" punishment system

Here's what I AM going to do:

Call out the fact that we've been duped. Manipulated. Sold a lie by two dudes in lab coats who literally thought your child's brain works the same as a pigeon's.

I'm not even kidding. BF Skinner actually said: "Give me a child and I'll shape him into anything."

Your child. A blank slate. Just waiting to be programmed with the right combination of rewards and punishments.

Feeling sick yet? You should be.

I used to be you. Consequence Queen. Time-out Tyrant. The mom who had read all the books and had all the systems.

And then one day, it hits me:

I'm using the EXACT SAME METHODS on my kids that I use on my poodle.

Sit = treat.
Come = treat.
Stop barking = treat.

Clean room = sticker.
Do homework = screen time.
Stop fighting = avoid punishment.

The kicker? My dog was better trained than my kids.

At least she came when I called.

💣 Here's what they don't want you to know:

Those parenting "experts" quoting studies? They're quoting studies done on RATS. On PIGEONS.

They took animals with tiny prefrontal cortexes, trapped them in boxes, and said "Look! Behavior modification works!"

Then they turned to human children, with their complex emotions, their need for connection, their sophisticated reasoning abilities and said "Same thing!"

You know that moment, when you KNOW you shouldn't lose it, but you do anyway? It's because your nervous system is screaming "THIS ISN'T WORKING" so you keep trying to apply pigeon training to a human child.

You're not failing. The behavior mod system is failing you.

Every time you say, "If you don't clean your room, you can't go to your friend's house," you're literally saying:

"I don't believe you have any internal motivation to be a good human, so I have to manipulate you with external controls."

Every. Single. Time.

Still think consequences are teaching responsibility?

Stop asking: "How do I get my kid to _____?" Start asking: "What is my kid trying to tell me?"

Stop thinking: "They know better" Start thinking: "If they could do better, they would"

Stop fixing behavior. Start understanding humans.

⚡ Listen if:

• You've ever thought, "there has to be a better way"
• You're tired of feeling like a prison warden in your own home
• You've noticed consequences work... until they don't
• You want to raise kids who do the right thing even when no one's watching
• You're ready to stop parenting like it's 1952

🚫 Don't listen if:

• You think your kids are manipulating you
• You believe children are inherently selfish and need to be "trained"
• You're looking for a quick fix
• You're not ready to look at your own triggers
• You think connection is "soft" parenting

Ready to stop training and start connecting? Hit play.

But fair warning: You can't unknow what you're about to learn.

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Welcome back to Andee Reads Between the Lines—the series where I read my book Connect Method Parenting out loud and pause to riff, reflect, and spill the real-time truths you won’t find on the printed page.

In this episode, we're kicking off Part One of the book—and we’re not easing in. We're diving headfirst into the deep end of tradition, behavioralism, and the parenting frameworks we think are helping us... but actually aren't.

Here's what's inside:

• 🎯 Why traditional parenting is more about control than connection—and why it’s time to question it
• 🧠 What behavioralism is (spoiler: it's everywhere), and why it’s keeping us stuck
• 🌊 The small boat/ocean metaphor you didn’t know your nervous system needed
• ✨ Four reflection questions that’ll change how you see your child—and yourself
• ❤️ Why your kids need unconditional love most when they mess up the worst

This episode is part pep talk, part paradigm shift, and full-on permission slip to let go of the parenting “rules” that never actually worked for your family in the first place.

This isn’t just a read-aloud. It’s a rebellion in real time. 💥

📌 Links & Resources:

• 💻 Watch this episode on YouTube: Connect Method Parenting Channel
• 🚀 Join the Pivot Parenting Bootcamp (the 8-week journey to becoming unsinkable): More Info
• 📚 Missed Part 1? Go back to Ep #166 to catch the kickoff
• 🧭 Want to go deeper? Check out my next workshop here

Come for the read-aloud. Stay for the "holy crap moments." 💛

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Okay friends, confession time: I'm sitting here in my black hoodie, glasses on, looking like I just rolled out of bed (because let's be real, I kinda did), and I'm about to do something that might be brilliant or might be totally chaotic.

Plot twist: I'm rereading my entire book on the podcast and calling it the I Andee Reads Between The Lines Series.

Like, live. With all my current thoughts. And possibly some tangents about how I'm thinking about CMP right now.

Here's What Went Down:

Started with that gorgeous John Roedel poem that makes me cry every. single. time.

Then I dove into reading my book's intro and had to pause because my 17-year-old daughter gave me a card last night that said "I know I can talk to you about anything and you'll always listen" and NOW I'M CRYING AGAIN.

(Sorry, I'll pull myself together. Maybe. Probably not.)

