Why We Love the Way We Do

By: Preeti Shenoy

Narrated by: Bhavnisha Parmar

Is it possible to tell if it is love or lust? How important is sex in a relationship? Why do break-ups hurt so much? How often should you message a person you fancy? How do you tell if someone is too young or too old for you?

When it comes to relationships, these are the questions that most of us ponder. No matter how young or old we are, we are all looking for ways to make our relationships better. The best way to do that is to understand what makes us behave the way we do.

Why We Love the Way We Do is a collection of essays on relationships based on Preeti Shenoy's hugely popular columns in a national daily, in which the bestselling novelist discusses some of those issues and questions that people in relationships, or those hoping to be in one, face. The topics range from those particular to our modern, technology-filled world - how to move from an online relationship to a real-life one, how to find and keep love online, whether casual sex is worth the effort - to those immortal issues such as how men and women communicate differently, how to deal with a broken heart and how jealousy ruins a relationship.

Filled with wonderful insights, sharp observations, humour and real-life examples, and written in her trademark lucid style, Preeti Shenoy brings to this book a perceptiveness about love and friendship that has made her the country's highest-selling woman writer.

©2015 Preeti Shenoy (P)2017 Audible, Inc.

Good, but suffers from its limited perspective

This book is written from the perspective of an upper middle clas person from India, and how they see the world. This is not a criticism, but is useful in assessing the details of the book, as it claims to represent a broad segment of society, which is not quite accurate. It misses out on the individualism, or isolation of some western people that grow up feeling somewhat lonely, as this is not a common occurrence in extended family oriented India, Also gender roles in India are different from other parts of the world, so a young person growing up in another country may have a different perspective than whats presented here. Even within India, the author has a different perspective, as she grew up in a somewhat educated and financially stable family , where traditions and roles are established. A large portion of India is not like this, so the idea of young people getting married and setting up a house is not normal, and parents and extended families often live in the same room. Tradition and rules are often quite different from established ideology and often necessity trumps tradition. Its an interesting perspective, but just one of many, so see it as a part, and not the whole.