'Til Stress Do Us Part

How to Heal the #1 Issue in Our Relationships

By: Elizabeth Earnshaw LMFT CGT

Narrated by: Elizabeth Earnshaw LMFT CGT

What if the problem isn’t your partner—it’s stress? This relatable and empowering guide offers indispensable tools to stress-proof your relationship.

“Full of clear strategies for overcoming the overwhelm. A must-read!”—Eve Rodsky, New York Times bestselling author of Fair Play

Every week, couples come into Elizabeth Earnshaw’s therapy room claiming their relationship issues are stressing them out. “The reality is just the opposite,” she says. “The unprecedented collective stress we all face today is the cause of many relationship challenges couples are experiencing.” With ’Til Stress Do Us Part, this trusted expert shares the tools you need to protect yourself and your relationship from distress—and restore harmony, understanding, and love.

Beginning with an overview of many kinds of stress we face—from acute to chronic stress and even positive stress—Earnshaw uses client stories and personal experiences to reveal the visible and invisible strains on ourselves and our relationships. With warmth and humor, she shares research-backed practices to help you detect signs of overwhelm and take proactive measures to protect, refresh, and heal yourselves. You’ll discover journaling prompts, body-based exercises, scripts, boundary-setting guidelines and more for letting go of pressures and restoring intimacy.

Over the course of the book, you’ll learn how to:

• Set effective boundaries

• Self-soothe and self-regulate when life gets rough

• Take responsibility for what makes you happy

• Communicate with compassion rather than resentment

• Identify and cope with what’s in your control… and what’s not

• Reduce conflict and find more connection in your relationship

“When we become partners, we commit to taking on life’s troubles together,” says Earnshaw. Here is an essential resource for helping you return your relationship to what it should be—a refuge from stress in a turbulent and demanding world in which we always have each other’s backs.

©2024 Elizabeth Earnshaw (P)2024 Sounds True

Critic reviews

“’Til Stress Do Us Part, an insightful book on managing stress within relationships, is a game-changer! It provides practical solutions with a positive approach, making it an invaluable resource for couples navigating life's challenges. It is a must-read for anyone seeking a healthier and happier relationship.”—Nedra Glover Tawwab, MSW, LCSW, New York Times bestselling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace and Drama Free

“Vulnerable, practical and insightful,’Til Stress Do Us Part is the essential guide for how to deal with the most pressing issue in our relationships. Liz Earnshaw gives readers an inside look at how stress and the mental load negatively impact our relationships using her own life as an example, along with those of other couples. I couldn't put this book down and I cannot wait to recommend it to all my clients.”—Amanda White, LPC, author of Not Drinking Tonight

“Liz Earnshaw’s latest book, ’Til Stress Do Us Part, is a ground-breaking exploration of the impact of stress on relationships. Liz’s compassion and vulnerability make this book a must-read for all of us who are looking to protect our intimate partnerships from a very real threat. I will be recommending this book to clients and students for many years to come.”—Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, Northwestern University, author of Love Every Day, and host of the podcast Reimagining Love

Hopeful again! finally, an approachable take on stress management!

I really enjoyed this book. I enjoyed it so much I finish listening in just one day. I took several notes on different approaches to stress in my life and how it bleeds into my relationship. We all know we have stress, but we are rarely taught the skills to navigate stress and the mental load in our most important relationships. I highly recommend this book to anyone who feels like they have too much on their plate and are struggling to communicate with their loved one. I am going to try to get my husband to read this as well.

Golden for couples with children

I recommend this book to the couples I work with who need help managing issues inside and outside the relationship. Sometimes, people become upset at their partner to control how they experience stress. This book will help you look inward.