The Big Takeaways:

Corrective parenting = Playing slots in Vegas (you might win occasionally but you're definitely losing overall)

Connect Method Parenting = Smart pension fund investment (boring metaphor but CONSISTENT GROWTH, baby!)

You already have everything you need inside you (I'm not being woo-woo, I promise, I just know you're AMAZING!!!!)

What's Coming Next:

• Part 1: Get Ready to Go Against Tradition (aka why everything you learned about parenting might be backwards)
• Part 2: Understanding Your Own Behavior (spoiler: it's not actually about the kids 🤯)
• Part 3: How to Connect Consistently (even when you want to hide in the pantry with emergency chocolate)

Random Thoughts That Happened:

• Should I do this live with Q&A? (terrifying but maybe?)
• My hoodie is really cozy
• John Roedel is basically a genius and we should all buy his pink book

Your Mission (Should You Choose to Accept It):

Come along for this wild ride where I re-read my own book and probably say things like "wait, I wrote that?" and "ooh, I was onto something!"

Subscribe, share with that friend who texts you at midnight about their toddler's latest shenanigans, and remember: we're all just trying to raise humans without completely losing our minds.


Find the episode wherever you get your podcasts, and apparently now on YouTube where I'll be fumbling with technology like it's 1999.

🔗 Links Mentioned:

• Grab a copy of John Roedel’s poem collection: Remedy (available on Amazon)
• Subscribe on YouTube: @ConnectMethodParenting
• Learn more about CMP workshops & programs: https://connectmethodparenting.com

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Hey hey, friends! It’s Andee, and today’s episode is a little different—think of it like a sneak peek, a love note, and a call to reimagine how you parent—all wrapped into one.

After a 5-hour IKEA run...someone please tell me why that place is both magical and exhausting. I decided to release this episode instead of what I had originally planned. I felt a tug to share this 10-minute excerpt from the Listening Lab workshop I taught earlier this week.

Why? Because the feedback I got after teaching it made me stop in my tracks. This was a deep dive into the real, research-backed heart of Connect Method Parenting - attachment theory, emotional maturity, and how to lead with strength and softness.

In this little preview, you’ll hear why:

• Togetherness is more essential than food and water (for real—it’s neuroscience, not fluff),
• Why you’re a gardener, not a sculptor (so much freedom here!), and
• What it really means to choose closeness in the chaos (even when they’re tantrum-ing at max volume).

If you’ve ever wondered what’s underneath the Connect Method Parenting approach—or why your child’s behavior is more about connection than correction—this is your sign to listen in.

And if this snippet resonates, the full workshop is packed with even more goodness. You can grab it here: https://cmp.works/listen

Wishing you sunshine, secure attachment, and at least one moment of peace today. You’ve got this, and I’m cheering you on.

xo, Andee

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Let’s be real for a second…

Tantrums are loud.
Messy.
Embarrassing.
And if you’re anything like me, they’ve probably made you question your entire parenting strategy more than once.

But what if a meltdown isn’t something to “fix” or “stop”?
What if it’s actually your child’s nervous system waving a white flag saying,
“This is too much—I need help.”

In this episode, I’m breaking down the real reason behind tantrums, emotional outbursts, and “off-track” behavior—and how to show up with calm, confidence, and connection (instead of panic, bribes, or shame).

Here’s what we’ll cover:

• Why your child’s meltdown is NOT a parenting failure (yours or theirs)
• What’s actually happening in your child’s brain and body during a tantrum
• How to respond without rushing in to fix, stop, or distract
• Why frustration is a necessary part of emotional development
• A grocery store tantrum story that will make you feel instantly less alone 🙃
• What science tells us about the power of crying (yep, even the chemistry of tears)
• How to help your child go from “mad” to “sad”—and then back to calm

By the end of this episode, you’ll feel more grounded, more compassionate, and way more confident in your ability to support your child through the storm without losing yourself in it.

This isn’t about stopping meltdowns.
It’s about learning what to do when they come—because they will.

And now, you’ll be ready.

See you inside,
Andee

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Hey hey!!!

Let’s rip the Band-Aid off: you’re not exhausted because you’re doing it wrong. You’re exhausted because you’ve been sold a lie.

A big one.

In this episode, we’re going all in on the hidden belief that keeps moms stuck in burnout:

👉 “Once I fix the problem, I’ll finally feel better.”

You know the one.
“If the house would just stay clean…”
“If bedtime didn’t take an hour…”
“If my kids would stop fighting…”
Then you could finally exhale.

But here’s the truth: your life was never meant to be problem-free.

We dive into:

• The reason you're actually tired (hint: it's not just your kids)
• Why trying to “arrive” at peace is making everything harder
• How to stop resisting emotional discomfort and start understanding it
• A step-by-step breakdown of the STEAR model for emotional awareness
• My very real story about getting completely triggered over... grass (yes, grass)
• The shift that happens when you stop trying to fix your life and start living it

This episode is part pep talk, part truth serum, and part workshop, packed with journal prompts to help you untangle the exhaustion at its root.

