Sometimes I Cry in the Shower: A Grieving Father's Journey to Wholeness and Healing

By: R. Glenn Kelly

Narrated by: R. Glenn Kelly

You are here because you know, somewhere inside, it is truly time to begin the journey forward.

You are a man who has experienced the profound loss of someone you love dearly. Feeling despondent? Lost? It could not be more understandable. After all, you had a blueprint for your future mentally and emotionally drawn out ahead of you, which included that someone you love so dearly. That was the future you had planned on...laid your dreams on!

Then, suddenly, your blueprint was brutally ripped away, and you were left not only anguishing for that one you lost but also wondering, “Where do I go from here?”

As a man, do you feel that instinctive urge to keep all those emotions within grief stuffed deeply inside, where no one will think you unmanly and weak? Do you feel it is wrong to have an urge to seek out those tasks and activities that allow you to organize, systemize, and put yourself in control of something after the loss? Anything?

These are not wrong responses. Instead, they are natural reaction of who you are. However, they can be incredibly unhealthy and destructive if not acknowledged, understood, and addressed.

Women, do you want to understand your man? If the two of you sadly lost a child, do you think he loved that precious gift less because he does not openly cry as often as you, or seemingly not at all? Do you understand why, at times, he puts his own grief aside to care for others or crawl off to contemplatively spend time alone?

Men grieve and hurt as deeply as women, yet men and women are programmed through both nature and nurture to do so in a different manner.

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