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Narrated by:
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Barbara Rosenblat
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By:
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Deborah Tannen
About this listen
Deborah Tannen's number-one best seller revolutionized the way men and women talk - and listen - to each other - at home, at work, and wherever the communication gap between the sexes can lead to troublesome misunderstandings. The problem dates back to childhood, when boys and girls learn to use language in distinctly different ways; years later, their adult efforts to talk often place them at cross purposes - even when both are sincerely trying to communicate. Dr. Tannen illustrates how the best intentions can go painfully awry between spouses, family members, co-workers and friends. With You Just Don't Understand, you'll recognize yourself and your own efforts to be understood - and gain valuable insight to help you communicate better than ever before.
©2013 Deborah Tannen (P)2013 Simon & Schuster AudioListeners also enjoyed...
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- Savannah
- 01-14-18
This book is a gold mine
Barbara Rosenblat did the best reading of all the maybe 25ish books I’ve listened to. That was almost a reason in itself to listen to this book.
The content is a gold mine.
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- Meg
- 05-08-23
A must read for everyone
This book is incredibly important, and all people should read it. I saw in the reviews that some men didn’t like it, but they should really take note because everything in it is completely true. I kept having aha moments when I realized why men in my life do, and say the things that they do.
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- Chad
- 02-16-20
Great work on male-female communication difference
"Nonviolent Communication" is the book I recommend most, and this ties in with it beautifully, but focusing on differences in the communication styles between men and women. It's fascinating to learn about how humans work, such as how women's communication style changes as soon as there are any men in the room, but men use one communication style whether or not women are present. It's also interesting to see the large communication style differences between the sexes from toddlerhood on.
This book was helpful to me almost immediately. A female friend reached out to me to express a fear, and I strove to reassure her by logically explaining why her fear was unrealistic. The book contains a very similar example, and when I remembered it I realized it probably sounded like I was invalidating her fear and telling her that she was foolish to think that way. I tried to make up for my error, to empathize and show that I understood why it was scary.
That's just one example. Much of this book is just "hm, that's interesting" but there's a great deal that's practical and can be used immediately in conversation, or will just change how you approach some interpersonal situations differently. Highly recommended. This is the sort of material I would love to see students taught and trained in before they ever graduate high school.
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- J R Cavanaugh
- 01-30-22
Mind blown! GREAT BOOK
This book explains why a strawberry candy tastes “weird” if it is blue, and “good” if it is red. Read this book if sociological expectations for communications is a topic that interests you.
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- pebblesinwater
- 02-18-23
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Another great book by Ms Tannen! I wish everyone would read this! Non-judgmental in approach, it opened my eyes to so many conversations that I have unknowingly misunderstood.
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- Constant Reader
- 01-30-24
Overall very good
This book seriously needs a complete, rewrite and update
Many of her examples, and some of her means of analysis, feel like they come from decades to go, and really have been supplanted by newer perspectives
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- Amazon Customer
- 07-19-22
This will change your life
Everyone should read or study Deborah Tannen. This is wonderful and insightful. The reading itself was clear and well paced, engaging and quiet enjoyable on the ear.
I also recommend checking out Tannen’s genius classic “That’s Not What I Meant” too… it’s the social Bible we all need to understand, communicate and excel even in the most confusing exchanges! It provides the teachings and tools to help strengthen self awareness and clarity in all of our different interpersonal relationships and areas of life. Don’t think twice, like all Deborah Tannen’s work - this is a diamond.
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- GinRyu42
- 03-17-22
So helpful!
This book has been astronomically helpful for me to understand the mechanics behind conversation and why my strategies for conversational inclusion often fell flat. I can better appreciate the men in my life 'cause I understand their conversational style as a difference instead of a negative aspect of their character.
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- Terese
- 12-23-16
Long on explanation,short on application.
Good research. Prefer more application of insights. Author took too long to make a point.
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- Marty Denholm
- 04-24-18
I don't give 5 stars lightly
this is one of those books that is life changing. it explained me in so many ways and also interactions I have had with others. Tthank you Jessica for sending it my way.
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