If you’ve ever thought, “Why am I still feeling this way when I’m trying so hard?”
This one’s for you.

You’re not failing. You’re just human. And that’s not only okay, it’s beautiful.

Let’s dig in.

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Your kids have selective hearing, right? Like, they can hear a candy wrapper from three rooms away but somehow can't hear "please clean your room" when you're standing RIGHT THERE?

Here's the thing nobody's telling you: The reason your kids won't listen has NOTHING to do with your volume, your consequences, or that fancy reward chart you spent 3 hours making on Pinterest.

(I see you, crafty parent. I've been there. Mine had glitter. SO much glitter.)

The real reason? Brace yourself...

They don't feel heard. By YOU.

I KNOW. I KNOW. Your brain just went "But Andee, I'M the one talking to a brick wall here!"

Stay with me, this is where it gets good.

In this game-changing episode, I'm spilling ALL the tea about:

• Why that mom who came to me with a grunting 14-year-old is now getting hour-long heart-to-hearts (no, really!)
• The mortifying moment my kid said "Mom, I just need you to listen" and changed EVERYTHING
• The backwards solution that sounds bananas but actually works (science says so!)
• How I went from Lecture Queen to Actually-My-Kids-Tell-Me-Stuff Mom

But here's the kicker...

When YOU master listening first? Your kids start WANTING to hear what you have to say. Like, voluntarily. Without bribes. Without threats. Without you turning into Scary Mommy Voice™. Wild, right?

Quick story time: Remember when I told you about interrupting my kid after 18 seconds? (Eighteen! Seconds! The researchers weren't wrong, y'all.) Well, after implementing what I'm teaching in The Listening Lab, that same kid - now an adult, tells me EVERYTHING. The good, the bad, the "Mom, don't freak out but..."

And I don't freak out. Because I learned The Thing.

This workshop is your jam if:

• You've said "How many times do I have to tell you?!" in the last 24 hours
• Your kids' eyes glaze over the second you open your mouth
• You're SO over being the Nagging Parent™
• You're ready to try something that sounds backwards but actually works

What you're getting:

• One simple tool (just ONE! Because who has brain space for 47 steps?)
• 90 minutes that'll change how you show up forever
• My "Three L Method"
• The secret to becoming the parent your kid WANTS to talk to

The deets: 📅 Live workshop on Zoom (or catch the replay if bedtime wins) 💰 Just $7 (less than that fancy coffee you need because your kids won't listen) 📚 Digital workbook included (no glitter required) 🎯 Register at: https://cmp.works/listen

Look, I could keep talking about the research and the neuroscience and the attachment theory (and I do touch on it because #sciencenerd), but here's what you really need to know:

Your kids WANT to listen to you. They WANT that connection. They just need to feel heard first.

Backwards? Maybe. Effective? Absolutely. Worth 90 minutes of your time? You tell me - but that parent with the grunting teenager sure thinks so.

Come join me. Let's revolutionize your home one listening session at a time.

xo, Andee

PS - Yes, this works on spicy kids too. Especially spicy kids. Trust me on this one.

PPS - Still skeptical? Good. Bring that energy. I love a good challenge. See you there! 💕

PPPS - Did I mention it's only $7? Because seriously. Skip one overpriced latte and change your entire parent-child dynamic. Best ROI ever.

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You know those moments when your kids are going at it—screaming, grabbing, storming off—and you’re standing there thinking, “WHAT is even happening right now?”

Been there. More times than I can count.

In today’s episode, we’re talking all about sibling rivalry, emotional outbursts, and how to respond in a way that actually helps—not just in the moment, but long-term. I’m breaking it down into three parts:

• The Foundation: Why connection is the real cure for conflict—and how sadness (yes, even those bedtime tears) is a sign that things are actually working.
• In the Moment: What to do when kids are fighting, melting down, or just generally acting like small emotional tornadoes. (Spoiler: Teaching a lesson mid-meltdown doesn’t work. And it’s okay. There’s a better way.)
• After the Storm: How to revisit things after the emotions have settled and help your child grow their emotional muscles in ways that stick.

I’ll share stories from my own family (yes, including the time my kid knocked over the baby in a car seat 😳), client experiences, and simple tools you can use right away.

This one’s for you if you’ve ever said:

• “I can’t even leave the room without them fighting.”
• “They just won’t stop hitting each other.”
• “These tears every night are exhausting.”

We’re flipping the script today, my friend. Big feelings aren’t the enemy—they’re the beginning of healing. 💛

Grab a cozy drink, take a deep breath, and come sit with me. We’re doing the work that really matters.

Love,
Andee

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